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Completely agree, when you get a proposal and rishta is done or wateva you obviously got to get to know the person and parents are usually trusting enough, so how is it any different.
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thats done, but u wouldnt exactly call it dating
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Anyway best of luck to those that say no, because when kids grow up, they usually end up doing the opposite of what you tell em not to do
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against my parents value againts my values against my religion even a guy looking at you is causing eye prostitution and dating is very worse. being a stout muslim i wont let my kids date either if its a boy or a girl and my mother says that :larkiyon ki izzat bohat nazak hoti hai: and i will keep this in mind forever and ever inshallah and wont let my kids do the mistakes i did or wont let them stray from the path of rightousness A_M_E_E_N!!
Ha ha never heard of that before (eye prostitution), anyway aisha that is really strange that you think that, because you said so yourself in one of your posts that I talk to rizu (cuzon/fiance) and other guy cuzzons so they are na mehrams why do you allow them to cause eye prostitution or look at you. Have you never been alone in a room with them, or been out with them, how is it any different to talking to a guy on a date. Date=not sex.
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Its quite a common term :o and yes it does exist
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Eye prostitution? And what exactly would that be? Because prostitution refers to the selling of the body and providing sexual services in lieu of money, simply looking at a person doesn’t include you in that profession. I am seriously amazed and disgusted by the narrow-mindedness of people. Not directed at you Bulbuli but to those that use this term.. its really a shame:no:
I am surprised to learn that people still think within such a limited frame of mind
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Eye prostitution, he he, wat the hell is that?
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its a really lame way of indirectly calling people who date prostitutes:mad:
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Eye prostitution.... thinking
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in ISLAM...dating is prohibited.....it's that simple!
you are asking to change something that is CLEARLY prohibited in Islam....the intermingling of the sexes....... without a na-mehrem present. I'm sorry but.....Islam can not be changed for your convenience.
If you choose to do so....thats up 2 u....but to say that you dont understand why people are against it....is quite an ignorant (if ur muslim) comment to make in my opinion.
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It's not about changing the Quran it's about changing perspectives... times have changed and the sooner people become more accepting of it and disregard it as something taboo, the less inclined these kids are of going out and doing these things simply out of curiosity and rebellion.
Ever notice when a Pakistani kid/teen goes "astray" they're much worse than the worse Americans? It's human nature to be enticed into forbidden territory rather than clean living.
If you tell kids they can date at a set age, they are much more likely to abstain from it til you give them permission and by then they would probably already be as devout as you guys want them to be, therefore they wouldnt do it.
Worked in my family. My dad told us we could date, but never put any restriction on age, till my sister had problems with her boyfriend. Thats when he said 16/17 is the right age for us to make an informed decision in regards to our significant other. Me and my brothers have never had bfs/gfs because it is nothing exciting to us, we're allowed to, but its nothing exhilirating. Not to say that I haven't gone on "dates" with guys, where we go chill, catch a movie, go to the mall, etc. Good clean fun, no harm in that.
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you are asking to change something that is CLEARLY prohibited in Islam....the intermingling of the sexes....... without a na-mehrem present. I'm sorry but.....Islam can not be changed for your convenience.
If you choose to do so....thats up 2 u....but to say that you dont understand why people are against it....is quite an ignorant (if ur muslim) comment to make in my opinion.
we mix and mingle with ne mehrams all the time, at school for example. now this is not compulsory you choose to study further etc, is this not because it's convenient for you when you could go to an all girls or all boys school.
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so many "parsa" people here who i beleive must have dated themselves and saying hell nooo, I wouldnt let my kids date.
we meet and see many people in our life, some of them we make friends and few we do like to as life partner. there is nothing wrong to know them more, nothing wrong to propose them.
or just go back to cages, cause we used to live like that centeries ago. arranged marriages are not super duper solution to doomed marriages. dating is not SEX as percieved by many here. keep your dirty thoughts away!
If meeting a potential partner is not a date, then meeting a potential partner chosen by some one is also not a date!
personaly i beleive if someone love someone, sex would be very very remote thing in someone minds. surely some people keep that in mind if they are just pasing time and playing.
Evilmind gave very good thoughts here. well done, same goes for sabriya!
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As a (future)parent, I think its my responsibility to guide my children to what i think is right and wrong, but i can not live thier life for them. Therefore when they r old enuff, they take responsibility 4 themselves, make their own choices, and stand themselves responsible.
For all of you who would not allow dating at all no way in hell never out of the question, I can say with guarantee that more than 90% of you would have kids dating behind ur backs and feeling guilty. You failed as parents.
This friend of mine comes frm a very conservative family, no TV, no Co-Ed, no telephone etc etc, while my parents r the type i mentioned id like to be. So this guy ws going to ****khana, and that too on eid day! (pardon the term). So i went along with him, just out of curiosity to see what kinda of morons do *that and on EID too. Long story cut short is, he's a regular customer because of his frustration with his overly-conservative family and I didnt get invloved in any pre-marital dope cause I was allowed to excersie my judgement freely.
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/\ Pakap, I ll give you a proper advice later on :D Because you are very wrong I believe :)
hell no, I ll spank their *sses off if I they ever pull stunt like that on me :o
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^paa jee billkul theek kiyai tussaan!!!
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tank you praaji tank you,
and after the spanking I would send them back to pakistan to my very own pind :D
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i was thinkg the same…lol…wat bout sending them to madrassa jahaan par lambi daal milai khanai ko:dixsi: …