For those that are married: do you allow your children to date (if they are old enough)? And if they’re still young, would you allow them to date in the future?
The same question goes for unmarried people here: in the future if you had children, would you allow them to date? Why or why not? Those that say no.. what is the reason? Bad personal experiences? Afraid of what people will say? Or just because you want to follow family traditions?
Those that say yes, what are your reasons?
I’m asking because my aunt is expecting and she was just discussing this with her husband and they had a huge fight. She’s against it, he’s for it…
I personally think I would allow my children to date, but I would tell them beforehand of the pros and cons just so they can judge for themselves whether they want an arranged marriage or a love marriage.
Edit: And would it depend on whether its a girl or a boy?
I'm asking because my aunt is expecting and she was just discussing this with her husband and they had a huge fight. She's against it, he's for it...
I personally think I would allow my children to date, but I would tell them beforehand of the pros and cons just so they can judge for themselves whether they want an arranged marriage or a love marriage.
Edit: And would it depend on whether its a girl or a boy?
not because i want to follow family traditions beacause i follow my religion..wich forbids interaction b/w man n women b4 marriage...simple as that....i wudnt let them date at all no...no way...but when thery old enough..and are redy for marriage...ofcourse m not gna force my kids to marry the person i want them to marry...but insted ask them and see if they have any1 in mind...but dating...noo way
BEcause I’m a muslim and so will my kids be too. If they like sumone, they’d tell me and I’ll do whatever needs to be done to get them married. End of story!
I myself am a strong disbeliever of dating and will never allow my kids to date either, Inshallah
^ fair enough... I dunno yet, I might change my mind later on... I've seen one failed love marriage (mom and dad's) and one successful one (sister's)... havent tried myself for fear of putting in time and effort and then ending up heartbroken ... so Im not 100% on this yet...
lol well for now I think I would, because my own father has given me freedom of choice— but I have yet to see more of life, and until I don’t see the full picture, I guess I cant say that this is a firm decision of mine.. does that make sense now?
chaperoned dates sound good to me. meaning they have to have someone else with them. double date, or a friend, or even a kid with them. you can't expect to know a person by just looking and admitting you like them. you have to know and see how that person is with other people. and if other people are with you, you won't have only one thing on your mind. :p
it depends how erly u start datiin tho...i mean c'mon wud u want ur lil 13 yr old goo uot n find her "prince" nah ah...i dun think so....but when ur old enough..n understand wut marriage is ...maybe....but dating alone wid different partners..
yeah I'm talking about maybe 16 or 17... our dad told us very early on that we could date...and my sister was with someone from the age of 13-22 and in the end he dumped her cuz he couldnt stand up to his parents, so bad idea for her to start young :( anyhow, a couple months later, a family friend wooed her and they dated for about a a year and now she's 24, married and VERY happy :) so yup, age plays a big role in it
see...if u find someone..n stik wid them(get married wid ur parents consent)...that sounds fine to me...but if ur switchin frm one partner to another....i wdnt allow that at all...love sum1...that u no ull get married to...or else...its pointless
yeah she was totally in love with him and wanted to marry him, but after that she was all depressed it was scary, so my parents (mostly my stepmom ) was pushing her to get married and we knew that our close family friend’s son was really interested in her, so we let him talk to her try to cheer her up… they got really close and it all worked out in favor of both families she never “dated around” per se
yup I know… pakistani/desi proposals are bad but whenever I go to stay with my grandma she introduces me to the weirdest guys so then I realize that pakistani gus arent that bad after all
) was pushing her to get married and we knew that our close family friend’s son was really interested in her, so we let him talk to her try to cheer her up… they got really close and it all worked out in favor of both families 
so then I realize that pakistani gus arent that bad after all 