what i meant was, people can find enough reasons to get married even if they are from different religions, if it werent for religious prejudice. religion, race, different words, same deal.
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what i meant was, people can find enough reasons to get married even if they are from different religions, if it werent for religious prejudice. religion, race, different words, same deal.
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Well in muslim belief your not allowed to give up your religious prejudice which is a bit of a bummer as far as your theory goes. So the easy way round it is, if you can't beat em join em. And there's an answer to the dilemma :)
Off you go to the mosque lad, and happy hunting!
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majestic, there could be multiple reasons for someone not going for someone..
I mean yes teh whole race, ethnicity type demands of some families are one thing, but then there is something called personal preferance.. what u find attractive.
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Getting back to the original topic, I pretty much agree with that.
Xtreme you are agreeing with me too much these days, whats going on, you ready to join hizb e hulla gulla and leave sipah e kebaba behind?
anyways, its funny how guys get all the blame..would someone like to go back and look at the threads about what girls want in a guy :)
I think desis girls are just as finicky as desi guys when it comes to what is considered acceptable.
Given the choice, everybody’s finicky Fraudz. But as an adendum to your point, what you find attractive ( and I’m not just talking physically) has to find you attractive also, and that’s sometimes the sticking point 
Xtreme
I agree, thats when you see guys and girls sitting around whimpering because they cant find someone that meets their ideals, and i guess when they do run into someone like that, they do not meet their
ideal's ideal :)
Well i haven't looked at the other thread - i only entered this one because I saw my mate queer had posted and I knew he'd be doing his usal Mother India stuff ;)
But yeah, I think people can set their expectations higher than what they themselves are worth. Not always the case, but true in too many.
There is a difference between being selective culture wise and being restrictive on racial basis.
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*Originally posted by Fraudz: *
Xtreme you are agreeing with me too much these days, whats going on, you ready to join hizb e hulla gulla and leave sipah e kebaba behind?
anyways, its funny how guys get all the blame..would someone like to go back and look at the threads about what girls want in a guy :)
I think desis girls are just as finicky as desi guys when it comes to what is considered acceptable.
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Don't forget that this thread is based on the thread by Nadia_H where the same questions were asked to the girls!
our society " larka tawee ka pichla hisa hi kio na ho larki ko goori chiiti doodh mein duli hoi hona chahaey"
Loved Majestic answered…
faurdz chacha 
@ you
at what? about girls and guys having unrealistic expectations for a mate?
or
for stating that I would nto have gone for a proposal anyways since i wanted to find someonen on my own
or
for stating what I am attracted to and what I am not attracted to?
an honest answer was asked, i gave it, I dont see why you are upset about it.
I will say yes! coz as a muslim I can marry three more :D
Seems as though most guys are too scared to even make a comment in this post. Mehnaz, you should have asked if they would have married the girl if she was Pakistani and Dark, not if she was black. Anyway you can't blame the guys for the way in which they've been brought up and if they really do have to listen to their parents there's nothing much they can do, is there. I think the older guys such as Roman and Matsui was it, can see past the skin colour, but its more difficult for the younger generation.
You're right about the parents, they always ask what the colour of the grandchildren is when they're born.
If the girl was presented to me, I'd have to decline. I cannot go upon a whim and accept the proposal. This is solely based on first impression conversation and looks.
Now in a different environment, the girl being dark and a someone amiable whom I can relate to, the chances are more likely that I would consider it and possibly go through with it.
Personally, when I go into these sort of scenarios . . . I've always kept a motto to remind me of where I stand most of you have heard of and that is Beggars can't be choosers.
Often you find people with many demands (they haven't looked in a mirror or at their own credentials) and its not fair for the proposer to take so many hits without proper consideration. I hope this explains my stance on it a bit.
only if she looked like beyonce knowles :D
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Seems as though most guys are too scared to even make a comment in this post. Mehnaz, you should have asked if they would have married the girl if she was Pakistani and Dark, not if she was black. Anyway you can't blame the guys for the way in which they've been brought up and if they really do have to listen to their parents there's nothing much they can do, is there. I think the older guys such as Roman and Matsui was it, can see past the skin colour, but its more difficult for the younger generation.
You're right about the parents, they always ask what the colour of the grandchildren is when they're born.
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Cat-Woman, I was just following a thread opened by Nadia_H that asked the same question to girls. :)
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You must have your head buried in the sand then because I know enough Arabs whose life has been made miserable because of their parents not letting them marry out of their tribes.
I know a Omani girl who was dating this guy who was from an ‘inferior’ caste/tribe and her parents made life hell for her when they found out because she got pregnant, they said they wouldn’t have had no problem what so ever if the guy was from a more respected tribe. Both wanted to marry each other and were madly in love but the girls parents wouldn’t agree, as soon as she had the baby girl it was given over to the father to look after and the girl got the living day lights beaten out off her by her parents and got brought over to England…
… If that had been a Pakistani family I can bet on my life that they would have let this girl marry the guy.
And I know of a Kuwaiti girl who wanted to marry a half Indian and half Pakistani but her parents said No! Even though both the guy and the girl followed the same religion and sect… Now this same family has married enough non-Muslim Caucasians into it but as soon the girl wants to marry someone who’s handsome, good job with a great salary and he’s from a well respected family her parents turn him down because he’s a desi.
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Well honestly I do not care too much about "tribes" or about the type of Arabs you just mentioned. Do you want me to be very blunt here? Ok here it goes EVERY DAMN MUSLIM IS SCREWED UP!
You must be happy now, huh?
yallah mashi alhal............ma'asalam
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EVERY DAMN MUSLIM IS SCREWED UP!
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SPEAK FOR YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
phew i feel better now
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… If that had been a Pakistani family I can bet on my life that they would have let this girl marry the guy.
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Care to give me your life now, or should I wait till you are good and ready? A silly wager you cannot live upto . . . and on top of that your whole post reeks of racial discrimination pointing fingers at one race. Pakistani's are guilty of the same thing. Why glorify whats not there?