FFji, I am fortunate to have flowing tresses and and a svelte appearances. Call it god’s gentle touch or karma and dharma…
Bald and fat is god’s answer to idiocy. Not to mention height regression. Most of these people also lose a few inches. HEight as well… 
I will like to emphasize one point, which Fraudia made earlier. Just because someone doesn't want a kaali, peeli, neeli girl as a wife, doesn't necessarily mean he considers them inferior. Its just that some people want to have a spouse who looks a certain way. These expectations can be very specific or very general.
damn..u guyz r so picky.
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damn..u guyz r so picky.
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Well, in hypothetical situations, yes.
Otherwise, anything goes. :)
Just because someone doesn't want a kaali, peeli, neeli girl as a wife, doesn't necessarily mean he considers them inferior. Its just that some people want to have a spouse who looks a certain way.
Please explain to me that how being a kaalee does not constitute that "certain way" if she's gorgeous, and can make a good wife but only thing stopping one is the color of the skin? How not wanting someone due to her blackness doesn't constitute perception of inferiority?
:-)
i see no reason to reject :-)
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Please explain to me that how being a kaalee does not constitute that "certain way" if she's gorgeous, and can make a good wife but only thing stopping one is the color of the skin? How not wanting someone due to her blackness doesn't constitute perception of inferiority?
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Some people may not want to marry a caucasian either. Doesn't mean they think desis are superior/inferior to caucasians. Its just that they don't want a wife who is caucasian. Big deal. Its a free world.
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Faisal, you know very well the point that Ms Mehnaz was bringing up. It didn't have anything to do with free world, it had to do with Desis' racial attitude towards blacks.
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I have to agree with you on this one Roman uncle. The hypothetical situation that Nadia_H created emphasized race as the only factor hindering peoples decisions on accepting a rishta. I wanted to apply this example to the male guppies to gage their reaction.
To each their own I guess. However, it is quite obvious that the politics of shadism within the Pakistani community are still deep-rooted and driven into the mentality of the youth being born in the UK/USA and Canada.
I am sure there are people who deem themselves superior to a negro or a chinese. But if someone says that they are not going to marry one is not the sole proof that they are racist. For example, read Fraudiya's post
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I am not attracted to blacks in general, now dont be alarmed, I am not attratced to majority of yer blue eyed blond hair types either. I prefer a mediterranian type of look, arabs, desis, spanish are fine.
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That was the whole point. Racism is something much worse, than a mere desire to marry or not marry someone.
There are many factors which influence the decision. And race is but just one of those.
A negro?????? Wow....it is politically incorrect and incredibly insulting to say that. That's where the deragatory term 'nigger' is derived from. I hope you don't say that in public!
Faisal, I think the reason why Roman keeps insisting you are racist is because you didn't make your reasons for saying no to such a rishta clear. However, if you are not attracted to black people, then I guess that is a sufficient enough reason. But then I would expect you not to fancy Iman or Naomi Campbell either ... two classic examples of gorgeous black women.
Don't be too hung up on political correctness. This is GUPSHUP. Or if you are so intent, its "black", "African-American" yada yada yada... u get the meaning.
No way! I won't even think of marrying a dark-skinned, fat or a chinky look alike but Lauryn Hill, Ricki Lake and Michelle Hussein (BBC 24 Presenter) are exceptions although they are extremely black, fat and chinese look-alike respectively. I don't like the 'pheeka' white colour either but marrying someone has never got just one-point agenda that if someone has this kinda colour then she is not marriage-able stuff. Someone may or may not like the Pakistani brought up with even if he likes the black colour or vice versa.
Inclination to like or unlike black colour doesn't necessarily mean that the person may not marry a black coloured person as when it comes to decision time then it might be a completely different story becuase of so many other factors influencing his decisions.
assalamoalikum 
are we talking about u here, if so then the answer is definetely qabooool hai qabooooooooooool hai
p.s " kiddin’ "
just wondering. how much different is rejecting a potential mate because of his/her skin color, from that of rejecting him/her based on his/her belief system?
imho, the line between preference and prejudice is a fine one, and shifts this way and that depending upon what the social norms are, how much of an individual one is, and hmm how much one wishes to fool oneself.
there might not be one right. if you are the kind of person who is bothered by others yip-yapping, perhaps the right thing to do is to get a spouse "they" want, and wallow in the comfort of social acceptance rather lead yourself and your spouse into misery. if you are the sort that doesnt give two hoots about what others think of your personal life, the right thing to do would probably be to get someone you'll be happy with, even if it conflicts with social norms.
..which is even harder then graduating…i commend you for that :k:
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just wondering. how much different is rejecting a potential mate because of his/her skin color, from that of rejecting him/her based on his/her belief system?
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I think there is huge difference both in social acceptance, perspective and in personal preference. This is the one remaining taboo in the world today. I think this is because in this century, in the global sense the differences between ethnicities and race is becoming insignifcant (although not too insifnificant as can be shown by the discrimination etc) in that generally inter-racial marriages are accepted and seen as normal while interfaith marriages of different sects within the same religion let alone interreligious marriages are not accepted socially. It is much easier for persons of different race but the same ideology and understanding to form a common connection than it is in my view with someone of a different religion. Even in terms of personal preferences, alot more people nowadays tend to identify themselves with reference to their religion and faith instead of race or ethnicity.
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It is much easier for persons of different race but the same ideology and understanding to form a common connection than it is in my view with someone of a different religion. Even in terms of personal preferences, alot more people nowadays tend to identify themselves with reference to their religion and faith instead of race or ethnicity.
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if people from distinct races can set aside their differences and find enough in common to form marital bonds, wouldnt you agree that people from the same land living in the same neighbourhood sharing the same culture and language, despite having different belief systems, might too find enough in common to get married? i would think so.
bottomline is, inter-religious marriages are taboo only because it is a prejudice that's divinely sanctioned. the social stigma associated with an inter-belief marriage carries a constant remainder of god's wrath.
i find it ironic that bright people who wish to find their prospective mate purely on the basis of compatibility merit would place the unbendable same-religion condition. but then, religions have made man do much worse.
queer, kaash meray paas time hota kay I could read your philosophical kahaaniyaaN. Please write a synopsis taa kay samjh sakooN aap kiya kehna chaH rahay heiN.
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bottomline is, inter-religious marriages are taboo only because it is a prejudice that's divinely sanctioned. the social stigma associated with an inter-belief marriage carries a constant remainder of god's wrath.
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Doesn't that negate your earlier point :
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if people from distinct races can set aside their differences and find enough in common to form marital bonds, wouldnt you agree that people from the same land living in the same neighbourhood sharing the same culture and language, despite having different belief systems, might too find enough in common to get married?
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Let me make it a bit clearer:
In your first point you're saying that people can get married despite having different beliefs, and then you go on to knock the religous beliefs which is a bit of a contradiction it seems.