Yes I would as long as i am also interested in someone else and am unfaithful at the same time. If not, then he can't either. :)
good plan
I think chicken biriyani is coming from a place of great ignorance and judgement.
For me, it would depend upon the situation I was in. How highly I rated sexual fidelity at the time over the need of the children to have a happy, perfect childhood and the hope that bolah huwa laut kai aiga..
Also, inevitably 90 percent your husbands will cheat ladies. Whether they are honest enough to tell you about it, or not :)
90%??????????
That's a very high number!
The rest 10% seems like they might not be good in bed? Otherwise why the heck would these 10% wanna be not in the 90%?
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well may 90% of men are liekely to cheat
cos thats how God made them? us? (not me)
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Then these type of weird men should not marry at all 
well may 90% of men are liekely to cheat
cos thats how God made them? us? (not me)
awww for the "us" part, and then "not me" <--spank spank ! very innocent baccha here !
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The husband who cheats and the wife that allows that (knowing full well that he does) are both wrong and deserve each other. :D
The husband who cheats and the wife that allows that (knowing full well that he does) are both wrong and deserve each other. :D
lol
Ofcourse he can cheat, only on certain conditions however! If i can cut his hands and one other part of his body off, he's good to go!
And what that OTHER PART would be. if u will cut THE PART then no need to cut the hand... yeh tu na insaafi ho gi k haath mofat main kaat diya
awww for the "us" part, and then "not me" <--spank spank ! very innocent baccha here !
And we ALL know by now that Amir Bhai won't mind being spanked by any woman ;)
Amir Bhai, do you ever read any other hadith besides the ones that allow you the liberty to exercise your innate urges and polygamous feelings to full capacity????
I'm just curious since you have mentioned SEVERAL TIMES on OTHER THREADS about the lawfulness of men having up to 4 wives. The other guys on GS don't seem to mention this hadith as often as you do. Keep, in mind that the Quran also states that the WIVES should be treated justly and equally....which is tough for men do.
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"You will **never be able to deal justly between wives however much you desire (to do so). But (if you have more than one wife) do not turn altogether away (from one), leaving her as in suspense…" (Qur’an 4:129)
*Quran 4:129 *
This verse from the Qur’an allows a man to marry more than one woman but **ONLY if he can deal justly with them. Another verse says that a person is unable to deal justly between wives, thus giving permission** for polygamy but discouraging it.
^ Many men seem to become overconfident in thinking that they are allowed 4 wives to meet their sexual needs. BUT...........ALLAH SWT has set CONDITIONS and LIMITS to the this permissible privilige. YES, Allah DOES KNOW that men have polygamous urges..........................................BUT Allah IN HIS WISDOM ALSO knows that most men **ARE NOT ABLE TO TREAT THEIR WIVES EQUALLY..................and this is reflected in the above verse from the Quran.
While polygamy is permissible in Islam.........the above verse serves as an INJUNCTION and ADMONITION which takes into account a wife's sentiments about being treated unfairly.
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Amir Bhai, fil-haal k liye aap sirf AIK biwi haasil karnay ki koshish karain..........baaki teen biwiyon ka baad main sochna.
Poor men.....being so blinded by their polygamous urges......they forget the stressful FINANCIAL and EMOTIONAL BURDEN of treating ALL WIVES EQUALLY. Poor men..........pleasures can come with a heavy price.
Ok
Bye bie .............bye bie.
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^ Funny, all the men who say they're up 4 polygamy yet balk at the thought of having to buy 2/3 more houses (of the same standard), possibly another car for the extra wife/wives and pay all their expenses. It comes with a lot of responsibilty and more often than not it all ends in tears, first wife getting depression or walking out, kids from first marriage disowning dad etc.
^ Funny, all the men who say they're up 4 polygamy yet balk at the thought of having to buy 2/3 more houses (of the same standard), possibly another car for the extra wife/wives and pay all their expenses. It comes with a lot of responsibilty and more often than not it all ends in tears, first wife getting depression or walking out, kids from first marriage disowning dad etc.
LOL........i KNOW!
And even if a guy does treat his wives EQUALLY as far as material things are concerned..........it is MUCH HARDER to treat wives EQUALLY as far as emotions, affections, and time is concerned. Imagine the first wife feeling hurt because the husband is spending far MORE time with the younger 2nd wife. Or imagine the first wife feeling hurt because the husband compliments the second wife more than the first.
Sometimes............men think way too much with their LOWER HEADS as opposed to the one that sits on top of their shoulders..........and this can cloud their judgment. In the quest for fulfilling their sexual needs through multiple wives..............they forget about the stipulations and conditions set by Allah.
not again i was simply trying to emphazie a theory, which give some answer to why so many women are always find out abut cheating spouses.
yep its sick, so many married and non married men are doing zina....its global social problem.
and where and when did i suggest i am or about to excercise rights...
infact to be honest i find it sick....but then when i look but at prophetic times they too seem absurd...(cant say sick).
i ws being sarcastic.....very sarcastic...
r.v if u properly and fully read hadiths of the type i quote and others of the same context, i doubt it you or other ladies would not be shocked.
i know the right thing to do is to ratinalize, control and suprres your desires.
but when i look back 1400 years ago, like i do for the ideal action for other problem/issues, i sadly fail to find many impresive examples...s
women bashing men of today being perverts...should look back 1400 years.
i cud quote more stronger proofs to validate my assertions but i find it embaraasing for the great personalties concerned to do so.
bascially to put it one line: 1400 years ago all the men, pious and non-pious still had the same level of carnal instincts of men today...and they made sure they got the outlets..
what would you say if your husband came home and told u he 'did' it with a slave girl today?
or what if he didnt even tell you?
back in those days mens life was simple, basic and low-demanding, men could marry more than one women and provide them basically but justly....and so they did have many wives or others...i** dnt see this as a great example of self-control**...infact any wife today or the past, including h.aisha, h.fatima, did not prefer this phenmenon, and they used to feel jealous and even much more at times.
Ok the prophet (pbuh) is perfect, infallible, pls excuse him.
but for other personalties i dnt see this as an excelent and praisworthy kinds of sexual control....that u wud refer us men back to 1400 years to learn an example from.
im sorry and very sorry to say this but in those time men did not have lesser of thier fair share than todays men of desires for and practice of additional s.partners.
and fact = many of thier wives did feel unhappy by this.
thats my problem with the 4 wives thing ladie...
- i didnt post to advocate mens rights to polygamy.
i posted in sympathy for u girls.....
cos it seems from the evidences mens natures r are inclinded towards it.
and treating of justness...well thats why todays men dont go for the exccesive burden...they opt for the easy occasional fling.
and the truth is men can do it beacuse they have much less to loose than the women.
(and pls for god sake dnt think im talking abut myself,
but dont think im saying im better than anyody else either.)
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^ I like your post amir_pindi. I see where you are coming from. I also agree with the 'absurd' part...
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ThankGod for somebody getting me.
indeed i have mentioned indirectly my sarcasm about the 4 wives and polygamy in other threads, but people mistake me for it the wroooong way.
i cant say directly. i find it sick can I!
^But some one has finally forced me too
personbally i see very few strong examples of s.control in Islam. and i have read a lot of hadiths.
(May Allah forgive me for my speech)
if people still are unclear of my point...and only becos this is detrimenting my izat in gup.shup.
next if forced i am goona quote 20-25 such hadiths (and sahih ones), that none of u ladies r goona feel comfortable the same way again in the presence of any man!
if people force me i will. And every lady wil be then silented i gurantee!
as my personal respect is getting on the line nowdays.
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^ you really are great at giving advise here!
Once again Amir…the point of my post has gone up, above, and beyond your comprehension.
There is no need for you to silence the ladies.
NOBODY is denying that polygamy is allowed. EVERY WOMAN knows that polygamy is allowed in Islam.
I, myself, never denied the permissibility of polygamy. I only referred to the QURANIC VERSE that allows but also discourages polygamy because of the difficulty in treating all wives equally. So I’m referring to a verse in Quran…and not hadith. Allowing and discouraging are not the same thing.
The following is quoted from this web site: Who Practices Polygamy:
**This verse from the Qur’an allows a man to marry more than one
woman but only if he can deal justly with them. Another verse
says that a person is unable to deal justly between wives, thus
giving permission but discouraging.
“You will never be able to deal justly between wives however
much you desire (to do so). But (if you have more than one
wife) do not turn altogether away (from one), leaving her in
suspense…” (Qur’an 4:129)
While the provision for polygamy makes the social system
flexible enough to deal with all kinds of conditions, it is not
necessarily recommended or preferred by Islam. Taking the
example of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) is
instructive. He was married to one woman, Khadijah, for
twenty-five years. It was only after her death when he had
reached the age of fifty that he entered into other marriages to
promote friendships, create alliances or to be an example of
some lesson to the community; also to show the Muslims how to
treat their spouses under different conditions of life.
**So relax Amir…You don’t need to take out your hadith to show us that polygamy is allowed, or to show that men today and 1400 years ago had the same carnal desire, or to silence the ladies. We already know that. No need to state the obvious again.
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i already understood the wifes part, and thanks for making it even more cleare from your wonderfully quote.
However....friend would you like to dwell on the slave girl thingie?
Wud u call men of those time perves (nz) too. SLAVE GIRLS DIDNT EVEN HAVE NO RIGHTS.
and do you know.....they could be bought and sold on the open market????
absolutely absurrd.......and we todays men r called perves...i think it might have been there throughout the ages ladies.
so mayb u shud get prepared or just accept it lolzz like.
again...no offence or disgust intended only awareness.
Although i do wish both men and women were the same.
i already understood the wifes part, and thanks for making it even more cleare from your wonderfully quote. However....friend would you like to dwell on the slave girl thingie? Wud u call men of those time perves (nz) too. SLAVE GIRLS DIDNT EVEN HAVE NO RIGHTS. and do you know.....they could be bought and sold on the open market???? absolutely absurrd.......and we todays men r called perves...i think it might have been there throughout the ages ladies.
so mayb u shud get prepared or just accept it lolzz like. again...no offence or disgust intended only awareness.
Although i do wish both men and women were the same.
WOW.........lack of comprehension has no limits, I suppose.
LOL LOL LOL. NOBODY called your polygamous brothers "perves". Go read my post over and over again. I never called anyone a pervert. I only discussed the condition regarding polygamy as stated in the Quran and the emotional effects of polygamy on women. I didn't say anything about being a pervert.
Yet, you continue to make it an issue. I know this is a favorite topic for you.........but you're discussing issues that were not even mentioned.
:aq:
i already understood the wifes part, and thanks for making it even more cleare from your wonderfully quote. However....friend would you like to dwell on the slave girl thingie? Wud u call men of those time perves (nz) too. SLAVE GIRLS DIDNT EVEN HAVE NO RIGHTS. and do you know.....they could be bought and sold on the open market???? absolutely absurrd.......and we todays men r called perves...i think it might have been there throughout the ages ladies.
so mayb u shud get prepared or just accept it lolzz like. again...no offence or disgust intended only awareness.
Although i do wish both men and women were the same.
In those times men were also bought and sold and were kept as slaves. They too had no rights. Why you are only mentioning abt SLAVE GIRLS ?