I was talking to a friends sister a few days ago about guys and being unfaithful, we got talking and she told me how she allows her husband to be unfaithful in their relationship, they have been married for 10 years, have children together and are very happy…
I was a bit baffled and asked her how she allows him to cheat on her?
“As Long as I don’t find out and he spends time with the kids and myself like a family, treats me and the kids right, I don’t mind. His gonna do it behind my back anyway, so why not to my face. At Least I will save myself the stress of going down his phone, checking up on him every 5 mins, finding out his slept with other women etc etc”
hmm ok fair enough answer, or was it?
Question for the ladies If ur husband treats u good and gives u a good life financially would u allow ur husband to be unfaithful as long as u don’t find out?
Question for the guys if ur wife allows u to go strawberry picking would u?
I guess I'd allow my husband to cheat on me for only 2 reasons:
1. If I'm cheating on him also.
2. If I didn't care about him losing credit points in front of Allah for commiting adultery.
Funny one , I too once came across a lady who had similar thoughts and when i questioned her she said all she wanted was a stable life and as long as she had that and he was treating her right she wouldnt mind him going to other women ...
I think women who are materialistically motivated, dont really care .. they just need their luxuries and are happy with life the way it is.... for the rest of us, our man is our man, coz we base our relationship on trust and equality... i.e if i am being faithful to my man i want him to be faithful to me too ....
But frankly it still shocks me and baffles me when I come across a woman who has no issues with her husbands infidelity ...
Some people might allow it to avoid humiliation of divorce, separation of family and kids, live a comfortable life, money, etc.
I feel I would be better off without the man...divorce him...divide the assets...live happily ever after and make sure your kids dont become casualties. Upholding an image for the sake of money/comfortable life is just too much work for people I dont really care about...I can make my own money.
I wouldn't allow it. He married me and I married him, was that not enough? Now he wants to go have an affair?! What about commitment? What about love? What about passion? You can't have that with your husband when you know he's gone to sleep with some other woman.
I think chicken biriyani is coming from a place of great ignorance and judgement.
For me, it would depend upon the situation I was in. How highly I rated sexual fidelity at the time over the need of the children to have a happy, perfect childhood and the hope that bolah huwa laut kai aiga..
Also, inevitably 90 percent your husbands will cheat ladies. Whether they are honest enough to tell you about it, or not :)
If they are perfectly happy and satisfied with their decisions and can live wiht themselves...who are we to judge? Some people still feel that a divorce has traumatic effect on children, so if the man IS treating the family well, it's her choice to stay. Also, not every woman is an "independant woman" who can support herself (not just talking financially), so she doesnt want to leave. And if certain conditions are met, they will prefer a comfortable life over the life of a financially struggling single mother...
On the other hand, I don't see why ppl think money = love. Traditionally being the provider may have been the man's traditional role..but I think it's unfair to equate him to being a cash cow...similar to simplifying a woman as a housemaker and baby producer. it's stifling.
