girl my (future) husband will never have enough of boiled rice, ill mix it up in ways he will never be bored.
sure.
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Ive always wanted to see what prison is like
ya right that wont teach him anything!
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No, I would never stay in a relationship that did not involve love. I wouldn’t stay with someone who was cheating on me because they payed the bills. That like prostituting yourself but without the sex. How much more pathetic could one be? He just comes home drops some money, does things around the house and then goes out with other women. I’d divorce his sorry ass, he could have all the fun he wants in the world, and he’d be paying me alimony.
The woman who thinks its ok.. well im sorry but that’s lazy and stupid, and the woman needs to get serious help/therapy if she things it’s OK to stay with someone because they pay the bills. So in the future if he started beating her too what’d be her answer?.. ‘Oh well… he pays the bills’ COME ON! 
I have much more respect than that.
It’s easy to say yes or no right now, but believe me when you’re there and its happening its a completely different ball game. That cheating could leave to love with the other woman and before you know it you’re signing divorce papers and that new woman is setting up camp in your home.
No, I would never stay in a relationship that did not involve love. .
I like this one liner. This envelopes all without any ifs and buts
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^ Yup. Respect too. But then if you love someone you respect them too. This is just such a ridiculous allowance in a marriage, like playing with fire. :no:
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it's not about ALLOWING men to cheat..an unfaithful person WILL cheat even behind your back if he has to cheat!so I guess she is kind of justified abt her point.
I would never ever allow my husband to cheat on me ! I can never share my husband with anyone. WE are married , I am not the only one who is married to him , he is also married to me. If he has all my faithfulness and committment I want the same in return , nothing more and nothing less.
Even if Godforbids he does anything like that I'll walk out of the relationship. I can never spend my life with a person upon whom I have lost trust and respect.
Im afraid to say your sister is thinking like a concubine and not like a wife. She has every right on him and how in Islam it is consider a grave sin to have adultery! Knock some sense in to your sister's mind.
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Islam have suggested better ways to acheive the same goal i.e. Polygamy. But allowing adultery is helping someone in a crime and both deserve equal punishment. I really wish our brothers and sisters while marrying could find a better person and good muslim rather then just someone who has a good bank balance.
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Can someone please make a list of the fine ladies who would answer 'Yes' to this question and pass it on for the benefit of mankind? I would be deeply obliged.
I wouldnt allow it.
Some people might allow it to avoid humiliation of divorce, separation of family and kids, live a comfortable life, money, etc.
I feel I would be better off without the man...divorce him...divide the assets...live happily ever after and make sure your kids dont become casualties. Upholding an image for the sake of money/comfortable life is just too much work for people I dont really care about...I can make my own money.
That's how I feel about the issue as well. It's hard to live with someone who is not faithful, to see your spouse every day and picture adulterous images......it's psychological torture. Self-respect and peace of mind are important. And I know some women stay in the marriage for the sake of the children......and this is a tough issue to debate. But sometimes I wonder what message is a woman sending to her kids by enduring a dysfunctional relationship in silence with a fake smile on the face? While it's more beneficial for children to live with both parents.............children also live in the real world........and need to understand that the real world is not perfect, where marriages don't always last, where parents do get divorced, that marriage is sacred, that tolerating disrespect and abuse has it's limits, and that there is a way out when things become unbearable. Our tragedies and tribulations can teach us valuable lessons that are not always learned from "sticking it out" in dysfunctional situations. And yet, I understand how difficult it can be for women who are in a situation where they can't support kids on their own are more dependent on a lousy husband.
I think chicken biriyani is coming from a place of great ignorance and judgement.
For me, it would depend upon the situation I was in. How highly I rated sexual fidelity at the time over the need of the children to have a happy, perfect childhood and the hope that bolah huwa laut kai aiga..
Also, inevitably 90 percent your husbands will cheat ladies. Whether they are honest enough to tell you about it, or not :)
To be honest hitchki jee .. gone are the times when women would let men use them "for the sake of the kids" ... I can understand leaving ones man can be traumatic for the kids , but such losers are never good fathers either .. they will never set good example for your kids and you will see your kids doing the same one day... I have seen unhappy marriages and marriages of compromise and know that kids had double the trauma to deal with..
and no 90 percent thing you said has no holding .. unless you have some valid survey to prove that ... I believe AngelEyes and Sara put it spot on that infidelity is most common in either the elite class or someone whose come from a deprived background ... but majority still remain loyal to each other in a marriage ...
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No. My answer is simple.
However, for those who would - I believe that it should be a two-way street. If the husband is allowed to step-out on his wife, then the wife has the same allowance with no repercussions.
Question for the ladies If ur husband treats u good and gives u a good life financially would u allow ur husband to be unfaithful as long as u don't find out?
He might as well marry three other women! Lol! :)
Can someone please make a list of the fine ladies who would answer 'Yes' to this question and pass it on for the benefit of mankind? I would be deeply obliged.
Please ladies send your PM's to Jaanwar! Hehe! :)
Thnx for all ur contributions guys
btw the women I mentioned is not Pakistani neither is she Muslim, but I Didn't think it mattered, as it does happen in all societies, in fact our men go one step further and re-marry a younger women from back home and the wife usually finds out when his already married.....sad
Majority of the people tht have replied are either newly married/ engaged/single/or have no children?
I really do hope we have this same attitude when we have been married for numerous years....Yes its quite disgusting to be allowing ur husband to sleep with other women, and then expect him to come back to u and be all honky dory. But for some people it works, and I can sympathize wid them. Women, especially in the Pakistani society, are made to look weak. If she has children, and is over a certain age if she leaves her husband gets a divorce, what type of life will she have?
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In my opinion, if a husband cheats on his wife, leaving him would be ther best thing to do beacuse they'll never stop. Why should a man walk over his wife like that? They wouldn't let their wives cheat so why should the rules be different for them? If you want to be with another woman then you divorce your wife and then do whatever you want to.
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i m sorry to break it to u girls..
but it might be in our genes.
bio-logical evidence is coming out men are polygamous by nature.
religion also kinda supports dis...i.e 4 wives rule...etc etc
I know..i know its unfair...etc...im nt supporting it...just pointing it out...thought knwoeldge might be of ur use....
men in islam are advised to be highly posseively jealous/ghira for thier women in terms of other men. But men are allowed not only allowed to desire for and marry other women but also be freely allowed it with whom thier right-hand posess.....i.e slave girls...
and these slave girls dont even have no rights.
i dnt like saying this. but there is sahih hadiths, narrating after-war booty where sahabies have been allocated slave-girls, whom with they did not waste time to have s.relations with....i.e without asking wifeys...well permsiion wudnt be needed anyway...but here they wernt even informed.
two timing//cheating???
a certain popular pious ladies may agree with you....but id refrain from going into further detail
Poor Women..thatst all i can say.
By bie
bye bie
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of course, why not. we live in modern times. this is the 21st century. predicted by the messenger 1400 years ago.