Re: would u alllow ur husband to cheat?
I have heard that this is quite a common situation among the elite in pakistan… not sure how it is here in the west.
My sister once asked a friend of hers (who now lives in pakistan) why she allows her husband to cheat on her…she replied …
" look at my designer bag, my shoes, my house, and car. I dont care what he does with other women…as long as I continue to live this lifestyle he can do what he wants. "
sad isnt it? 
Re: would u alllow ur husband to cheat?
Maybe for someone who’s from a dirt poor background where they had absoltuely ZERO priveleges or opportunities…this life is better than the one they’d potentially have should they divorce…and in Pakistan society where the divide between rich and poor is so wide, marriage is practically the only welfare system…
The life of a single mother is not fun or easy. All the ppl who say these women are materialistic or don’t they have any self respect, are they going to be supporting her and her children? Are they going to be there for her when she misses her old life or is lonely? Are htey going to have to hear every single person under the sun critique their life choices? We’re all very supportive of women who choose ot leave their spouses, telling her she’s done the right thing…**if we really want to be true feminists, then we should also stop judging the ones who choose to stay wiht their spouses and keep their families together. **
PS: just as a side note, being unfaithful means that she is under the assumption that he will NOT cheat. There’s lots of lying and hiding involved. However if the spouse knows the other has something on teh side and is okay wiht it…its an open relationship, whether it’s one way or not.
If they are perfectly happy and satisfied with their decisions and can live wiht themselves...who are we to judge? Some people still feel that a divorce has traumatic effect on children, so if the man IS treating the family well, it's her choice to stay. Also, not every woman is an "independant woman" who can support herself (not just talking financially), so she doesnt want to leave. And if certain conditions are met, they will prefer a comfortable life over the life of a financially struggling single mother... .
you brought up a very good point....I can see why some may put up with it.
Re: would u alllow ur husband to cheat?
if he is committing adultery (as niks said) then its a different matter ..
if he goes and marry someone (not because he made that woman pregnant or something) .. then that is different issue ..
now which one is "being unfaithful', I guess that would be my question to all
Re: would u alllow ur husband to cheat?
Hell yes! In fact, I would insist on it. I only need the money. He can touch, sniff and bark at whomever he wishes as long as I have the monies.
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I would go ape**** if my fiance cheated on me.
I think that some women are terrified of being alone. I knew a woman who tolerated her husbands affairs even though they were widely gossiped about in the community. We always told her to leave him or at least finish her degree, but she said that she knew what kind of man she was married to and that she was happy to live with that as long as he was willing to support her and the kids financially in the way she expected.
Several years later he left her and the kids for a younger version, and moved back to Pakistan to avoid child support.
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Ofcourse he can cheat, only on certain conditions however! If i can cut his hands and one other part of his body off, he's good to go!
hair? 
Re: would u alllow ur husband to cheat?
hm...if he/she is cheating than instead of thinking that whether his/her action justified or not, we should question ourselves that what went wrong? why did he/she went for someone else?
why? why? why?
ps. i think ALLAH SWT wont gonna ask us why did we forgive/or didnt forgive em? but he will for sure ask us why didn't we provide him/her the comfort he/she was looking for?
hm...if he/she is cheating than instead of thinking that whether his/her action justified or not, we should question ourselves that what went wrong? why did he/she went for someone else?
why? why? why? ?
Zobi, you cannot always blame the victim for the crime
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i think its sad women are SO materialistic they dont understand the beauty of relationships.
They dont care about their husbands enough to save them from allah.
When i get married im not going to give my husband a reason to cheat on me. Yes you can be attracted to attractive women but dont act on your thoughts.
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ill kill him
i think its sad women are SO materialistic they dont understand the beauty of relationships. .
dude, when husband is cheating, there is a woman on the other side too. She is certainly not materialistic and appreciating the beauty of relationships :p
Zobi, you cannot always blame the victim for the crime
yep you cant, but then you also dont know for sure that whether you are victim or not.
i said that because we always separate ourselves from what we are than what we are made for?
Azmaish is connected to our souls.
ps. i hope you understand what i am trying to say.
dude, when husband is cheating, there is a woman on the other side too. She is certainly not materialistic and appreciating the beauty of relationships :p
which woman with self respect wants to be 'other woman' the' doosri aurat'. I bet shes in it for the money too.
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what if your husband decides that hes had enough of boiled rice and wants to try paneer alvena.
:)
yep you cant, but then you also dont know for sure that whether you are victim or not.
i said that because we always separate ourselves from what we are than what we are made for?
Azmaish is connected to our souls.
ps. i hope you understand what i am trying to say.
So if I am a woman who is not so 'good looking' cause that is how Allah made me and my two cents worth husband started cheating on me and flirting with a more desirable woman, is that my fault, would that be my azmaaish?
which woman with self respect wants to be 'other woman' the' doosri aurat'. I bet shes in it for the money too.
Just for the argument sake, if a woman wins over someones husband, dont you think that would be a great boost to her self esteem. Lets not bring self resepct cause if the guy is sleeping with another woman, that does not say a lot about his self respect either
what if your husband decides that hes had enough of boiled rice and wants to try paneer alvena. :)
girl my (future) husband will never have enough of boiled rice, ill mix it up in ways he will never be bored.
So if I am a woman who is not so 'good looking' cause that is how Allah made me and my two cents worth husband started cheating on me and flirting with a more desirable woman, is that my fault, would that be my azmaaish?
Just for the argument sake, if a woman wins over someones husband, dont you think that would be a great boost to her self esteem. Lets not bring self resepct cause if the guy is sleeping with another woman, that does not say a lot about his self respect either
i guess it depends on the woman. For example if i know a man is taken he is out of bounds, its not right. Yes some women may get a confidence boost they are attractive enough to win over someones husbad. Thats some women for you i guess.