Re: Women say if you were raped, it is your own fault
This article isn't about walking on the streets at 5:00 a.m. drunk out of your mind. This isn't about accepting drinks from a stranger. This isn't about going out clubbing.
Let's have a look at what the article actually says and try and remove your Islamic values and be objective when reading this considering most of the people here won't even able to identify with the scenarios that have been discussed in the article:
"Almost three quarters of the women who believed this said if a victim got into bed with the assailant before an attack they should accept some responsibility":
Sex turns into rape when it becomes non-consensual. What could possibly happen to a woman that she got into bed with the man and then all of a sudden didn't want to do it anymore? Just a wild guess, perhaps he started being too aggressive or violent? Perhaps he slapped her or punched her in the face? Perhaps he was hurting her? The minute someone starts behaving like that, you will not want to proceed. The minute you don't want to proceed, it becomes rape. This even happens in marriages. Yes, as ugly as it sounds, this even happens in some marriages. As uncomfortable as it makes people feel, the reality is, people in the West do have pre-marital sex. It is not uncommon. In fact, staying a virgin is rare ... Also, don't assume the woman is with a one-night stand. It can happen with someone the woman is dating. It can be a woman's boyfriend. It can be her husband. It can be anybody she has known for a while and has been involved with.
"One-third blamed victims who had dressed provocatively or gone back to the attacker's house for a drink."
Again, dressing provocatively or going to someone's house isn't an open invitation for rape. Maybe these women went back to the house cause they liked the man? Again, maybe it was someone they were dating? Maybe these women were expecting some romance but mostlikely they were not expecting to be raped.
Things that are considered normal for goray ppl to do in gora culture ... well, it isn't normal to get raped as a result.
The attitudes displayed in this thread reminds me of this documentary I once saw. A man who was infected with HIV knowingly went out and slept with dozens of women without informing them. Guess what? People said they girls deserved to get AIDS and i'm pretty sure ppl here will read this and agree.
Aisha Dubaiwali is absolutely right when she says that anybody who has been assaulted will have to carry that guilt around with them for the rest of their lives. They already blame themselves and it's "nice" to know that "society" also blames them too. No wonder so many of these women end up killing themselves.