I was reading one thread where a girl is living in Lahore alone–and a poster called her ignorant and her father irresponsible for letting her go to another country by herself. (loved her reply btw)
Is it still considered “bad” in our society for a woman to go abroad for work or studies or just vacation (alone or with friends)? To live alone? Do people still consider her an awara woman? (dont wanan use the S-word)?
Are there any women here who have done that, studied, worked, or just vacationed, abroad? I’d love to hear experiences…
About a dozen of my Pakistani born female cousins and 2nd cousins left Pakistan at the tender age of 18 to come to universities in the USA. They have all done pretty well so far. So, I don't think it is looked down upon.
Sara do you remember.. foreign born chick... who was date raped in Lahore... trying to have too much fun??
IF a father/brother knowingly send their daughter. By herself in pakistan to study and live. She is going to be looked at as prey in pakistan.
Now women can blah about it all day long..but it is what it is.....
I would call such parents ignorant or some thing else..... wanting daughter to make connections... for marriage or what ever.,... or may be daughter too smart to talk them into ... having time of her life....
but mostly it depends on the circumstances/surrounding they send their daughter in... could be a fine line... you know when you see it.
^ Going to pakistan may be different but what about other countries? Us, canada, europe, austrailia etc?
I think parents know if their daughter is mature and capable enough to handle living alone, else they wouldn't be sending her to begin with...at least that's what i thnk.
^ Going to pakistan may be different but what about other countries? Us, canada, europe, austrailia etc?
I think parents know if their daughter is mature and capable enough to handle living alone, else they wouldn't be sending her to begin with...at least that's what i thnk.
Cant really say.. Its like a guy going there.. she can be still in touch with the relatives and stuff.
But a boy or girl living away from parents would have more options.
To me a girl should not sent out at her own...simple... unless she is true genius... trying to come up new energy source for the world...or some thing... and research can be done in pak..
My dad used to say "Its not that I don't trust you..... or that you can't handle yourself, its just that I don't trust men in general and I would rather not take a risk with your life, just for a degree".... that always shut me up. I ended up getting a great education from Pakistan, living with my family :)
In my family, even guys are not sent abroad... "baahar larkay aawaara ho jaatey hain" :p
hmmm depends… here I have seen indian girls living together just as they lived in india…
even their families know each other… they have tons of relative… they go visit over the weekend… they still consider them self precious commodity.. and trying to find a match in decent family.. be it a fellow student or other wise…
I don’t see any harm in that…
^ thus confirming you do live in a La la land...at least you did at one point in your life. :D
dude... I don't want argue with you... but plzz don't test your theory about women independent with your own daughter or sis. Results might be too painful.
I am not second guessing your father. I am sure he wanted the best for you.
Like I said, each situation is different, so you can not generlize. When Monk said "no girl should leave her parents to study abroad, simple"...that's when I have an issue.
I went on vacations with my girlfriends when I started working. I'm glad I did.
If your child wants to get up to no good, they will do it in their own home town. They don't need to go 'overseas' to find trouble. If your parents trust you, you shouldn't worry about what other people will say. The main people are your mother and father, not the rest of the world.
Its obvious.