All of these are great suggestions.....but what should he do to make her "want" to participate?
Don't you think that's the key?
He can't very well carry her off to the doctor for a physical if she doesn't agree to go. He can, perhaps, get her to the fitness center but he can't make her walk on the treadmill, can he? She has to "want" to do that.
So what should anyone do to make someone "want" to do something?
As for the comments on judging......we all do it.....whether or not we're willing to admit that we do is another story.
I am not saying things are going to change overnight, she will have a killer figure and turn into a zubaida apa right away. It is going to be a slow process, and OP has got to deal with it in a positive manner. What matters is what the OP wants out of the relationship now, not the wife, who is the mother of his kids. She is clearly not interested in anything, anymore.
If the 'positive things' don't work, get rid of those hum tv dramas, get rid of the maid and cut down on all these other luxuries. Stop spoiling her! Get her parents involved right away and tell them this is what it has come down to before she starts playing a victim.
Walking away from someone is the easiest thing to do and can be done any time. 10-15 yrs down the road, when the kids are grown up, you don't want to think maybe I should have done a little more only for the kids.
Instead of taking things away like her dramas replace them with more fun things. Gift her a month long membership to a dance class. Go swimming together as a family. Buy bikes for the whole family and make it a weekly thing. She will get the hint but in a positive manner.
If you actually respect this woman, do your best to get her involved in active life. Don’t make her do everything herself, do everything together – cook diet food for her and eat it with her. Don’t make her see the doctor, but visit the doctor together… Find some TV shows on the Net where problems of obese people are fully explained.
And yep, how is it possible that she does nothing with two kids at home, eh?...
Put elliptical/treadmill/cycle in front of TV. let her watch as much drama as she want to. When you are busy in your fav activity, you do not even notice that you are getting tired of exercising or even that fact that you are exercising
Also there could be some medical issue too. A through physical exam and some basic tests should figure things out. This may be the case of hormonal changes, abnormal fluid retention or some other medical condition too.
talk to yr wife to loose weight not becuz looks but becuz her health weight gain leeds to heat disease and arthritis boold sugar etc; talk logically show yr lov that u would like to see her happy healthy; on weeked dont give hr extra work in kitchen go for outing long walk etc strat diet menu togather it really helps