Tum karloo PF .. daikoo Pathan hai 
thats what ya always wanted
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why should a pakistani woman marry you?
what you have to offer?
tu AFGHAN kar lai ge.. 
bashar Pashtoun ast.. 
Not necessarily true. I don’t mean to sound mean or blunt, but it’s obvious that that no girl would agree to marry him (unless someone is after green card). Normally in this age, the only option is divorced women or widows. My chachi’s father wanted a son and he married a widow that had 5-6 children from her first husband that had passed away.
So the question really isn’t why should he marry a Pakistani woman, the question should rather be would a Pakistan woman agree to marry me?
Also, as Xenophanez said, another question would’ve been “would a Pakistani woman be a better mother for my children”.
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Thanks for responding, but its not the mother issue that I was thinking about at the time. My kids still have their mom and at 16 and 13, they are pretty well adjusted and happy. I am being a little selfish here and asking what are the benefits of marrying a pakistani woman over say any other woman of any other culture for me, who is Pakistani by birth? I hate to say this, but I am not a muslim, so the religion thing is not a good argument to use with me, at least not at the moment. What are the advantages and disadvantages for someone like me who has a college degree, is very westernized, who is traveled to many different countries, and who deep inside still feels a longing for the mountains and foothills of his homeland. Someone who feels homesick at the sound of a sitar, the smell of pakortas and Paratas, and who's ears prick up whenever Urdu or Pukhto are spoken. At this point why should I or should I want to marry a pakistani girl?
Thanks for responding, but its not the mother issue that I was thinking about at the time. My kids still have their mom and at 16 and 13, they are pretty well adjusted and happy. I am being a little selfish here and asking what are the benefits of marrying a pakistani woman over say any other woman of any other culture for me, who is Pakistani by birth? I hate to say this, but I am not a muslim, so the religion thing is not a good argument to use with me, at least not at the moment. What are the advantages and disadvantages for someone like me who has a college degree, is very westernized, who is traveled to many different countries, and who deep inside still feels a longing for the mountains and foothills of his homeland. Someone who feels homesick at the sound of a sitar, the smell of pakortas and Paratas, and who's ears prick up whenever Urdu or Pukhto are spoken. At this point why should I or should I want to marry a pakistani girl?
You just answered your own question.
'That's' why^...
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I think life 1 would be a better place to find those answers.. 
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I can see that with many of you my age is a factor. I accept that, I am not a young man, I know this, but at the same time, I am very young for my age, and I am often mistaken for someone in his 30's or told that I am youthful enough to be in my 30's. I have no illusions about finding someone who is way too young for me, but at the same time, I know that within the culture younger women marrying older men is quite normal. I am dating a 33 year old woman now, but she is not Pakistani. Also, I am not traditional in the sense that a Pakistani woman for me has to be a virgin or never married before. I would gladly consider a widow, or someone who was previously married but who is now divorced. So putting aside all the age issues, why should I consider marrying a Pakistani woman.
And for the record, I am not wealthy, but I do have a good job, I am kind, loving, affectionate, respectful, playful, compassionate, loyal, honorable, trustworthy, and a whole host of other qualities that I am sure many would find worth having. Just ask my mom! I love to sing, read, fish, boat, hike, camp, travel, go to the movies, theater, and so on and so forth. My problem is American women often can't accept my pakistaniness...is that even a word? Lastly, does any of this even sound like something a 46 year old would write?
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Pres,
Man I feel you on that, I really do, but I don't see the upside with a Pakistani woman. Most that I have met, are educated and really snobby, or not well educated and generally kept behind closed doors. I have yet to meet one Pakistani woman Punjabi or Pathan who was both intelligent and down to earth....meaning fun and carefree and personable. Notice I did not mention a thing about pretty. It is important to me, but I understand that culturally its not really a focus...or would I be wrong in that?
Thanks for responding, but its not the mother issue that I was thinking about at the time. My kids still have their mom and at 16 and 13, they are pretty well adjusted and happy. I am being a little selfish here and asking what are the benefits of marrying a pakistani woman over say any other woman of any other culture for me, who is Pakistani by birth? I hate to say this, but I am not a muslim, so the religion thing is not a good argument to use with me, at least not at the moment. What are the advantages and disadvantages for someone like me who has a college degree, is very westernized, who is traveled to many different countries, and who deep inside still feels a longing for the mountains and foothills of his homeland. Someone who feels homesick at the sound of a sitar, the smell of pakortas and Paratas, and who's ears prick up whenever Urdu or Pukhto are spoken. At this point why should I or should I want to marry a pakistani girl?
I can see that with many of you my age is a factor. I accept that, I am not a young man, I know this, but at the same time, I am very young for my age, and I am often mistaken for someone in his 30's or told that I am youthful enough to be in my 30's. I have no illusions about finding someone who is way too young for me, but at the same time, I know that within the culture younger women marrying older men is quite normal. I am dating a 33 year old woman now, but she is not Pakistani. Also, I am not traditional in the sense that a Pakistani woman for me has to be a virgin or never married before. I would gladly consider a widow, or someone who was previously married but who is now divorced. So putting aside all the age issues, why should I consider marrying a Pakistani woman.
And for the record, I am not wealthy, but I do have a good job, I am kind, loving, affectionate, respectful, playful, compassionate, loyal, honorable, trustworthy, and a whole host of other qualities that I am sure many would find worth having. Just ask my mom! I love to sing, read, fish, boat, hike, camp, travel, go to the movies, theater, and so on and so forth. My problem is American women often can't accept my pakistaniness...is that even a word? Lastly, does any of this even sound like something a 46 year old would write?
Contradiction alert.
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Shikra, you paint a very dismal picture for someone like me, is it really that bad? Do I really have to hold out for a green card queen?
And, yeah I think a Pakistani Girl would marry me, they could do a lot worse, and they would have it so much better with me than with say a traditional non-western husband. I don't mean mini-skirts and wild partying, but being seen as an equal, having their opinion valued, being able to acheive whatever their dreams might be without fear of making their husband look or feel bad, all that entails.
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Shikra, I don't see those two issues as contradictions as much as I see them as issues that are an internal conflict for me, and I would think for many who come from one background and are trying to assimilate into another culture. I love that I am both an American and a Pakistani, are you saing the two are incompatible or mutually exclusive? I disagree...
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talk to you all tomorrow I hope. Remember if you want to reach me other than here try tiger37229 on the hoo!!!
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he is 45 yrs old, dont you think he is capable of making his own decision now
farsi ki tang tor di 
Aliyish: Naaa too old for me.. and beside woh muslim nahi hain na 
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@Ifti.
I am hanged up now on the part where you said that you are not Muslim anymore that is very disturbing for me. If you have left Islam and if you are looking for a Pakistani girl make sure that this girl and her parents know that you are not Muslim any more.
Why that matters is because being a former Muslim you should know that a Muslim woman is not allowed to marry a non Muslim and majority of Muslims in Pakistan believe in that. As per our belief this nikah will not be valid and if the girl or her parents find out later that you are not Muslim anymore it can be very devastating for that poor soul and her parents.
I fail to see the point with this thread.
It seems to me that you're hoping to get convinced to look into the possibility of marrying a pakistani girl. And that's not happening.
I've lived here nearly all my life, and have only been back home twice in 45 years, so why should I consider marrying a Pakistani woman? What does she have to offer, other than in a religious sense, that I can not get from any other woman of any other cultural background?
So you are 45 yrs old.... by the way you can find lot women of Pakistani origin in US aswell. I think one should try to marry a person with similar religious and cultural background. Rest, I think you it is time for you to stop asking these why questions, instead start looking for a person who is compaitaible with you and get married!
All the best!
I've lived here nearly all my life, and have only been back home twice in 45 years, so why should I consider marrying a Pakistani woman? What does she have to offer, other than in a religious sense, that I can not get from any other woman of any other cultural background?
Why should u marry a paki woman?