Why Should I marry a Pakistani woman?

[chacha_Ghalib]

@Ikhan1

Why Should I marry a Pakistani woman

maybe you want to punish her in this world :D

[aiklarkithe]

@Aliyish

why should a paki woman marry you :aq:

i agree with you Aliyish.

[zobia]

@Mirch

Who is stopping you to marry whoever you want to marry, you are already late , do it as soon as possible and send me the invitation , shadi ka khana khai bohat din ho ga-a.

seriously…that is why i am waiting for Ata bhai’s shadi

[zobia]

Re: Why Should I marry a Pakistani woman?

Ikhan1...u r not pakistani urself so u dont have to marry one.

[5Abi]

Re: Why Should I marry a Pakistani woman?

kissi habshan say kar lo shaadi, sho 'nuff

[farishta2]

@Shikra

I don't think his parents are forcing him to marry a Pakistani woman. 2 reasons:

1. He didn't mention that in his post
2. At age 45, parents would want their son JUST MARRIED, they wouldn't care if he marries a kali, gori, cheeni, pakistani, or whatever, as long as he gets married (preferably to a Muslim), ethnic background probably wouldn't matter to them.

are you planning on chasing him away too??

[Shikra]

Re: Why Should I marry a Pakistani woman?

Ab tou aap sharminda kar rahi hain I think Saarim and this person may be related somehow

[farishta2]

Re: Why Should I marry a Pakistani woman?

please sharminda ho ke mujhe sharminda na karein

[mama_ki_dua]

@let uz chat

No offence intended but if your 45 then it’s too late now.

[mama_ki_dua]

@Ikhan1

Thanks for responding, but its not the mother issue that I was thinking about at the time. My kids still have their mom and at 16 and 13, they are pretty well adjusted and happy. I am being a little selfish here and asking what are the benefits of marrying a pakistani woman over say any other woman of any other culture for me, who is Pakistani by birth? I hate to say this, but I am not a muslim, so the religion thing is not a good argument to use with me, at least not at the moment. What are the advantages and disadvantages for someone like me who has a college degree, is very westernized, who is traveled to many different countries, and who deep inside still feels a longing for the mountains and foothills of his homeland. Someone who feels homesick at the sound of a sitar, the smell of pakortas and Paratas, and who's ears prick up whenever Urdu or Pukhto are spoken. At this point why should I or should I want to marry a pakistani girl?

Uncle Ifti whatever you do please don't marry a 23 year old girl from a village.

[Samad]

@Ikhan1

I've lived here nearly all my life, and have only been back home twice in 45 years, so why should I consider marrying a Pakistani woman? What does she have to offer, other than in a religious sense, that I can not get from any other woman of any other cultural background?

If you are 45 and you plan to marry a Pakistani woman, then this is what you should look forward to ( I presume she will be 35+ since you are 40+)

1) Aap ki beewi ko koi chere ga nahi (uska hussan almost khatam ho chuka ho ga)

2) Aap ko chaabi wala teeka estimaal nahi karna paray ga

3) Subah unki shakal dekh kar aap ko pehlay 3 din dar lagay ga, phir used to ho jayengay.

4) Aap ko ziyada romance nahi karna paray ga, kiyonkay unka wazan 150kg + ho ga. Uthana door ki baat, unka thumka aap ko maar dalay ga.

5) toothpaste kam estimaal karaingi, kiyonkay daant siraf do chaar hi bachay hongay.

6) saaban kam estimaal karaingee, kiyonkay shampoo hi kaafi hota hai , ussi ki jhaag say banda naha lay.

7) Unka zindagi bhar ka zevar bech kar aap aik M5 lay sakte haiN.

Hope it helps.

[mama_ki_dua]

@Samad

If you are 45 and you plan to marry a Pakistani woman, then this is what you should look forward to ( I presume she will be 35+ since you are 40+)

1. Aap ki beewi ko koi chere ga nahi (uska hussan almost khatam ho chuka ho ga)

2. Aap ko chaabi wala teeka estimaal nahi karna paray ga

3. Subah unki shakal dekh kar aap ko pehlay 3 din dar lagay ga, phir used to ho jayengay.

4. Aap ko ziyada romance nahi karna paray ga, kiyonkay unka wazan 150kg + ho ga. Uthana door ki baat, unka thumka aap ko maar dalay ga.

5. toothpaste kam estimaal karaingi, kiyonkay daant siraf do chaar hi bachay hongay.

6. saaban kam estimaal karaingee, kiyonkay shampoo hi kaafi hota hai , ussi ki jhaag say banda naha lay.

7. Unka zindagi bhar ka zevar bech kar aap aik M5 lay sakte haiN.

Hope it helps.

[bob_chasm]

@Ikhan1

Thanks for responding, but its not the mother issue that I was thinking about at the time. My kids still have their mom and at 16 and 13, they are pretty well adjusted and happy. I am being a little selfish here and asking what are the benefits of marrying a pakistani woman over say any other woman of any other culture for me, who is Pakistani by birth? I hate to say this, but I am not a muslim, so the religion thing is not a good argument to use with me, at least not at the moment. What are the advantages and disadvantages for someone like me who has a college degree, is very westernized, who is traveled to many different countries, and who deep inside still feels a longing for the mountains and foothills of his homeland. Someone who feels homesick at the sound of a sitar, the smell of pakortas and Paratas, and who's ears prick up whenever Urdu or Pukhto are spoken. At this point why should I or should I want to marry a pakistani girl?

There are Pakistani women who are culturally Muslim, but who are not practicing strict Sharia style Islam. In other words, they enjoy annual Eid, Bakra Eid and the occassional kawali etc only, but dont practice the rest of it. They also enjoy mushairaas, Indian movies and humor and the local cusine which apparently your western wife couldnt share in with you. However, usually, these women are from wealthier and more educated families. Considering the fact that the average house in an affluent suburb of Pakistan is worth about $750k, there is little hope for you marrying one of them, unless you are worth more than half a million dollars or make more than $150k a year.

I will say, it is too bad you didnt bring up your children to enjoy these Pakistani flavors and things. Otherwise, you could have had them to enjoy the rest of your life with you, without needing a Pakistani wife in your mid 40s.

[Your_President]

@Ikhan1

Pres,

Man I feel you on that, I really do, but I don't see the upside with a Pakistani woman. Most that I have met, are educated and really snobby, or not well educated and generally kept behind closed doors. I have yet to meet one Pakistani woman Punjabi or Pathan who was both intelligent and down to earth....meaning fun and carefree and personable. Notice I did not mention a thing about pretty. It is important to me, but I understand that culturally its not really a focus...or would I be wrong in that?

I can completely understand how you feel about not being able to find a woman with a healthy balance between the two cultures.

When was the last time you visited Pakistan? Or at least visited Pakistan with the intent of actually finding a 'bride'? I'd suggest, instead of asking members here, most of whose exposure to the western world is watching 'heroes' or 'sex &the city' on 'cable tv', perhaps you should visit Pakistan. This time, be on the look out for a potential partner. Apparently, Pakistan has 'advanced' greatly in the last few years in terms of womens' liberation and perhaps some of that could be somewhat appealing to someone like yourself who hasn't seen that side of Pakistan.

However, there are members here who do live in foreign countries and are in touch with their roots back home so their advice could give you some perspective.

In all honesty, at the end of the day, it all boils down to the simple fact that unless you 'see' for yourself and 'look' for yourself, you will not know what you could (or not) be missing in Pakistan.

Why Pakistan? Or a Pakistani? Simply because clearly, you have the desire to be somewhat close to your roots if not completely tied to them. If you want to be attached to something --- marry it! (ok, so maybe that doesn't apply to 'all' things). But if you miss or want to be closer to the culture, the people, the language, the inside jokes, the food, the 'feel', one way is to find a suitable woman that fits your lifestyle and bring her into the family. Being a Pakistani woman she will naturally infuse all that into your life.
If that's something you feel is missing from your life after 45 years, 2 kids and a broken non-pakistani marriage, then you know what you need to do.

If that's missing but not really something you can't live without, then a good woman of any culture is as good match as any.
Only you can decide what you're missing deep down. You've experimented with cultures, people, sex, countries ---- what does it now, after 45 years, boil down to?

[Shikra]

@mama_ki_dua

Uncle Ifti whatever you do please don’t marry a 23 year old girl from a village.

Yes, I agree. But you can marry a 23 years old girl from the city because she will milk you

[S08]

Re: Why Should I marry a Pakistani woman?

Asal mein woh khan bhai chahrahe hain kai pakistan mein bohot desperate log hain yahan usa mein aanae kai lye...aur parents porae duniya mein parishan hain beti ki shadi ho jae...
so it will be veryyyyyyyyyyyyyy easy for him to get pakistani lady from pakistan. regardless larki 16 saal ki ho ya 50 saal ki. aur wahan pakistani parents nahi dkek tae larka/admi 50 saal ka ho ya 100 sal ka bhuda. uska religion ho ya nahi....oh woh bas dhekae gae oh yeh tu america sai...bohot paisa hai...blah blah..hamari beti amrika chali jae gi...

samaj ayee.

[Mirch]

@same

Asal mein woh khan bhai chahrahe hain kai pakistan mein bohot desperate log hain yahan usa mein aanae kai lye...aur parents porae duniya mein parishan hain beti ki shadi ho jae... so it will be veryyyyyyyyyyyyyy easy for him to get pakistani lady from pakistan. regardless larki 16 saal ki ho ya 50 saal ki. aur wahan pakistani parents nahi dkek tae larka/admi 50 saal ka ho ya 100 sal ka bhuda. uska religion ho ya nahi....oh woh bas dhekae gae oh yeh tu america sai...bohot paisa hai...blah blah..hamari beti amrika chali jae gi...

samaj ayee.

Nahi samajh aai, kia pakistani larkian bakrian hain aur unkay maan baap qasai jo sirf paisay k lee-a baytee ko baich daytay hain ?

[fghd]

Re: Why Should I marry a Pakistani woman?

^ its sad but true in mostly poor families with more than 1 daughter to be waiting to get married.

[S08]

Mirch,

its true. poor families. u see a lot. espically illiterate.

[Mirch]

@same

Mirch,

its true. poor families. u see a lot. espically illiterate.

Abn itnay log kah rahay hain to maan laytay hain.:)