Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife
**well it may be is because women have a poorer sense of humour and less composure as compared to men.
Nobody is a born comedian, but I think everyone can join in and have a laugh. If Nadz find her husband joking with her sister, maybe she should also chip in with her wit or just watch and laugh, so they know she's also enjoying herself and has a sense of humour so maybe next time they'll involve her too? This is so much better than being all self centered, sitting there like a stone, just burning and waiting for people to royal attention to her.
Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife
omg Nadz I share your sentiments!! I experienced this while I was in pakistan with my husband. We would go out with his family and I was left walking alone with my mother in law or something while he strolled in the front with his sister and it did upset me a lot actually. Then I realized that they are afraid of being labeled as "biwi ka ghulam" since this is usually talked about a lot in pakistan. I often found myself sitting quietly in the corner or something while he chit chatted with everyone , so I decided to take matters into my own hands and take the initiative to walk with him or talk to him so he can feel more comfortable.
Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife
Oh i can soooo relate to this. when my in laws are over (very rarely, but hey) my hubby acts over manly. He wont even lift a finger, put his own cup away, he acts like im the slave and he's the master literally. He doesnt talk to me and i questioned him about this. His response
"i dont want my family to think im under the thumb" - my response "how can u be under the thumb if u aknowledge my presence".
I dont really care anymore about this as i know when theyre gone he's ok with me and he knows how to deal with his family and what their perceptions are
Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife
The physical contact allowed between brothers and sisters vary from family to family. Some does not even allow a hand shake whereas others allow hugs and cheek kissing. Whatever is the norm of the family, the wife of the guy needs to accept this without being jealous. The wife on the other hand can also be loving with her brother and her husband can also take this wrong. So try to tolerate the practices of the family which have been existent way before the girl and guy married each other.
Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife
ROFL ROFL ROFL
u guys are seriously disgusting. ROFLLLL. husband-wife is NOT the only close relationship humans have. learn to treat familial relationships with respect.
Creeps. what kind of a sick-minded wife/husband would get jealous of his/her husband/wife sharing a bond with his/her sibling or take it the wrong way.
seriously, life1 is not even amusing anymore.
no wonder desi mentality is so damn screwed up...u guys think of everything in a sexual way. too much frustration, i must say.
Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife
ROFL ROFL ROFL
u guys are seriously disgusting. ROFLLLL. husband-wife is NOT the only close relationship humans have. learn to treat familial relationships with respect.
Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife
Alright. Lets see what the religion forum has to to tell us about it. Because Im seriously concerned now. Alhamdolillah I didnt refer to my husband so im not the one to be jealous here. I found it weird anyway as a third person. But the way you people are expressing your opinions I honestly need to tide this dirt away from my mind if I am given a convincing answer in the light of religion that if it is alright a 29/30 years old brother kisses his 22 years old sister’s cheek. Maybe I need to be corrected and not be embarrassed it happens anytime in front of me again
I personally think personal contact is allowed between brother and sister if it remains within decency limits. A brother at the time of rukhsati of his sister can kiss her sister on cheek along with forehead because he can be emotional at that moment (even if he did not ever kissed her on cheeks before). The niyyat is what counts I think as suggested by ZK and the niyyat is always pure in majority of the cases.
Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife
lets see. whats bad in clearing the confusion that I have?
and, we may not follow religion in all matters, but atleast we should know, be aware of Does and Donts, and may Allah guide us towards the Does only and abstain us from the Donts. It be any any thing.
Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife
thanks for the references Ashy. Thats like a sensible and a helpful poster I have always found you to be
I think at the time of rukhsati or any emotional crisis one doesnt care about it. Emotional fervor is so high. But touching and gudgudding and poocho poocho karing and cuddling and kissing on the cheek, you both being grown ups, every now and than, looks weird to me honestly.
Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife
ROFL ROFL ROFL
u guys are seriously disgusting. ROFLLLL. husband-wife is NOT the only close relationship humans have. learn to treat familial relationships with respect.
Creeps. what kind of a sick-minded wife/husband would get jealous of his/her husband/wife sharing a bond with his/her sibling or take it the wrong way.
seriously, life1 is not even amusing anymore.
no wonder desi mentality is so damn screwed up...u guys think of everything in a sexual way. too much frustration, i must say.
Phil Im seriously amazed at your own frustration about it. Hold it pal and take a long breath, please :)
Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife
Awww thnx for the flowers hun
It does look wierd to me also since my upbringing is like that. So this all depends on the tarbiat. My brother hugs me, holds my hand, kisses me on hand and forehead, puts his hand on my head and dabaoofy my gala with both his hands (when he is angry at me which leaves me screaming at top of my voice :D). Thats it. So every family has their different practices and we can find something wierd if they seem to be more liberal than ours.
Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife
Mirage im sorry but I have to dsiagree here. Religion shouldn't even play a role in this, do we see nonMuslim brothers and sisters acting a certain way? No! Most everybody knows their boundaries and do not cross them!
I just find it disturbing to have to get a fatwa on kissing your own sibling on the cheek.
which leaves me screaming at top of my voice :D). Thats it. So every family has their different practices and we can find something wierd if they seem to be more liberal than ours.