why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife

[psyah]

Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife

@philosophy

no i dont. explain. it's ok to show affection towards your wife in front of kids.

I'm saying that I do show affection ... I'm saying that my folks don't and somehow I feel that I'm being less religious as a result ... may be it's to do with shyness being part of 'iman (faith).

[Shak]

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@Niksik

Why are you bothering me? Go hold your wife’s hand or sit down with her chipak key on the couch !

Biwi abhi aai nahi couch aur chipkana pehlay hee aa gya hai

[Niksik]

Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife

kaan pakring, taubah astasghfirullah

[S02]

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@Niksik

I heard a lecture by an aalim recently where he says that men, when they come home from work, should kiss and hug their children, and kiss their wives on their heads. But do theyyyyyyy Oh noooooooooooooooooooooo why would they…o why o whyyyyyyy, wouldn’t all hell break loose yeah?

some do

[Krypton]

Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife

@psyah

I'm saying that I do show affection ... I'm saying that my folks don't and somehow I feel that I'm being less religious as a result ... may be it's to do with shyness being part of 'iman (faith).

no, ur just being less desi. woho. good job! yay psyah!

[Krypton]

Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife

@Niksik

I heard a lecture by an aalim recently where he says that men, when they come home from work, should kiss and hug their children, and kiss their wives on their heads. But do theyyyyyyy Oh noooooooooooooooooooooo why would they…o why o whyyyyyyy, wouldn’t all hell break loose yeah?

hehe this is cute.

[mirage]

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@Dhoti_Main_Dhamaka

…fair loki kaiday O daikho budhe daay thalay lag`ga

So no one is really at fault here. Its just the pressure of “loki”. Why should “loki” be given such an importance in the very first place? what good is the pressure of society serving us if it is simply taking away little and sweet gestures of our lives only to make itself happy and satisfied.

[nadz123]

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I don't mean holding hands I meant normal stuff I've seen husband talk to mum n sis jokling with them all the time and he's always messing around thang karna usual sibling love u cud say, but I want some thangggg my way too, with me its ,pass the ketchup, did u fry these and where's the pepsi,

[cutefifa]

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@Niksik

I heard a lecture by an aalim recently where he says that men, when they come home from work, should kiss and hug their children, and kiss their wives on their heads. But do theyyyyyyy Oh noooooooooooooooooooooo why would they…o why o whyyyyyyy, wouldn’t all hell break loose yeah?

I think it happens when they live in separate home. In joint family system it is not possible.

But it sounds good… Koun sey Aalim they?? I want his contact number so that in future i can make him talk to my hubby

[Jolie]

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I don't mean holding hands I meant normal stuff I've seen husband talk to mum n sis jokling with them all the time and he's always messing around thang karna usual sibling love u cud say, but I want some thangggg my way too, with me its ,pass the ketchup, did u fry these and where's the pepsi,

Perhaps you guys just don't have that chemistry in between?

[mirage]

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no its not about chemistry. Its about the family pressure a desi guy has to suffer from. its a totally different thing.

[Doppleganger]

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@Niksik

I heard a lecture by an aalim recently where he says that men, when they come home from work, should kiss and hug their children, and kiss their wives on their heads. But do theyyyyyyy Oh noooooooooooooooooooooo why would they…o why o whyyyyyyy, wouldn’t all hell break loose yeah?

Kissing? Yeh kiss kisam ka aalim tha?

[Doppleganger]

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@mirage

bhai tum ne kya ilaaj kiya

Got gay married hence his good marriage.

[Jolie]

Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife

no its not about chemistry. Its about the family pressure a desi guy has to suffer from. its a totally different thing.

No not really, even 'sweet talking' (another name for flirting?) I'm assuming where two grown up married individuals act like teenage love birds in front of family is not even appreciated in some conservative Western families, thats total cheez and chechorpan. And yes desis are also conservative.

However even in desi families I've seen husband and wife sharing a light hearted banter, making and passing general witty comments and anecdotes on dining table and just having a laugh and making everybody laugh. For that you need have a chemistry, a genuinely witty partner and more importantly a complimenting family environment. I mean who would dare making a lighter hearted jokey comment to a wife who would bust out complaining non stop in the bedroom saying that 'how dare you made a joke on me in front of your family, everybody was laughing I felt so insulted bla bla...you don't care about my feelings bla bla', and just be miserable for next two weeks?

[mirage]

Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife

@Doppleganger

Kissing? Yeh kiss kisam ka aalim tha?

yeah. didnt he know its haram He should have issued a fatwa against himself for this. A better Aalim will suggest to wear your wife in your feet when you come from home

[Decent_6Chora]

Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife

hope your are not confusing "being nice" with "being romantic"

romance need privacy while being nice does not.

[mirage]

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Just imagine; we protect our feelings and bodies for our future "husbands". And when we get married, we give over all we have to offer to them, they and us are like libaas for each other, and yet man you cant touch or kiss your wife on the forehead out of your bedroom. Whats that supposed to mean? Reha dared Nadz to hold her husband's hand in front of his mom, I know she was kidding but to take it seriously, whats the harm if your wife may hold your hand in public? Why do parents become so intolerant to see their sons happy and intimate with their wives. A MIL of a colleague of mine, starts to bang the door right at 8 in the morning every morning when they are sleeping. Such things hurt us and we wonder why such mothers have such shrunken hearts? And then Nomi thinks its DILS who cant stand their MILS :(

[mirage]

Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife

No not really, even 'sweet talking' (another name for flirting?) I'm assuming where two grown up married individuals act like teenage love birds in front of family is not even appreciated in some conservative Western families, thats total cheez and chechorpan. And yes desis are also conservative.

**However even in desi families I've seen husband and wife sharing a light hearted banter, making and passing general witty comments and anecdotes on dining table and just having a laugh and making everybody laugh. For that you need have a chemistry, a genuinely witty partner and more importantly a complimenting family environment. I mean who would dare making a lighter hearted jokey comment to a wife who would bust out complaining non stop in the bedroom saying that 'how dare you made a joke on me in front of your family, everybody was laughing I felt so insulted bla bla...you don't care about my feelings bla bla', and just be miserable for next two weeks?

**well it may be is because women have a poorer sense of humour and less composure as compared to men.

[fairywings85]

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@nadz123

is openly talking sweetly to ur wife embarrassing or something......

Apparently YES

[Jolie]

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Just imagine; we protect our feelings and bodies for our future "husbands". And when we get married, we give over all we have to offer to them, they and us are like libaas for each other, and yet man you cant touch or kiss your wife on the forehead out of your bedroom. Whats that supposed to mean? Reha dared Nadz to hold her husband's hand in front of his mom, I know she was kidding but to take it seriously, whats the harm if your wife may hold your hand in public? Why do parents become so intolerant to see their sons happy and intimate with their wives. A MIL of a colleague of mine, starts to bang the door right at 8 in the morning every morning when they are sleeping. Such things hurt us and we wonder why such mothers have such shrunken hearts? And then Nomi thinks its DILS who cant stand their MILS :(

Since you would like to bring Islam into this with your libas comment now tell is there an account of Prohet pbuh showing physical affection to his wives in front of others? Or find me any example of nobel Companions where they're seen being 'intimate' with their wives out of their bedrooms?

And I think you are pathetically misunderstood about the libas comment if you think you can use that reference to justify pda, whats next people justifying sex in public because husband and wife are supposed to be libaas of each other?