why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife

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Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife

The people that might have an issue with a brother being close to his siblings might have bigger issues themselves. So why not worry about that first?

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^ hehe, lol. i dnt have that kind of hug/kiss relationship with my siblings even though i m the youngest n we do have a good enuff age gap. but i find it very sweet when i see elder people greet their sisters with a kiss on the forehead. i find that sweet, mite nt like it for myself cuz i m nt a touchy touchy person lol bt ya its adorable to see others doing it.

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I’ve heared from a aalim that when husband comes home, wife shld greet him on the door with smile. They shld dress up nice for their husbands. But do theyyyyyyy :mad: Oh noooooooooooooooooooooo why would they…o why o whyyyyyyy, wouldn’t all hell break loose yeah? :mad:

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han! yeh tu suna hai bt dekha nai. wife ready hoti hai bt with her complains…aaj aapki ami ne mera cup neeche wali almari mein rakh diya, aur apki behan ne meri ice-cream kha li…

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nas ((Radiya Allahu Anhu) who said that a man said to Allah’s Messenger: ‘A man of us meets his brother or friend, could one bow to him?’ The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) replied: “No**”. The man asked: ‘To embrace and kiss him?’ The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: “No”. The man asked: ‘What about shaking hands?’ The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: “Yes”" .
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Thats your reference. Okay you win

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Re: why r husbands usually sweeter/nicer to their sis and mums in public but not wife

Do you really think that’s what wives complain about?

Something tells me you’ve never met a real woman living in a joint family :rolleyes:

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the references Ashy posted tell us such questions have been asked already before. And people should ask what bothers their mind. Sara, im not a nosy person nor do i interfere in another people's affairs. You might have seen this much through my posting atleast that I very much believe freedom of action, expression and equal rights. Maybe I felt shocked because I have NEVER seen such a thing before, anywhere. So its like a cultural shock maybe. And how can we exclude religious guidance for the affairs of everyday life matters? There is a confusion, its better to get it cleared. Even if one is proved wrong, they will correct themselves.

As far as following the religion is concerned, isnt it what is has been made for? to turn to and ask if you have any questions in your mind. And why does always this excuse brims to the surface that oh what else are we following of the religion. I completely reject this excuse. This is not a justification.

In Sura Alasar it is clearly stated:

*In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. *

*1. By (the Token of) Time (through the ages), *
*2. Verily Man is in loss, *

*3. Except such as have Faith, and do righteous deeds, and (join together) in the mutual teaching of Truth, and of Patience and Constancy.
*

Its not a religious blackmailing or boasting at all. You folks know my own religious knowledge is much poorer than all of you together.

Disagreements and arguments occur everywhere. I wish we just be civilised and tender and try to understand where the other person is coming from.

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Did I say I won? Im not here to win :smack:

And the reference above was about brothers, not opposite gender. where there could be a danger of sexual feeling incited.

Looking for more bashing. Im actually enjoying it. Honestly. Keep them coming :@:

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I love you naivety. Is all this mess about "getting closer" to your siblings only?

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bingo! :D

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im frustrated at the mentality. NOT sexually frustrated, to look at every interaction between any man and woman in a sexual manner. . ROTFL. chill out.

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First thing first, I put 45 48 as ages coz i thought by 30 and 22 u were trying to prove a point that both are mature. Well 45 and 48 are maturer.

About the Reference, Its saying Hugging ur brother is wrong. Thats just weak !

I wasnt bashing, if u r going to bring such references than whats the point of argument.

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respectable brother, what i meant by maturity was physical maturity, useless when i wasnt able to make my point to you. the analogy however doesnt fit here.

I didnt bring those references, first, and I was majorly refering to the first link. which makes more sense to me as well. Shaking hands or hugging (same gender) is very very common practice and even i dont feel inclined it should be prohibited because this touch is not going to arouse sexual feelings does it?

and dont worry we are not here for bashing each others. opinions become stronger and clearer with the help of arguments. Its a healthy exercise and it should be taken as such. peace.

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lol did I even hinted that you were sexually frustrated? :( if it is how my words sounded like, my apologies. Never read you that way.