About a month ago I met this guy for a work related thing (let’s call him Walter Melon). It didn’t work out work wise but we kept in touch. We texted every few days…it stayed friendly and professional and then it got a little more friendly than professional.
Anyway, so from the texting I thought he was into me but it’s been 3 days now and he hasn’t contacted me once! I thought we were hitting it off, so im totally bummed out at the cold shoulder. I don’t wanna scare him away, so how do I not come off as a clingy little girl and how do I stop being so bummed out if he’s not into me!!!
But, why all of a sudden? everything was going great.....
I've never wnated someone to be into me so badly. how do I stop feeling like this? I have other things going on in my life, I have a healthy(ish) self esteem, so I hate myself for feeling so bad about it!
If you are serious to proceed things with him, try to interact/ meet with him more often like over coffee, lunch etc. You need to get to know each other before starting to be into each other. You are just going through infatuation since a month is such a short time to fell for a person. You need to give yourself and the guy sufficient time before you can finally decide whether you both are right for each other or not and whether you both really want to proceed things further or not.
He might be a player only and if you are looking for long term relationship leading to marriage, you will need to be carefuly since the begining.
Try to contact him over sms and see how he responds. Invite him over coffee. Take things slowly and consider him only as your friend. If things start proceeding towards something more, good for you. Otherwise, you will get a good friend.
maybe you feel like this because you like the chase? I'm just saying from personal experience when a guy is not interested, I want him to be interested SO BADLY...?
re: the issue. I've quickly realized that people aren't as prompt about texting/calling/emailing back as I am. It takes people I know 3-4 days to answer texts so maybe he's one of those? Just gets busy and caught up with this stuff?
As Passionate said - Maybe he's just not that into you? And do you know for sure he's already not in a relationship? Either way, I'd take it slow and make sure he makes an effort. Guys who don't make an effort are no good. And if a guy really likes a girl, he shows it...so don't find excuses for him.
I hope u didnt call him that before he stopped texting.