why i want an abcd husband

[Smurf]

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since he would hate the "typical desi mentality" he would be against desi married guy habits of checking out other women.
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All guys do that Desi or not, married or otherwise.

[ashtray]

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@shweetdreamz

CM and initiator: i think there’s a price one has to pay for a good life. there are opportunity costs and tradeoffs in every aspect of life.

This is the kind of reasoning and trade-offs that lands perfectly good college students dancing in TT bars. (suna hae, dekha nahi :halo: )

[lollypop_man]

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@Smurf

All guys do that Desi or not, married or otherwise.

gals stare too. desi or not, married or otherwise.

[faizy]

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LOL!!!

shweetz: :k: u go girl :biggthumb

[Code_Red]

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your requirement is inconsistant …

All guys do check out girls, except thullas (homo) and mullahs… so be ready to share him other women from time to time. or else if he is least interested in other hot babes apart from you ( yes i assume you would look hot in mini skirt or bikiny, after fresh wax waghera ) then you should atleast be open minded to share him with some other ‘man’, he might be swining both ways, remember be open minded and explore new horizons

Good luck :k:

[danial]

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^ codey i knew you were a good chef, but what the heck is the above post mang, what kinda homo fairy post is that.

oh and if you are being sarcastic, then i m sorry,

allah mian apko nanhey munnay bachoo kee maa atta karay :halo:

[Najim]

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I think codey is just being sarcastic.

[saieen]

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@danial shah

^ codey i knew you were a good chef, but what the heck is the above post mang, what kinda homo fairy post is that.

oh and if you are being sarcastic, then i m sorry,
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allah mian apko nanhey munnay bachoo kee maa atta karay** :halo:

bachon samait?

SD: good going. i’m with. let me know which bakra u want to krich and i’d halallied him for you :k:

[Code_Red]

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@danial shah

^ codey i knew you were a good chef, but what the heck is the above post mang, what kinda homo fairy post is that.

oh and if you are being sarcastic, then i m sorry,

allah mian apko nanhey munnay bachoo kee maa atta karay :halo:

Arey bhai ! kia ghans kha aya hai

Seedhi tarha ke de allah miyaan mujhe nanhey munney payarey bachey ata karey,
Ab bachey darakhtoon pe tu lagtey nahi baaqi Allah miyaan khud hi samajhdar hai …

[Sparrow]

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@Code_Red

your requirement is inconsistant ... All guys do check out girls, except thullas (homo)

*thullas *means homo? i thought the word was kusrah?

[Sara516]

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no khushra is hermaphrodite (someone who is technically both gneders)

[Sara516]

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This thread has served its purpose :D

@Anil Khan

Fariha begum, to say I'm disappointed would be an understatement. I thought you were one of the few girls here on GS that had some sharam and haya when it came to preserving our islamic and pakistani culture. Its not so much the idea of you wanting an abcd husband that bothers me but its the things that you want to do after marriage (i.e. wearing sleeveless saris, short skirts, clubbing).

You want someone who's "confused about his religon" ? In other words you want some one who DOES NOT have faith in Allah (swt) and does na-farmani of his commands. From your comments, it's pretty obvious that you're one of those name-sake muslims who has left deen for duniya.

Prior to reading this thread, I had a totally different persepective of you.

P.S. this is probably the nicest way I could've responded to your post. Believe me if it was someone else, I wouldn't have been so nice.

Jazak Allah Khair

[amana]

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I'm not quite sure what all the fuss is about. I am assuming that your intentions are good - as we as muslims should. I have talked to many muslims from the subocontinent who are somewhat confused about what they were taught in terms of religion after meeting muslims from other places. A lot of desis confuse culture with religion, and aren't really exposed to anything else till they leave Pakistan.

What's wrong with wearing sleeveless saris or miniskirts for your husband in the privacy of your own home? Going out like that is something else, but women should try to make themselves beautiful for their husbands. If he likes sleeveless tummy baring saris, wear them around the house or under a jilbab when you two go out together? And it is possible to go out and have fun while observing Islamic guidelines. The whole khandaan doesn't have to go out every time you go for tea, especially in the early years of the marriage.

It's a woman's Islamic right to her own home and not to provide dowry - so I'm not sure what the fuss is about that. I think that by saying "leaves us alone for the most part" she is alluding to not being gossiped about or constantly dropped in on.

As far as money is concerned - she's being honest. I could safely assume that just about every parent here looked for an educated engineer or doctor for their son, and lately a masters degree seems to be the criteria for girls in upper middle class circles. Desis are obsessed with money and status when it comes to rishtas - she's just being upfront about it.

Anyway, I don't agree with everything she said, but most of the comments here are either ignorant or hypocritical.

[shweetdreamz]

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@Y2Mu

Hmmm interesting... point number 1... buy your own home... why do you have to leach off the guys parents. if you want them out of your life, might as well not have their bought house either .

Well obviously if the guy is privileged enough he would buy the house for me. I dont want his parent's money :)

@Y2Mu

... number 2... what do you do? career wise... .

I work in financial services. but if i find a husband like him i plan to quit my job and pursue my lifelong dreams of studying philosophy and travelling to exotic locations

@Y2Mu

number 3... you're quite ego centric might i add, wouldn't u expect him to have some requisites of you... like you not minding him mingling with others... as in.. an open relationship..... 4.... and finally... guys are guys.. desi or non desi... checkin' out other women is part of the crime of being a man anyway... .

thats why i said i dont want someone very good looking. average looking people are bound to have a lower self-esteem. and thus such guys are less prone to hit on other women since he will think i am gift of God to him so he wont mess around.

[shweetdreamz]

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@Anil Khan

Fariha begum, to say I’m disappointed would be an understatement. I thought you were one of the few girls here on GS that had some sharam and haya when it came to preserving our islamic and pakistani culture. Its not so much the idea of you wanting an abcd husband that bothers me but its the things that you want to do after marriage (i.e. wearing sleeveless saris, short skirts, clubbing).

You want someone who’s “confused about his religon” ? In other words you want some one who DOES NOT have faith in Allah (swt) and does na-farmani of his commands. From your comments, it’s pretty obvious that you’re one of those name-sake muslims who has left deen for duniya.

Prior to reading this thread, I had a totally different persepective of you.

P.S. this is probably the nicest way I could’ve responded to your post. Believe me if it was someone else, I wouldn’t have been so nice.

Jazak Allah Khair

Anil Mian, i have always respected my family values of not letting me dance in public and not wearing sleeveless. I am a free bird though. and dance is my passion. You might not know this but alot of girls get married to get away from the restrictions of their parents. I am doing the same and in doing so I am actually making my husband happy. Doesnt that make God happy? Ager gunah charhay gaa tou husband ko charhay gaa mujhe nahi because i am doing this to make him happy.

And solar answered the faith question pretty well

[shweetdreamz]

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thank you amana and others who supported me. i bet these people will be jealous as hell as me and my husband row away into the beautiful sunset on a gondola in Venice while they will be sitting with khala fareeda and her ten kids having samosas in safari park.

ashtray whats a TT bar?

Sparrow: you are my soul sister!

[Muslim_Met_Fan]

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Damn I respect Fobs more than ever now.

[Impulse]

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@amana

What’s wrong with wearing sleeveless saris or miniskirts for your husband in the privacy of your own home? Going out like that is something else, but women should try to make themselves beautiful for their husbands. If he likes sleeveless tummy baring saris, wear them around the house or under a jilbab when you two go out together?.

there is nothing wrong with wearing it for your husband…any dumbo can work that out. if you can be naked for your husband whats wrong with saris etc…

sweetz wants to wear that stuff outside in parties etc…so other men can check her out too. :yukh:

[shweetdreamz]

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@Impulse

there is nothing wrong with wearing it for your husband…any dumbo can work that out. if you can be naked for your husband whats wrong with saris etc…

sweetz wants to wear that stuff outside in parties etc…so other men can check her out too. :yukh:

impulse babez dont hate others if they dont share your morals and values. hate makes u wrinkly and ugly smile and love and share and care.

[Impulse]

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@shweetdreamz

Doesnt that make God happy? Ager gunah charhay gaa tou husband ko charhay gaa mujhe nahi because i am doing this to make him happy.

you want your husband to get the punishment for your sins? how selfish is that! and no...the gunnah will be on you...not your husband....because Allah has clearly told us that we should obey our husbands ONLY if it doesnt contradict with any of Allahs laws.