CM and initiator: i think there's a price one has to pay for a good life. there are opportunity costs and tradeoffs in every aspect of life. I think people should be free to choose what they want. and if i conciously want a certain kind of person that also knows what sort of person i am...we are both like an open book. we deserve each other. why is everyone else having such a problem with it?
Noor: I dont want a multi millionaire. guys like that can be weirdos when it comes to their relationship with their women. (think arab sheikhs and michael jackson and imran khan).
I don't have a problem with your choice. That is your decision. However you posted this on a website where others are allowed to comment. I am doing just that. I am commenting on your post. My views are obviously not in conformity with yours.
I just find it odd someone would actively seek a hypocrit. But hey thats me. I wish you the best in your search and if he has a hot looking sister let me know. :p
Noor: I dont want a multi millionaire. guys like that can be weirdos when it comes to their relationship with their women. (think arab sheikhs and michael jackson and imran khan).
i was talking about upper middle class, like surgeons or investment bankers, or entrpreneurs with middle size companies...
my step mom has a childhood friend who is married to a cosmetci surgeon:nice car, nice house, ....and hell at home, but she can't escape..she is in gold jail!
multimillionaire...doesn't take much to achieve 2 million dollar assets for upper middle class couple, with nice managment...and they are very far from the very rich saudi...
what are you yourself? if ur gori urself....you wont see anything wrong with it....but for me as a pakistani....i can see the drawbacks of marrying a nonMuslim gora guy (or any wannabe). thats for me as a pakistani muslim girl. hence id prefer a 100% pakistani
honestly i know such guys exist. the one criteria i am not concerned with is looks. i dont want him to look super hot. super hot is for fantasies. such guys are prone to have not-such-good looks.
well these two are good looking by many girls standards. I can't say anything they are not my taste, i am a traditional girl and i like traditional guys who wanna live at home, support their parents and stuff :)
oh i got a cousin who's a corporate lawyer, works for some fancy shmancy company in central london. very rich, nice, loving, caring and really hot. pm me if interested:)
Hmmm interesting... point number 1... buy your own home... why do you have to leach off the guys parents. if you want them out of your life, might as well not have their bought house either... number 2... what do you do? career wise... number 3... you're quite ego centric might i add, wouldn't u expect him to have some requisites of you... like you not minding him mingling with others... as in.. an open relationship..... 4.... and finally... guys are guys.. desi or non desi... checkin' out other women is part of the crime of being a man
anyway... i got more questions... but eh... if u care to answer it would be sufficient.
but with the rarity, i kudos you for your bold step in defining your ideality... therefore don't mind my devil's advocate-ish questions/points.
Fariha begum, to say I’m disappointed would be an understatement. I thought you were one of the few girls here on GS that had some sharam and haya when it came to preserving our islamic and pakistani culture. Its not so much the idea of you wanting an abcd husband that bothers me but its the things that you want to do after marriage (i.e. wearing sleeveless saris, short skirts, clubbing).
You want someone who’s “confused about his religon” ? In other words you want some one who DOES NOT have faith in Allah (swt) and does na-farmani of his commands. From your comments, it’s pretty obvious that you’re one of those name-sake muslims who has left deen for duniya.
Prior to reading this thread, I had a totally different persepective of you.
P.S. this is probably the nicest way I could’ve responded to your post. Believe me if it was someone else, I wouldn’t have been so nice.
Why does being confused about religion translate into being hypocritical. Maybe the person in question is just questioning and learning. This does not mean that they are outside the folds of Islam. Besides, being "confused" is subjective.
Anyways, maybe she just wants someone "confused" because she is tired of guys who have this list of what their wife can/cannot do. Maybe she just doesn't want a guy who is so dogmatic in his beliefs that the possibility that he may be wrong is an alien concept to him.
Shweet, I sooo understand what you're saying.....I wish my guy was wealthy or even if I was..…not because I wanna go shopping for designer clothes but because once you have the money issue out of the way you can concentrate on more important things in life…..life is already so difficult…so who wants the added pressure of mortgage, bills etc etc….
A guy who wouldn't care what you wear?….I understand that too! First we have to listen to our mum and dads and even brothers about what we can and cannot wear and then after marriage the husband! What's that all about? We are adult and mature enough to know how to dress western without insulting ourselves or our hunsbands.
I also don't think there is anything wrong with going partying with your husband…that's part of the reason you get married…to do all the things you wouldn't be able to do when your single without being labelled a lufanghi!
