Why do parents in Pakistan waste money on educating their daughters?

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I was talking about higher education, but yeah exactly, an educated mother does not make a better one.

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I'm not sure I agree with the idea of not educating women just because they may not work after marriage: I think education has its own merits, and of course, this is what Islam orders us to do (i.e. seek knowledge). Remember also that it is the women of our society who have the most influence over the next generation - it is detrimental to society when all of your women are uneducated and they are the ones primarily responsible for raising the kids (at least, this is my belief). I'm not saying it doesn't happen - obviously it does; in Pakistan, the literacy rate is hovering around ~50% so of course it happens; my point is that the family is the most important unit in society and having educated individuals in charge of it is not something that should be shunned.

However, in a country such as Pakistan where resources are limited, I think by law it should be mandatory to commit a certain number of years after your degree working in that field. This is particularly true for highly competitive courses such as Medicine; the doctor : patient ratio in Pakistan is abysmal, and we need as many doctors as we can get. I dislike it when a woman does 5 years of medical school and then spends the rest of her life at home, when so many other individuals (mostly men, some women) would have gone on to practise had they been given the opportunity to read Medicine.

At the end of the day, it's about resources. If you have sufficient resources, like Iran for example (they have enough university places for every student in their country) then you should educate everyone. But, if your resources are limited, and you desperately need professionals working and actively contributing to society, then those university places should preferentially go to individuals who agree to work for a certain number of years in Pakistan after graduating.

That way, you don't have migration of your professional population and your graduates put something back into the system.

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Remember also that it is the women of our society who have the most influence over the next generation - it is detrimental to society when all of your women are uneducated and they are the ones primarily responsible for raising the kids
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I second that.

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Also consider the fact that there are not many career opportunities for women in Pakistan. This is especially true for the less developed cities. In the more modern cities, there is more scope for women.

It is STILL important for women to get an education. Education is not a waste, it can expand your mind in many ways that can apply to various aspects of your life......other than a career. And we all know that life is unpredictable. During emergency situations (death of husband, ill husband, financial difficulties)........that degree just might come in handy. In my opinion, it's careless to say that its a waste to educate women. It can serve as a means of security.

You could spend 15 bucks on a First Aid Kit........and think to yourself what's the point in buying this when there is little chance I'd need all these items in the kit......what a waste of money. BUT.....since life has a reputation for not always being consistent..............that First Aid Kit could prove to be a smart and practical investment.

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TT01, I wil appraise one side of your argument..

It is accurate education for females is crucial.

However, conversly, some girls do spend too much time in thier education/career, get past thier typical 25 marriage age of pak, then develop a hard time finding a suitable lifepartner match.

Meanwhile they live in the dillusion 5 or 10 years more that they have so much education and matureness they will automatically attract the Best Guys.

Such Girls forget in our Pakistani culture and natures scheme of things, younger females are preferred and more valued.

Pak Guys usually go for the educated younger and less mature girls.

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i think the issue you want to raise is why there isnt a fair population of women in workforce? My two cents worth, thats because generally parents who educate their daughters would like to see them work but not at the cost of insecurity. for some the transporation is a problem for others the sexual harrasment is a worry. for some its the social mindset but hat has widely changes over the years. for instance in pakistan usually a picture is require along with your resume if you are a woman. i find that bizarre. pakistan has law and order problems, pakistan has little concept of fair procedures, daughters are precious and mostly parents educate them to provide them with means of earning if they absolutely have to.

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Re: Why do parents in Pakistan waste money on educating their daughters?

tto1- WE GET IT, YOUR GAY...would do you want...?GIVE THE GIRLS AN EDUCATION....this question will probably never refer to you anyway, seeing as you wont be marrying one...

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Nadz, we get it you're a bridezilla, what do you care about a gay guy's thread seeing as he doesn't affect you in anyway.

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not just women but also men that why do they waste so much money when they still believe on feudal system, and when they still dont know who to respect women, etc.

tt01, you should ask about whether anyone is getting any shaoor. do they differentiate between what is knowledge, and what is information?

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here is an example of how even an education woman can still be very narrow minded.

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That is just so rude!

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tt01: ** Not all educated women are narrow-minded. The one benefit of education is that it exposes you to a variety of concepts, beliefs, thoughts, etc. Ignorance is not confined to only one gender and culture and nor is it only confined to the educated. Airplanes are considered the safest mode of transportation.......but keeping that in mind.......is it really wise *not to **fasten your seat belt or follow other safety precautions? Because you never know when you might need it.
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Nadz123: As much as I like you, i feel you've erred here. Sexual orientation has little to with education. I'm sure there are uneducated homosexuals in this world as well. And while I strongly disagree with tto1's view that it's a waste for women residing in Pakistan to be educated............it has little to do with sexual orientation. And although he might never take on a wife......as a member of society....like many people.... he can display interest and curiosity in various issues faced by society.

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LET ME MAKE THIS CLEAR ONE MORE TIME: I DO NOT THINK THAT WOMEN SHOULD NOT BE EDUCATED. I THINK IT IS A WASTE OF POTENTIAL FOR THESE EDUCATED WOMEN IN PAKISTAN TO NOT PURSUE A CAREER AFTER BEING EDUCATED FOR SO MANY YEARS.

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much better!!
Now compare this statement with your opening statement.
See in matters of days you are more clear about the issue.

U know life1 can do miracles, specially in sense of self actualization.

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LET ME MAKE THIS CLEAR ONE MORE TIME: I DO NOT THINK THAT WOMEN SHOULD NOT BE EDUCATED.
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So noted.

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I THINK IT IS A WASTE OF POTENTIAL FOR THESE EDUCATED WOMEN IN PAKISTAN TO NOT PURSUE A CAREER AFTER BEING EDUCATED FOR SO MANY YEARS.
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Perhaps. But I'm not sure I agree. As previous posters have pointed out, there are often other obstacles to pursuing a career that having a degree simply won't cure for Pakistani women...e.g. transportation issues, security issues, lack of employment, a worsening global economy and rishta issues (though that's changing for a lot of people, it's still there). I've met many women from Pakistan who are highly educated, but because of a combination of the above factors and many I'm sure I'm not even aware of of, they simply can't do anything with all they've learned. At least not in the workplace. So they do their best to run their homes, do volunteer work, keep their families happy, and impress upon their children the value of a good education. And like others have said, they are prepared. Should there be some sort of calamity (death or disability of the spouse), they have something which they can fall back on. So from their perspective, I don't believe they see it as a waste of potential.

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well without the opening statement I wouldn't get as many views as I would like.
please do re-read my original! i wrote what i have been saying days ago.

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i agree in a sense that if u get higher education like eng or medicine one should not quit working. coz yes it is a waste of country's resources too. but for those who say in case of calamity their edu might help them the answer is may b or may be not coz if u got ur medical degree like 15 yrs ago n now u want a job whose gonna hire an unexperienced doc , engineer or anyone for that reason? its easy to get job as freshmen but then everyone asks for experienced ppl.
i know gals in my college who wanted to become doc or eng just to attract right rishtas. that was their only goal for which they wasted time n money. such gals actually can giv their seats to more deserving males.

girls whose ultimate goal is marriage or they know they might not be allowed to work afterwards should take courses where they can work from home. may be working from home or online should be made easily available in Pak too for educated homemakers.

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I WAS JOKING......why is it then when some one else makes funny remarks its ok, but not when i make such comments....hmmmm i guess i should stick to being a bridezilla in the wedding threads......

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Nadz i belive you made a fair opnion earlier..

Mr tto1, I too am curious that being gay yourself why you would need to be so concerned about this topic.

And nadz clearly made a jokeful comment, and jokes cannot be tooken premises to accuse of narrow-mindedness.

But Your serious thread question, to an somwhat obvious answer, does to me display a narrowmindeness.

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r u joking too?
since when does one's sexuality prevent them from thinking about social issues and women's rights?

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