Why do parents in Pakistan waste money on educating their daughters?

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Re: Why do parents in Pakistan waste money on educating their daughters?

Im not joking.

And I never tried preventing you.

Just thought gay people would be less concerned about such an issue as it doesnt directly concern the ping-pongs.

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^ I agree. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with displaying interest and curiosity about societal issues.

There are many people who might uphold beliefs and lifestyles not practiced.....let alone condoned by the majority of a society................but that doesn't mean that can't be curious about other issues in society.

For example, Pakistan is a majority Muslim country.............perhaps there are a few atheists residing in the country. And while their belief system or lack thereof is not what the majority Muslim population would condone................they are allowed to have opinions and have interest/curiosity in societal issues.

Similarly, while most Muslims will shun alcohol, there are still many Muslims who drink and might engage in activities that go against the teachings of Islam.........but that doesn't mean that they can't be concerned about issues plaguing the country or world.

Joking about making sexual orientation a requirement for interest in issues......is one thing. It's a joke, so it's no big deal. But when one actually believes this to be true...................that's disturbing.

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One can argue that people lacking common sense should not be concerned with serious societal issues because they don't directly concern or involve Mr. Bean type logic to discuss them. Comedy and debates are two different genres.

Yeah...........and men can't take an interest in issues that affect women such as breast cancer and their ability to rule a country because it doesn't directly concern their adam's apple or balls.

And village dwelling illiterates in Pak shouldn't be concerned about the quality or availability of education because these issues don't concern their cattle and farm fertilizer.

And high-school drop-out actors who have made it big should not be concerned about poverty because it doesn't directly affect the cameras that are rolling whilst they are performing.

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Alrite tto1 Im sorry i shdunt have called u ping-pong.

But your avatar was just so much asking for it... :)

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Re: Why do parents in Pakistan waste money on educating their daughters?

Education moulds a person. You can have all the money in the world but if you're not educated the moment you open your mouth, filth comes out of it. Having education isn't just about working. It aids in developing an individual's personality.

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I agree with you to some extent, but look at all these people who are educated and still filth comes out of their mouths.

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Only if education alone helped people become smarter, better people - we'd have an almost perfect world.

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I have a few oxford-graduated friends, who are the most narrow minded bigots you will have ever met.....so there you go...

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because the education we get these days plays no role in character building or teaching good morals. its more of forcing information on students n finishing a prescribed curriculum within a set period of time rather than shaping one's personality.n even if morals r taught we find difficult to absorb them as we don't see our own teachers or parents practicing them.

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I disagree with the bold part. I have come across quite many uneducated people (i.e. never been to school) with very high morals and wisdom. A degree or a certificate does not certify that you only utter pearls of wisdom. Likewise, there are a lot of educated people - holding impressive degrees - who have absolutely no idea how to behave properly. Plus, the arrogance factor.

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SO this topic has been in my thoughts for quite some time now, what about people who literally pay for degrees, for their children. Be it girl or boy, but I'm thinking about a girl, who goes to uni, has no interest in it, displays NO knowledge of anything other than her home environment, ends up with a degree, some how. Money changing hands = degree.

What does the girl gain from a brought degree? Like I said b4, if her marriage is pre-arranged to her first cousin who would never let her out into the wide world, neither does she entertain any thought of working, again neither does she have any INTEREST in the subject she has purportedly "studied".

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Jaanwaar mate - disagree to that.

I belive all though its true, many a time educated people do emitt filth when open thier mouths.
But I belive if a person has gained knoweldge, intelligence and skills (i.e by some education), despite they portray/use it or not, they still possess it and can recall and apply it if they want.

Most of the time, these people would know the right thing to do or say, but they dont because of egos, different beliefs, different interests etc.

Mabrook--very good post, totally agree with every word, especially the last part.
Many people, dont act what they love to preach, and this is what puts you off.

Time Pass-August 2013
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I am a woman and I think educating women CAN be a waste in some circumstances.

For example, I think it is necessary for a woman to get at least a high school education. How is a woman going to understand even basic birth control or reproduction if she doesn't understand things like ovulation, pregnancy, etc? Of course in the olden days people had children without this knowledge, but they also had very high mortality and the mothers basically died when they were 40 years old. In Afghanistan, this is still the case. I don't think any of us want to be pregnant every year and die in 10, 15 years like those times.

So I agree that all people have the right to education and literacy.

However, if a woman is educated with 4 years bachelors degree+4 years medical school+3 years residency to become a doctor, and then stays home for her entire life, I think it is a waste. Of course many men still quit medicine after such long time investment, and in an isolated few cases, I can see that it's better for one to quit rather than be an unhappy doctor. After all, humans have free choice.

But when an ENTIRE HALF of a country's medical doctors never enters the workforce (ex. in Pakistan), then it becomes a larger societal issue which needs to be addressed. Pakistan is already a poor country as it is, and for the public resources to be drained this way is really unacceptable. It is not any different than half the doctors in the country dying. I'm surprised there isn't more of an uproar about it in Pakistan. The choices here are to admit less women into medical school or maintain the current low number of doctors so there is no discrimination. Or there could be a big societal change where women have help and are able to balance work and family, but that isn't going to happen immediately. So the choices are to have apparent sexism at the front end (ie. admit less females) or have more women dying of illness overall because there are not enough doctors. Maybe there are other ways to solve this issue I haven't thought of..

my mom had my profile on shaadi.com for a while, and she got a mail from a aunty who wanted a premed or MBBS bahu but didn't want her to work after marriage. so it is a status symbol to some people...however if keeping a status symbol at home means some other women is dying during her delivery because there is a doctor shortage...I don't think that is right.

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Read ur post briefly and skipped the rest so duno if this has already been sed but islam encourages women to be educated because they are the first school for the generation they bring up! Kids can have a strengthened upbringing if mothers are educated and in the know with the world and its affairs! there is a quote too by the prophet (saw) which said seek knowledge from the cradle to the grave, and that is not just referring to islamic knowledge.. and i personally think that is a good enough reason.

ciao

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I believe that everyone has the right to an education, but I do agree with some of the commentators that when educating a girl is taking away university places and other valuable resources from someone who can earn a living with the degree, then something is not right. A girl becoming an MD for the sake of marriage alone is silly, if she needed a degree to obtain a better rishta, then a humanities degree, where there are more available places, would be a better fit.

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to me education and work are completely different! one should get education for knowledge about his/her passion. it can be for jobs as well but purpose of knowledge seeking is not to get a job only!

and it applies on men and women!

Time Pass-August 2013
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for the sake of her children... an educated mother can raise em better !
I know pharmacists and Engineers running business, does that make any sense ?

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thats becoz u think ... we only get education from school.