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Having a traditional view does not equate not considering your wife or women as humans, it doesnt mean that you will not listen to her feelings, treat her like crap, beat her, use her as a slave.
Yes there are men who are like that. Even in the educated West side of the world.
I am not defending this like hell for the sake of it. Just try to be realistic people.
I’m not equating traditional views with horrible treatment of wives, i just gave you an example of my own husband to be even more clear about that… sheesh.
And no one mentioned abuse…they just don’t make good husbands lol. As a husband you consider your spouses feelings/emotions, consult them in decisions you make…pretty much 50% of your life. However, South Asian husbands rarely do that. Be it cos of culture, lack of education…whatever it is. They def stick out in the general view of husbands accross the world. May not be the worst…but theyre defo towards the lowwwwwwweeerrrrr end of the scale.
Oh and OP's wife-discussing-party seems slightly creepy =P
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I'm not equating traditional views with horrible treatment of wives, i just gave you an example of my own husband to be even more clear about that... sheesh.
And no one mentioned abuse...they just don't make good husbands lol. As a husband you consider your spouses feelings/emotions, consult them in decisions you make....pretty much 50% of your life. However, South Asian husbands rarely do that. Be it cos of culture, lack of education...whatever it is. They def stick out in the general view of husbands accross the world. May not be the worst...but theyre defo towards the lowwwwwwweeerrrrr end of the scale.
To determine who makes good and bad husbands, there should be several subscales. So that all men of the world get a score on each scale. And then we can count the scores and decide who are good husbands and who are not.
Oh and OP's wife-discussing-party seems slightly creepy =P
Because it never happened.
i dont know...about...pakistanis...
but here in india ....smtyms i feel d same...
but at tymes...my hubby is the bessttttt husband...:o
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cuz SOME ( i said said SOME) of them let their mom, sister and neices do all the thinking for them and they can't get their heads out of their family. the problem with pakistani men is their FAMILY.
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cuz SOME ( i said said SOME) of them let their mom, sister and neices do all the thinking for them and they can't get their heads out of their family. the problem with pakistani men is their FAMILY.
So, the problem is not men, it is WOMEN of the husband's family.
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So, the problem is not men, it is WOMEN of the husband's family.
pretty much
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They are under too much pressure. They have to deal with their other relations also and can't focus on their own married life properly. Culture and society is to be blamed.
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Pakistani men make the WORST husbands BECAUSE:
Pakistan has been rated as the 3rd WORST country in the WORLD in which to be living in as a woman.
this is FACT. Just google to see the results of official survey. India ranks 1st, Afghanistan 2nd and other MUSLIM countries follow.
The ratings are based on oppression women suffer, abuse, rape & murder of women, education etc...
WHO is causing all these ISSUES for the women???
its the MEN!!
the HUSBANDS, employers, brothers, fathers, in laws etc...
THIS is the real reason why these men are not marriage material because their attitude towards women sucks. Sisters rest assured its not that YOU got a lousy husband who blames you. The whole problem lies with HIM.
its a HUGE global problem with these men that is reflected in the global survey of factual evidence that these men treat women the WORST IN THE WHOLE WORLD.
Who can argue with that!
it puts things into perspective. Even if you live in the west the CULTURE is the same & that's why the men are what I would class as in the LOUSY category. Always exceptions but majority are lousy.
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Worst Countries For Women: Afghanistan, Congo, Pakistan, India And Somalia | NEWS JUNKIE POST
THERE IS NO LAW AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN TO DATE IN PAKISTAN!!!
Pak ranks 3 rd worst country in world to live in as a woman because you get treated soooo bad!!
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^woaw..that is some pure hate..
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Yep...pakistani men make the worst husbands,
all ladies agreeing with this should divorce their husbands right away, and also make sure their mum's, sisters and friends do it as well, after all wouldn't you want the best for them ..and the best is definitely not being married to the worst husbands.
go kick the bozos out...Pakistani grrrl power...
or are miraculously all ladies husbands, brothers, dad's and friends husbands at large ...outliers and not included in these Pakistani men who make the worst husbands
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You vant to mary me? I vill lett u out of yur cage evry nite for feww hours. :wub:
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Well, when we've got people treating these sad facts/statistics as a joke (look to the posts above you), then how can we expect for anything to change for the better? I know it's difficult to wake up the reality, but then what other options do we have left?
Pakistani ladies make the lives of other ladies he'll. it's the woman on woman oppression that seems to be the bigger issue. The Mother in law, sister in law, type of stuff. So blaming it on men is easy but the sheer immaturity that exists in the MIL and DIL relationships is huge.
The fact that Pakistan is ranked as a poor place for women is not because men make bad husbands, please read the stuff.
It states "More than 1,000 women and girls are victim of honour killings every year; 90 percent of women experience domestic violence in their lifetimes; women earn 82 percent less than men."
Honor killings of a 1000 women, as pathetic as that is don't mean Pakistani men at large are bad husbands, because I can throw a rape statistic from US and then equate that to men being bad husbands. The income disparity is bad, relates to education differences as well but again has little correlation to men being bad husbands.
The only relevant number is the domestic violence. It's all encompassing, before marriage and after, and at the hands of more people than just the husband. The 90% domestic violence number seems very high. Are 90% of GS ladies victim of domestic violence? Now it may be high in the rural, uneducated or lower class segments of society, probably still not 90% but I don't think the ladies posting in this thread are looking to get hitched with some hero from that socioeconomic segment.
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Well, when we've got people treating these sad facts/statistics as a joke (look to the posts above you), then how can we expect for anything to change for the better? I know it's difficult to wake up the reality, but then what other options do we have left?
Right, and generalizing about an entire gender is considered acceptable. I'm mocking the hyperbole that's accompanying these stats. "OMG, Pakistani mens is sooo bad" makes you sound like an idiot. Maybe one of your thousand wishes should be for some common sense.
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I blame the mothers. They train their sons to think they are kings who desrve everything on a plate, and train their daughters to believe money ranks above all other things in life. Daughters are taught from early on how to keep a house etc. I think it would be a lot different if daughters were taught how to share household tasks with their husbands, and men were taught that you must honour your wife and that means helping her around the house. For God's sake, our own prophet PBUH saw no shame in helping Khadija.
Macho mentality means that most Pakistani men are trained to criticise their wives, otherwise they'll be made fun of in their social circles. That being said, my dad is Pakistani and for a period when he was job hunting, he took over all the household while my mother worked. I was like My God dad, you know how to cook!! And he said who do you think taught your mother?
Girls, stop viewing your husband as a monthly pay cheque and guys stop viewing your wives as glorified maids.... if only it were that simple eh? But I must say in the couples I know where the husband was really backward the mother was almost always to blame. The more progressive ones were well trained by their mothers to help around the house
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news-junk-ie >>>the name says it all !