Re: Why do Pakistanii men make the worst husbands?
Right, and generalizing about an entire gender is considered acceptable. I'm mocking the hyperbole that's accompanying these stats. "OMG, Pakistani mens is sooo bad" makes you sound like an idiot. Maybe one of your thousand wishes should be for some common sense.
You're missing the point because you're too busy trying to devise retorts. The objective is to malign without a clear focus. Your comment clearly shows that you make this issue out to be a joke. Our country is a mess in providing women even the most basic human rights, and somehow you find the nerve to post such a callous comment. Even with proper law and order, our society fails to understand the implications of rape, practice honor crimes at the drop of hat, and ensure that women run an obstacle course before they receive the right to divorce. Domestic violence is rampant within even the wealthiest and most educated families. Common sense? Forget common sense buddy, all you need is the ability to read. To be literate. Read the stats in accordance to population density and socioeconomic status. Open up a university database if you have access to one. By the way, we're not generalizing an entire gender or the male sex, we're speaking in regard to Pakistani/Afghani/Indian men. The title was as follows: Why do Pakistani men make the worst husbands?
Re: Why do Pakistanii men make the worst husbands?
Our country is a mess in providing women even the most basic human rights.Even with proper law and order, our society fails to understand the implications of rape, practice honor crimes at the drop of hat, and ensure that women run an obstacle course before they receive the right to divorce. Domestic violence is rampant within even the wealthiest and most educated families. Read the stats in accordance to population density and socioeconomic status. Open up a university database if you have access to one. By the way, we're not generalizing an entire gender or the male sex, we're speaking in regard to Pakistani/Afghani/Indian men. The title was as follows: Why do Pakistani men make the worst husbands?
The country may be a mess when it comes to women's rights issues, but you defending that all Pakistani men make the worst husbands, is also generalizing to the nth degree.
There is a way to make a point, or agree with a point, without throwing every Pakistani husband under the bus.
Also please note this thread was laying dormant for a while, and then some new user comes in and writes something extremely inflammatory to get people riled up. That usually is the marking of a certain type of poster, so it would be wise not to take the bait.
Re: Why do Pakistanii men make the worst husbands?
i don't think so .. i have seen many many good man in my own family. Totally disagree. I am a Pakistani man and I am really offended of this accusation. May be you have met the wrong rotten breed. I have seen my dad, my uncles and married cousins praising there very own wives. My neighbor is such a nice person, he makes his wife live with so much respect. My friends, all...hardly few are the rotten type.
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I don't agree entirely with the opener of this thread in that **all **Pakistani men make terrible husbands. Perhaps, I should have made that clear. I apologize for that. My husband is a kind and decent human being. However, I believe that such "good" men are an anomaly within even the greater South Asian culture, given the fact that we fare so badly, in affording women and minorities within our country basic human rights. We're got a lot of potential (especially within the diaspora, where we have room to flourish), but we're not utilizing our God given qualities in the best of ways. In order to reach our true potential, I believe we need to fully come to terms with this issue and start tackling it more aggressively, rather than remain on the defense forever.
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I'd also like to add: My main concern was with the fact that the issue was taken as a joke by certain male members. This is the attitude we need to rid ourselves of. There is nothing funny about our situation and the prevailing attitudes. It's rather serious and a part of what impedes our overall success.
Re: Why do Pakistanii men make the worst husbands?
I'd also like to add: My main concern was with the fact that the issue was taken as a joke by certain male members. This is the attitude we need to rid ourselves of. There is nothing funny about our situation and the prevailing attitudes. It's rather serious and a part of what impedes our overall success.
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I'd also like to add: My main concern was with the fact that the issue was taken as a joke by certain male members. This is the attitude we need to rid ourselves of. There is nothing funny about our situation and the prevailing attitudes. It's rather serious and a part of what impedes our overall success.
And your concern would be taken a lot more seriously if it wasn't being brought up in a joke of a thread.
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Neither is the topic of the thread a joke. It's a strong assertion and one that does not hold true for every Pakistani man. However, it's an assertion that gives light to the overall phenomenon in the country. My main concern with you was that I felt that you altogether made light of the issue. The comments here do in fact reflect the overall mentality of the men (many women as well) in our country, and unfortunately, their thoughts often translate into abuse. Otherwise, we wouldn't be at the center of some of the most heinous acts of injustice against our own female citizenry. The prevailing attitudes and mentality need to change. If it isn't something that can be joked about, then it must a serious issue that needs our utmost attention. Truthfully, I don't mean to come across as harsh or mean-spirited when I write this.
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making generalization are never correct. m a girl and even then in my opinion Pakistani men aren't as bad as you have made them sound.
infact, Pakistani men are much much more responsible towards their duties than the men of other cultures.
i hardly see a Gora who would let his wife or even daughters to enjoy on the money he earned instead in GOras household both the partners and then kids as well work, earn and pitch in the money to run the houshold. In Pakistan and with paki men, they take up the responsibility to run the household with the money they earn and also provide luxuries to thier wives,sisters,parents,siblings and kids!!!
the work life is really tough and time-consuming in Pak, ppl leave for thier work early morning and return by 7pm or 8pm. those runnig thier own busineeses return as late as 11pm. while the ladies folk if housewives do some household chores, still get time to relax, they go out shoping,visit frendds and family, take a nap,above all in most houses have maids around for help, have a very solid say in decision making etc so all in all women are generally in much better position then men are. if your man is taking up all the responsibility and doing his best to provide u with all the luxuries, wld it be nice to label him as bad just becuz he doesnt help u around the house work? i dont think so. its nice if men pitch in into doing house work but if they dont then it doesnt make them bad.
ps: if a wife is working for economic reasons and cannot offord a house maid and all the load is on her shoulders and if still the husband doesnt help her around then it is bad.
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I've seen it too .. not sure why it's like it is ... culture, upbringing etc is to be blamed. But not all Pakistani men are like that .. some actually do praise their wives in front of others .. unfortunately they're quickly labeled as "joru ke ghulam" :(
Haha lol sorry for digging up an old thread but this so describes my dad lol.
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The OP is right on point.
Pakistani men (especially Punjabis) rolls eyes have always had a sense of entitlement.
They think they DESERVE to be waited on day in and day out. They honestly believe that ALL they have to do in this life is go to work and make money. Their wives are expected to work (outside the home) and inside the home. Their wives are expected to do ALL the cooking, cleaning, child rearing etc. Some Pakistani men don't even think they have to get up off the couch to get themselves a glass of water. I blame the women too. They allow their husband's to treat them like a doormat. In all fairness some women do TRY to get their hubby's to help out but it goes in one ear and out the other.
Gosh how I hate Pakistani men. Actually I hate all men.....but Pakistani men....they just make me wanna throw up.
Oh and ANY girl that comes in here and says "Not all Paki men are like that....my hubby is great because he cooks and cleans etc" ...Please consider yourself VERY LUCKY. You are in the minority. Just thank Allah for giving you the exception to the rule.
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Pakistani men (especially Punjabis) rolls eyes have always had a sense of entitlement..
Gosh how I hate Pakistani men. Actually I hate all men.....but Pakistani men....they just make me wanna throw up.
Before I hand your ass back to you on a platter, I would like to know your ethnicity. If you are going to ***** about us, I might as well give you a good reason.
Re: Why do Pakistanii men make the worst husbands?
The OP is right on point.
Pakistani men (especially Punjabis) rolls eyes have always had a sense of entitlement.
They think they DESERVE to be waited on day in and day out. They honestly believe that ALL they have to do in this life is go to work and make money. Their wives are expected to work (outside the home) and inside the home. Their wives are expected to do ALL the cooking, cleaning, child rearing etc. Some Pakistani men don't even think they have to get up off the couch to get themselves a glass of water. I blame the women too. They allow their husband's to treat them like a doormat. In all fairness some women do TRY to get their hubby's to help out but it goes in one ear and out the other.
Gosh how I hate Pakistani men. Actually I hate all men.....but Pakistani men....they just make me wanna throw up.
Oh and ANY girl that comes in here and says "Not all Paki men are like that....my hubby is great because he cooks and cleans etc" ...Please consider yourself VERY LUCKY. You are in the minority. Just thank Allah for giving you the exception to the rule.
Why are you posting on here? Shouldn't you be in the kitchen making a sammich and chai. C'mon woman, get to it.
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Ruh-roh
I’m sensing a bad end to this thread…I hope for the sake of candy_apple, her post is an aberration and a moment of frustration, and she’ll see the error of her ways in making such a broad and unsupported generalization.
