I have seen this general observation of men in Pakistan. They just don’t understand women and take a wife for granted. This isn’t always true but is most of the time.
Where else in the world besides Pakistan is it seen as unmanly to do the housework? To help ur wife around?
And all Pakistani women I know agree on this point.
A few days ago my brother and his family went to a party at his family friend’s house. There were people of several (Muslim) nationalities there and my brother told me when men started discussing their wives, all the Pakistani men started criticizing their wives whereas the Iranians and Turks and even Arabs and Afghans (not pashtuns) were praising their wives.
Why is it like this?
And is it just me or has anyone noticed that when Pakistani men marry goris they treat them way better than how he would have if he was to have married someone from back home? I have seen this behaviour in my ex-husband as well (and before any Pakistani man tries to link my divorce to my attitudes to Pakistani men, I’d just like to say that he had an affair with his white gf b4 he divorced me).
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I've seen it too .. not sure why it's like it is ... culture, upbringing etc is to be blamed. But not all Pakistani men are like that .. some actually do praise their wives in front of others .. unfortunately they're quickly labeled as "joru ke ghulam" :(
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I have seen this general observation of men in Pakistan. They just don't understand women and take a wife for granted. This isn't always true but is most of the time.
Where else in the world besides Pakistan is it seen as unmanly to do the housework? To help ur wife around?
And all Pakistani women I know agree on this point.
A few days ago my brother and his family went to a party at his family friend's house. There were people of several (Muslim) nationalities there and my brother told me when men started discussing their wives, all the Pakistani men started criticizing their wives whereas the Iranians and Turks and even Arabs and Afghans (not pashtuns) were praising their wives.
Why is it like this?
And is it just me or has anyone noticed that when Pakistani men marry goris they treat them way better than how he would have if he was to have married someone from back home? I have seen this behaviour in my ex-husband as well (and before any Pakistani man tries to link my divorce to my attitudes to Pakistani men, I'd just like to say that he had an affair with his white gf b4 he divorced me).
Aww...sorry to hear about your experience with your ex. That was rotten of him. :(
Not all Pakistani Men are like that I assure you...but I can understand everyone has their own experiences of course. :)
MaShaAllah I know many men from my Husband's side, or via friends etc and my side who are amazingly helpful with their wives. E.g. my FIL is born and bred in Pakistan but he loves making my MIL morning tea etc and during her illness he even learnt how to plait her hair!!!!
Keep hopeful and positive...they're are some great Pakistan Men out there who don't do the things mentioned above.
Re: Why do Pakistanii men make the worst husbands?
A few days ago my brother and his family went to a party at his family friend's house. There were people of several (Muslim) nationalities there and my brother told me when men started discussing their wives, all the Pakistani men started criticizing their wives whereas the Iranians and Turks and even Arabs and Afghans (not pashtuns) were praising their wives.
Why is it like this?
And is it just me or has anyone noticed that when Pakistani men marry goris they treat them way better than how he would have if he was to have married someone from back home? I have seen this behaviour in my ex-husband as well (and before any Pakistani man tries to link my divorce to my attitudes to Pakistani men, I'd just like to say that he had an affair with his white gf b4 he divorced me).
may b turk and iranian wifes are good they didnt give any chance of complaint
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These days my hubby is washing dishes, cleaning the kitchen, vacuuming the carpet, washing the clothes, feeding me food.. cooking sometimes, brings me a glass of milk every night…should I expect from him anything more?? :hinna: and oh he is a Pakistani
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Is praising in front of others really that important? Talk about a shallow wife. Would never marry such a woman in the first place. Yes I am Pakistani man.
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its not important janjua but girls are really sensitive. They love to hear a word of praise from their husband. Ofcourse only praising isnt a stamp that you love your wife..there are other things too…but kabhi kabhi…it sounds good!! Yes I am a Girl!
Re: Why do Pakistanii men make the worst husbands?
I have seen this general observation of men in Pakistan. They just don't understand women and take a wife for granted. This isn't always true but is most of the time.
Where else in the world besides Pakistan is it seen as unmanly to do the housework? To help ur wife around?
And all Pakistani women I know agree on this point.
A few days ago my brother and his family went to a party at his family friend's house. There were people of several (Muslim) nationalities there and my brother told me when men started discussing their wives, all the Pakistani men started criticizing their wives whereas the Iranians and Turks and even Arabs and Afghans (not pashtuns) were praising their wives.
Why is it like this?
And is it just me or has anyone noticed that when Pakistani men marry goris they treat them way better than how he would have if he was to have married someone from back home? I have seen this behaviour in my ex-husband as well (and before any Pakistani man tries to link my divorce to my attitudes to Pakistani men, I'd just like to say that he had an affair with his white gf b4 he divorced me).
I agree with u about pakistani men (as i am one).
But.. there is another side to it ,speaking from experiance (living abroad ,divorced).
Pakistani girls relatively speaking are high mantinace and have a big ego.Gori gals are humble ,more understanding ,give guy space, dont mutter to them self and dont bother about"log kay khahen gay- what will ppl say". its easer to be yourself with a gori she wont judge u ,wont try to change you or be controling,Its easier to be friends.
In a pakistan man/wowen relationship there is struggle for power.
And yes my attitudes to Pakistani women has to do with my experiance.
By no means i condole pakistani men behavior towards pakistani women
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Let's not get carried away now with one bad personal experience. My Father is a Pakistani man and although he doesn't do chores which have been conformed to females in our culture, he is a great husband to my Mother and always has been. In my opinion, Pakistani men, regarding the gender role, are the product of their upbringing. My Father is British born but in his household it was established that men don't get involved with chores so I suppose that backwards mentality stuck.
apart from that, u r experienced… u maybe right…but ego wala part thora ajeeb hy!!