^ She better have an accent!:p
a young, fit, pretty one, preferably costa rican. begum bhi khush, shohar bhi khush :)
Ji nahin! A plain old maid.. that does jharu/pocha and ties her dupatta around her waist and one full of nakhra's! LOL @ farmaishein!
Re: why do men think....
because men are for most part stupid twits. and its hard enough for them totell their head from their butt, let alone realize that magic around them taking place is someone's doing. also because most of these insensitives ones come from a family where a mother and sister are treated sub salvishly. if the father and mother set a trend it tends to stick.
Re: why do men think....
^ very true, my mother was openly appreciated by my father for her role in our upbringing and as a stay-at-home mother, it leaves a very positive impact on the children for their future relationships.
this debate of stay-at-home moms vs working moms is a very old one, it is turned into a bad mom vs good mom debate by some men (and women!) because its their pitiful attempt to keep women on the defensive and use it as a guilt trip, in both cases. There is no right or wrong answer for this because its all relative, whatever works for you, your child and family is the right choice to make.
Being a stay-at-home mom myself I must say that in this day and age its a previlige to be able to do so, a lot of families do not have a choice in the matter because of financial pressures. It is certainly not a luxury, because a luxury is defined by self-indulgences and good parenting is anything but that, it takes a lot of hard work and sacrifices on the part of both parents, whether they are opting to stay home or to work.
Re: why do men think…
men. why do we even think at ALL?. 
Re: why do men think....
^ now thats a good question :D
Allrighty mister, you think having a thankless job and a ass for a boss is hard. Try having a child as your boss and as for thankless, I am sure the husband provides that by belittling the wife’s work that she does all day. On top of that, if you were a working person previously, the loss of your social circle and the inability to do your usual intellectual duties and switch to a child rearing mode is also a challenge. I think its a worthy sacrifice but it all adds up. Thankfully most couples I know don’t include guys like this Mr. Bite Me.
I did have a friend recently do a temporary project while her hubby took a month off to stay with the kids, when this started he’d had "enough’ of his job and was really looking forward to some “time off” last I heard he was looking forward to his job as if it was a vacation!
Re: why do men think....
exactly it is not hectic for those who havent tried it perhaps. try feeding a baby urself, if it was upto to men human race would cease to exist and if by miracle a kid did get through he would die of neglect. running a house ,with children is as hectic and as stressful as it can get. the stakes are much higher and add to that financia lower bracket and it is a life time job, thankless job if the man around you think it is easy.
HAHAHAHA, Actually i am a “Miss Bite me”
My point is, a husband and a wife need to work together, and appreciate each other and not constantly put each other down…
They do give their Girls as maids , dont they 
Re: why do men think....
Been living on my own for what 6 years now. Going on 7. House work is not that difficult. I do everything a house wife does as a single man and on top of that I work a full time stress full job. No house wife should ever complain.
Re: why do men think....
^ ye but you are SINGLE that's the key - for job not being difficult.
Wait till you have some kids with diaper and wanting to be feed every two hours.
shhheeeeessshhhhhh
Re: why do men think....
zubda i can feel what you felt, but i would like to clear this first of all, that even according to our religion, Islam, women are asked to stay at home and lookafter their home, and Men as given a value above and asked them to earn for their family, so keeping this point, that what a man will feel staying at home and takingcare kids is objected.
but, as we are living in this era (though we are not supposed to neglect the rules and reulation, wrote in Quran Pak, in any era), and the world is moving really very fast, yes, to some extent or at some situations a woman is allowed to earn in our society, but keeping in mind the limitations..again :) so, a girl should always see, if her home is not getting disturbed due to her work, only then she should work that way, but IF its really not working, she should leave doing that and stay at home taking care of her home, her kids, her family, in-laws... all that who covers her :)
zubda i can feel what you felt, but i would like to clear this first of all, that even according to our religion, Islam, women are asked to stay at home and lookafter their home, and Men as given a value above and asked them to earn for their family, so keeping this point, that what a man will feel staying at home and takingcare kids is objected.
but, as we are living in this era (though we are not supposed to neglect the rules and reulation, wrote in Quran Pak, in any era)
where in Quran does it say that - please let me know that chapter and verse. Thanks
Alyish = ganda larka!
NO they don't, parents give away their spoilt lil princesses to be taken care of in every possible way! SO get them maids!
ok first off, housework or complaining about it, is not being discussed, the topic is:
secondly, you are right housework is not a big deal, any hired help can do all this and very well i’m sure
:kap: :iron: :hoovering1: :wm: 
:dwash: 
(in addition to raising kids), in my view the main purpose of staying home for the sake of your kids upbringing is to be able to provide a well-structured, well-monitored environment for the kids where their needs are the priority of the day, putting them at the center of your daily routine because everything revolves around their schedule and you do that at the expense of your own personal needs, careers and social life.
this is/should be an informed decision and commitment, it certainly should not be seen as a way for women to earn their keep (a very common myth).
Re: why do men think…
^lol - just looking at all the smileys working, makes me tired!
They should add one more smiley - mommy changing diaper - so it can be added to your list
Re: why do men think....
it is because we let them think that being at home is an easy job , its not until u will make ur husband realize what exaclty u do will he understand
it may be mean but i make sure my husband appreciates that i make his meals keep the house clean and etc. and if he doesnt i tell him what an unappreciative cow he is and how tomorrow he cn make his own breakfast and lunch n dinner. that usually does the trick
some of us women here really need to toughen up .
secondly what sara said is soo true , other women regards stay at home mums , or housewives as lazy cows that have no life , its truly disgusting that they hold such opnions as every women is an able and intelligent individual.
i know 
more smileys for feeding them, bathing them, handling tantrums (that could apply to the hubby too), providing animated entertainment every 20 mins (short attention span to blame) fun fun fun :AID:
Re: why do men think....
I don't help out at home as much as I should - having said that, when I lived on my own for a little time, I did everything of course. It was completely manageable - the laundry, the "cooking", dishes, garbage - because these were all my needs! I knew if I left a dirty cup on the table, it'd be still there when I got back home - I had to wash it, period.
House wives clean up everyone's mess! Laundry is multiplied, dishes, cooking - everything. Cleaning more than one room, more than one bathroom - keeping track of everyone, it's anything but a vacation at home.