1) if the guy is not fulfilling his obligations, does it mean his wife should not either?
2) if he was the best son and the inlaws still scolded the bahu then what?
so lets look at all moving parts here independently..whether or not he does what is right, the wife has to do what is right.
regardless of his relationship with his parents, if they are not acting properly, then she needs to take a stand and sort it so their communications are right.
right now it seems like one of those situations, that the compalinign wife has absolved herself of any and all personal responsibility in this matter.
is she going to do anything to fix things.
heck, I would expect a mature and sensible girl in this situation to actually try and not only have good terms with her inlaws, but try to help mend the relationship that the son has with his parents.
But that may be too much to ask.
i appreciate your positive out look of the matter. but the thing is parents instead of confronting their son for his behaviour , expect the bahu to take the weidht of all relationships on her shoulder. the son is simply interested in property...how could anyone pull along without complain when there is no appreciation from any corner.... its not easy to be goody two shoes(aka star plus ki tulsi) all the time. bahu has some rights too, who will feel for her?????
Sahir hai, which parents blame their own kids when they're wrong or doin' wrong? Mostly parents support their kids to continue what they r doin' against their whife!
It should be a lesson for you, don't always think you're right or your kids are right! You want rights for women, then give right to your future bahu if that khuda na hasta happens with you!
Your posts made me curious to know if you are some 13-14year old? Because if you aren't, your mental level is definitely the same as a 14 year old kid...Or probably, even they are much more mature than you are!
Well they shldnt marry if they cnat give their wife happiness...
If they think they can keep them happy tab hi shaadi ekrain..if their intention is to rule them over den ..UM SORRY!..and yes u r right..AND MR./NUMB ITS AN OPEN DISCUSSION ehre..if u dotn like de topic kahin aur baat ekrian..APKI ZUBAAN HI BATATI HAI kis type k insaan hain...app..lardnay atay hain yahaan???ya ghar ka ghussa utarnay????
INFACT MR SO CALLE DMUSLIm u have no right to talk to anyone like this...ISLAM ka naam kharab na kerain ..apni LINgo sambhal k rakhain..I CAN USE THE SAME wordss as u..per yaheen difference aajata hai app main aur hum main..anywyas...!And yes achay alrkay bhi HOTAy hain..PER buhut kum !
are u adressing me? Well, if it's like that I don't care! I don't need the internet to get insulted all the time, I'm glad that I have a real life, too and people see me as a adult and matured...
2 people gave me right, now tell me who is immatured!?? It's not me, that is out of question!
IMMATURE IS SOMEONE WHO HAS NOTHING TO DO THAN BASHING MEN! PUTTING ALL MEN IN THE SAME CATEGORY. YES MY SWEARINGS WERE IMMATURE, but that doesn't make you immature in general!
IF you think it does, then I'm sorry to call you IMMATURE..have a nice one sis, I wish you all the best in life...You needed 4-5 posts of mine to see what I may be, I only needed one post of you to see what IMMATURE you are! don't talk to me anymore, I'm IMMATURE and ppl shouldn't waste their time with a "IMMATURED" person like me...
i appreciate your positive out look of the matter. but the thing is parents instead of confronting their son for his behaviour , expect the bahu to take the weidht of all relationships on her shoulder. the son is simply interested in property...how could anyone pull along without complain when there is no appreciation from any corner.... its not easy to be goody two shoes(aka star plus ki tulsi) all the time. bahu has some rights too, who will feel for her?????
The bahu may actually be the pillar of strength for this family. She can take charge and resolve issues like she would for her family. Yes, sometimes we feel it is not our responsibility and we have more rights, etc., but think about it, if we can do more than what is expected of us, that is significant, and she could win great respect in the heart of her husband.
One could argue about rights and responsibilities forever. This is just one perspective.
hmmm my sympatheis are with pocahontas… i’ve seen such a case… worst one in my own family… n the GUY used to insult his wife’s parents too its so sad y guys do this… its just so sad
i wont say sab larkay buray hotay hein… ofcourse ofcourse there r so many nice guys… all my cousins, all my uncle’s, chacha’s, mamo’s etc etc… are sooooooooo good with their wives mashAllah… but one bad fishhhhhhhh…
plz guys out there, plz kuch socha karein… thori si care, thori si shopping :halo:bas… wat else does a wife need?
The bahu may actually be the pillar of strength for this family. She can take charge and resolve issues like she would for her family. Yes, sometimes we feel it is not our responsibility and we have more rights, etc., but think about it, if we can do more than what is expected of us, that is significant, and she could win great respect in the heart of her husband.
One could argue about rights and responsibilities forever. This is just one perspective.
what if the bahu STILL after doing all this cldnt win the heart of her husband???????
so damn true...I've seen cases, the man loves her whife so much, but maa ko bahu naheen passand, yeh naheen passand, wo naheen passand and then the parents blackmail you, we raised you, you dare to stand against us blablabla...
Emotionally blackmail karte hain...
bechaara marrad kiya karre, kisko koy? KISKO? Marrad ko naa aapne aap ko dena chay hai! That's the best solution or as the Topics says it intentionally or unintentionally, MEN SHOULDN'T MARRY AT ALL...MA BAAP KHUSH, SABB KHUSH...
Then at least she will know she tried everything. She can then involve a third party and ask for help in resolving the issue.
the issue is , whom to trust?? soo much sacrifice and responsibility(ok she does it) what would u advise when the husband takes the property and heads his way...... u r asking for too much with too little or no return...itni sacrifice aur khidmaat kay baad bahu ko koi security tou ho....
its so sad y guys do this… its just so sad
hoay thay…