Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

[Muslim_Met_Fan]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

Whatever guys, girls in pakistan probably smell worse and can't move in bed like the ones here do. haha.

[Naughty_by_Nature]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

Cos they can get a really fit girl which they cant do here...they dont expect much...they put up with more...they do as they are told...they will do all the dishes and they will raise the kids...they only do and never have requests...they wont recognise the inadequacies you have...also shes stuck here so she cant leave you if she thinks your an idiot...its the easy option...

[Afridi786]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

^Thats harsh, not true in my case. I want a true Pakistani girl, not a white girl trapped in a Pakistani girl's body.

[Naughty_by_Nature]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

Afridi the things i stated above...artent they what represent that true paki that you speak about...
Anything else is that gori stuck in a pakistanis body nay??

[Raatkirani]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

@Afridi786

OK, my friends and close relatives have told me that only very few girls can resist the kind of temptations you have said above, the only factor that differs is the amount of time it takes for them to crack. But I have to say the Hijab a distraction of bad behavior is very wrong, and u shud retract that, cuz all the modest hijaban girls wud take that as a highly offensive insult.

I'm not going to take that back because that is what I've experienced in my life, in society and in college. In my experience (and I admit I've had some bad experiences), every single hijabi I've met or known personally, except for ONE very lovely hijabi girl who's a credit to her mother for raising her correctly, are rather unvirtuous and immodest in their behavior. Sure, they look like good Muslims, but they're just as badmash as the rest of them. They're just better at keeping it under wraps and half the time, they are lucky that their boyfriend will marry them. They don't call them ho-jabi's for nothing, you know.

[QUOTE]
From my experiences, I've noticed that most desi girls that are born and raised in the west act basically like white girls, and if u didn't know their names you wud assume that their brown non-muslims. I mean they think its okay to flirt with guys and have many guy friends. Thats my experience, I've also noticed some girls who don't associate with guys unless they have to and typically have a innocent demeanor. If I can find a girl like that I would happily marry her even if she didn't wear a hijab if she is in touch with her culture of course
[/QUOTE]

I do agree with you that the younger generation of desis is far more brazen and immodest as compared to the slightly older girls like me (I'm 28). We had a lot of restrictions on our behavior, especially when it came time to getting married. There is no way my parents would have ever allowed me to find my own guy, although now with my younger siblings, they're totally okay with it, and actually encourage it. Our younger sisters and cousins have carte blanche to find their own guys, have boyfriends, go out freely, etc. Whether that's good or bad remains to be seen. It'll be good if they can keep some limits, find spouses and not get divorced once they marry.

[Afridi786]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

@Raatkirani

I’m not going to take that back because that is what I’ve experienced in my life, in society and in college. In my experience (and I admit I’ve had some bad experiences), every single hijabi I’ve met or known personally, except for ONE very lovely hijabi girl who’s a credit to her mother for raising her correctly, are rather unvirtuous and immodest in their behavior. Sure, they look like good Muslims, but they’re just as badmash as the rest of them. They’re just better at keeping it under wraps and half the time, they are lucky that their boyfriend will marry them. They don’t call them ho-jabi’s for nothing, you know.

So ur saying all except very few r ho’s
Whenever u see 1 do u think, “what r they hiding?” or “she’s probably a slut.”

[fghd]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

@Muslim Met Fan

Whatever guys, girls in pakistan probably smell worse and can’t move in bed like the ones here do. haha.

[fghd]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

@Raatkirani

I don't know about hijab being a marker of modesty nowadays. Three of my cousins are like that: full on hijab, no makeup, baggy clothes, even socks on their feet all the time. One of them had a boyfriend for five years and used to hang out in his bedroom alone with him, the other had a boyfriend for six years and she was intimate with him before they got married, and one was with an Arab guy for a while before he dumped her (and then he announced to his friends that he thought Paki girls were "easy" because of her).

I don't wear hijab, but I never ever had a boyfriend, never attempted to get a boyfriend, never lied to my parents, and had a completely arranged marriage to a desi guy (mashAllah, we've been married for six years now). To me, hijab isn't an indicator of modesty, but just a distraction from bad behavior.

Another generalization..its not hijabis fault that everyone thinks of them as pure modest and soo goody good out in a society. Its u all come up with such stereotypes and when hijabis behavior contradicts such stereotype ..u go on bash every single hijabi on earth! There are bad n good everywhere..just b/c u got exposed to some BAD hijabis doesnt mean all hijabis are like that.

[Raatkirani]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

@Afridi786

So ur saying all except very few r ho’s
Whenever u see 1 do u think, “what r they hiding?” or “she’s probably a slut.”

The ones that I’ve come across, yes. Like I said, I’ve not had the best experiences–I’ve been disillusioned by what I’ve seen. But this is solely my opinion, and it doesn’t apply to everyone’s experiences.

[Afridi786]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

I guess I can't blame you, I know one myself, who was a total slut, then started wearing hijab.

[Raatkirani]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

@Afridi786

I guess I can't blame you, I know one myself, who was a total slut, then started wearing hijab.

So you can see my point of view. But I see yours as well. As much as it hurts my ego as an American desi, there are certainly a lot of trashy and filthy desi girls around.

[Anil_Khan]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

@farhana

Hussain

Nah, love he just wants a trophy wife.
He chose you for your looks, not brains.

:k:

Yep, thats what I’d want. I think I have enough brains for the both of us (alhumdullilah). I don’t need some smart mouth questioning my every move.

And the looks help too .

[Anil_Khan]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

[quote=Evilmastermind...girls in pak dont show it b4 marriage ..we tend to show it b4 marriage :D[/quote]

If she shows attitude after marriage, she'll be on a plane back to Pakistan with a note saying "issay tameez sikhao"

[fghd]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

@Anil Khan

If she shows attitude after marriage, she'll be on a plane back to Pakistan with a note saying "issay tameez sikhao"

we will see about that :D

[Anil_Khan]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

@amana

By the way, to the boys who are looking for imports - last year I spent a few months teaching a couple of ‘imports’ how to do laundry, chop vegetables, and clean the house because they had never done any housework. Their idea of cooking was to have someone do everything else then add the masalas and stir once in awhile. They still won’t clean the toliets, and have the filthiest bathrooms I have ever seen. May I suggest a girl who hasn’t grown up with servants, or at least one who doesn’t think she is too good to work. My husband has friends who work 80 hour weeks and still do the “dirty” housework.

Girls who were raised here are usually hard working, because they had to be - their parents had no servants. Just make sure you know what you are buying when you go off to the shop.

Good post. You make a lot of sense :k:

[Anil_Khan]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

@Evilmastermind

we will see about that :D

Dr. Sahiba, I think you know me well enough (from my posts) to know that I can't handle batameezi. If this is the case then I will not hesitate to send her back. I am not going get married to take on someone's nakhray and batameezi.

[Anil_Khan]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

@Sara516

It really does depend on teh family, geography makes no difference. Girls here are hardworking, and girls here are lazy. Girls in pak are hardworking and girls in Pak are lazy. See, using me as an exmaple, i was never really made to do any housework ro cooking or anything when I was a kid, and my cousins in Pak started making rotis as soon as they were 5. So yeah... geography makes no difference, it's all in hte upbringing..

I think your post implies that your upbringing wasn't right.

[_pyari_sii_bachi]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

as soon as i read the title of this thread, i knew i'd find Anil Khan in here

[Raatkirani]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

No, it means she had a loving mother like mine who made lots of sacrifices for their kids. I'm sure she knows how to do housework now.

[Anil_Khan]

Re: Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

@^pyari^sii^bachi^

as soon as i read the title of this thread, i knew i’d find Anil Khan in here

:k:

I think a lot of the girls here are picking on Hussain bhai. Ladies a word of advice: your rebuttles of “you’re so immature” are getting old. Its so obvious that most of you are acting/posting out of insecurities; that if every male goes back to Pakistan to marry what will become of you.

So don’t worry, Allah (swt) has made someone for all of us.

No need to get worried :k: