Oh please madam, are you up to degrading Pakistani men or all men or are reflecting your pride in being a girl.
This is the most naive statement I have read. Not ALL men go back to Pakistan. There are several reasons behind this and the reasons are extreemly logical and only if you are faced with one, you’d realize it.
In my understanding, the biggest problem is that the people living here and their daughters have unrealistic expectations (A big majority). There is a big difference in the mentality of people living here and Pakistan. People here have lost morality, I’d say. Their character has been weakened by the materialistic lifestyles. They cannot recognized or have lost the ability to recognize the good in boys (Execeptions are there).
And then there is a big majority of boys who just want to marry here for settlement and there are people who will look for a “Ghar Jawai”. In my understadning, people looking for a greencard, PR card etc are too many. I have examples in my own family where many “Rishtas” sent for my sister’s marriage have clearly said their immigration status is not right.
Too big of a reply would be, I cannot right anymore at this time.
Chanda, you might not know what sharam and haya is. Just because a girl is outspoken or stands up for what she believes doesn’t make her besharam. I think that you are totally out of line when you say that the girls on the BB are besharam and have no haya. I think most of the girls, in fact a vast majority, seem to be educated, intelligent, and righteous women. For you to slander them this way is absolutely unacceptable and shows your immaturity.
I will be accepting hugs from the women later today.
So let me get this straight, Western woman r better than Pakistani girls?
There are many more girls in Pakistan, probability of picking a nice decent girl is higher. Can't argue with that.
Afridi, its not that western women are better than paki women. No one is better htan the other. You have to look at how a person is, their persoanlity/character/upbringing/values etc. So it's wrong to say that a girl raised in teh west is automatically bay-hayya and slutty and pakistani girls are just pure angels.
a guy should always marry a girl from a poor or mid class family. Girls in the low class family tend to be more workaholic and brave then the girls who come from rich families
Gives a whole new Khandan oppurtunities to migrate, nothing wrong with that?
I don't think this is ever a valid reason to get married! We have had rishtas from people in the family for our kids, and when we decline, they tell us that since we are living here it is our duty to bring over other family members - like I'm the visa fairy or something!
By the way, to the boys who are looking for imports - last year I spent a few months teaching a couple of 'imports' how to do laundry, chop vegetables, and clean the house because they had never done any housework. Their idea of cooking was to have someone do everything else then add the masalas and stir once in awhile. They still won't clean the toliets, and have the filthiest bathrooms I have ever seen. May I suggest a girl who hasn't grown up with servants, or at least one who doesn't think she is too good to work. My husband has friends who work 80 hour weeks and still do the "dirty" housework.
Girls who were raised here are usually hard working, because they had to be - their parents had no servants. Just make sure you know what you are buying when you go off to the shop.
Girls who were raised here are usually hard working, because they had to be - their parents had no servants. Just make sure you know what you are buying when you go off to the shop.
It really does depend on teh family, geography makes no difference. Girls here are hardworking, and girls here are lazy. Girls in pak are hardworking and girls in Pak are lazy. See, using me as an exmaple, i was never really made to do any housework ro cooking or anything when I was a kid, and my cousins in Pak started making rotis as soon as they were 5. So yeah... geography makes no difference, it's all in hte upbringing..
we get a good muslimah and she gets a green card good for both of us… so don,t loose hope!!! u folk also can marry some1 from back home and would u tell me please why girls don,t want to get married to som1 from back home ???
well i dont have a problem with marrying someone from back home…so long as they dont have that typical desi mentality. now you will probably ask me what is considered typcical desi mentality…well thas a whole new thread my friend
Hmm... so what is a western desi mentality - wearing modest clothes because you want to, not because your husband has to tell you to dress decently? :)
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