Why Do Guys Always Go To Pak To Get Married?

[aahmed]

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I think that quite a few guys, not all, who "import" a wife do it because they are living abroad alone, meaning without mummy and daddy. They are probably incapable of finding a girl for themselves and as such need to go back home to get mummy and daddy to find them a wife. It's really sad IMO.

[Man_with_a_Plan]

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another thread about generalization and assumptions???

[SindSagar]

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Increasing the Desi Population in the West is a good side benefit from this too!

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Gives a whole new Khandan oppurtunities to migrate, nothing wrong with that?

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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@AnGeL EyEs

guys go back home to get married for several reason.

1. they cant find a girl here and have no choice
2. because they are ignorant and think that the girls there are far better then the girls abroad.
3. cuz parents are ignorant and they think that girls there are far better then the girls abroad.
4. simply cuz he’s got no game out here in the wild wild west!!

You overlook that growing up in the west, your ties to Paistan are weakened - your relationships with people there are weakened.

If you marry a girl from there… your ties are strengthened. I have a Paistani friend who was born and raised in the UK. He’d only go to Pakistan occasionally, on holidays. But his relationship with his family there was weak; you can’t have a strong relationship with people you’ve only ever met for a few weeks or months every couple of years - he could feel it, he felt less and less connected to his family there and to the country.

One trip to Pakistan, he found a girl he wanted to marry, and did. After that, he found that by marrying into a family from Pakistan, his personal connection to Pakistan was strengthened. He found himself going more often, his identity as Pakistani strengthened, etc.

If I still lived in England… my circumstances there meant that I would have preferred a wife from Pakistan for this reason. As things stand however… my own circumstances here in Canada probably means it wouldn’t be so wise.

[fghd]

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@hussain87

why would we want to marry a pakistani girls living in the west??we can marry bootifull sunder larkis from back home..they r more religious / they don,t have nakhrais they show respect to their husbands which most western pakis lack so obviously we want a girl who doesn,t have attitude prob:o …and why don,t u(girls) marry back home??perhaps u girls r afraid that boys from there would ask u to wear a hijab and proper clothes ?

lol typical desi reply! Just b/c u saw most of the girls not bootiful sunder or religious like ur back home over here that doesnt mean that there arent any. Now if u ask me that y I dont wana marry a guy from Pak so the main reason I can’t trust anyone. There are soo many stories I have seen myself that guy comes here and end up either leaving the girl after getting their greencard stuff or find it really really difficultto adjust. I know I will not be able to adjust with a guy who came from pakistan b/c my thinking and his thinking will be hell of a different! Baat rahee attitude prob ki …so bacha jee every girl has it…girls in pak dont show it b4 marriage ..we tend to show it b4 marriage

[hussain87]

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@aahmed

I think that quite a few guys, not all, who "import" a wife do it because they are living abroad alone, meaning without mummy and daddy. They are probably incapable of finding a girl for themselves and as such need to go back home to get mummy and daddy to find them a wife. It's really sad IMO.

ur observation is wrong ....i mean look at this board and u will see why i for example would not want to marry a western pakistani !!..no sharam hiya ..big mouth ....too much westernizd ..its better to marry a gori then a western pakistani who try to act like westernes.:o .....if i won,t be able to find a religous girl here (not many r religous) then i will have to
''import ''a girl .......

Ps personal opinion .....fact remains girls back home r decent and have a thing called sharem hiya which most girls in west do not possess and for us to live like a good muslim in western societies we must have it otherways there will be no difference between us and goras.:o .....

[Muslim_Met_Fan]

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Because if you don't have a PHD you're screwed here since parents want their daughters to marry doctors and lawyers.

In Pakistan, they don't care about that crap.

[Femme_Fatale]

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@Muslim Met Fan

Because if you don’t have a PHD you’re screwed here since parents want their daughters to marry doctors and lawyers.
In Pakistan, they don’t care about that crap.

Ye they just care about money regardless of how it comes, that is why u see 22 yr olds married off to 45 yr olds foreign citizen cab drivers

[fghd]

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@hussain87

Ps personal opinion …fact remains girls back home r decent and have a thing called sharem hiya which most girls in west do not possess and for us to live like a good muslim in western societies we must have it otherways there will be no difference between us and goras.:o …

Hussain I dont blame you for ur facts only b/c right now you haven’t seen anything And even if u have then you were among those unlucky ones who happened to see the bad ones! Damn I have seen bad guys here too but I dont refuse to marry over here or over generalize by saying that guys from back home are very chunnay munnay masoom and guys over here are awarah! Bad n Good belongs everywhere. Pakistan is no heaven nor this North America…y am I even bothering

[fghd]

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@Femme Fatale

Ye they just care about money regardless of how it comes, that is why u see 22 yr olds married off to 45 yr olds foreign citizen cab drivers

hahahaha exactly :k:

[hussain87]

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@Femme Fatale

Ye they just care about money regardless of how it comes, that is why u see 22 yr olds married off to 45 yr olds foreign citizen cab drivers

i know some pakistanis who r just like 25 but their husband is over 50 …its so sad …

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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@hussain87

Ps personal opinion …fact remains girls back home r decent and have a thing called sharem hiya which most girls in west do not possess and for us to live like a good muslim in western societies we must have it otherways there will be no difference between us and goras.:o …

You’re in for a suprise… but don’t worry, you won’t be the first to be surprised when you finally hear of what a lot of girls (and guys) in Pak are like, and you won’t be the last to be surprised either

People are broadly speaking the same everywhere, in this age of global culture and values.

[bellarie]

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@farhana

Hussain
when was the last time you went to Pakistan?

The girls living there in the cities are actually more “Westernised” than the ones living abroad.
I would say they have a lot more nakhrai than us…
“A British/Amrikan born larka has picked me out of ALLLL the girls in the World to marry… there must be something SPECIAL about me”.

Nah, love he just wants a trophy wife.
He chose you for your looks, not brains.

well said, farhana… i agreee to this 500%…and i have heard some families/guys saying that hey wanna marry a girl from back home because they are more submissive and would not argue or confront them at all or at least not as much as any overseas pakistani girl do… Such a filthy and nasty reason to get married !

[hussain87]

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@bellarie

well said, farhana… i agreee to this 500%…and i have heard some families/guys saying that hey wanna marry a girl from back home because they are more submissive and would not argue or confront them at all or at least not as much as any overseas pakistani girl do… Such a filthy and nasty reason to get married !

oke if u know some religious girl then please tell me cuz i don,t think its easy for a seedha saadha larka like me to find a girl like that in a western country:halo: ..

[bellarie]

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@hussain87

ur observation is wrong ....i mean look at this board and u will see why i for example would not want to marry a western pakistani !!..no sharam hiya ..big mouth ....too much westernizd ..its better to marry a gori then a western pakistani who try to act like westernes.:o .....if i won,t be able to find a religous girl here (not many r religous) then i will have to ''import ''a girl .......

Ps personal opinion .....fact remains girls back home r decent and have a thing called sharem hiya which most girls in west do not possess and for us to live like a good muslim in western societies we must have it otherways there will be no difference between us and goras.:o .....

hussain87, it shows what kind of girls you have hung out with and that was your OWN selection and choice.....i am not saying that all pakistani girls/guys are BADDDDDDDDD...but likewise, not all of them are the way you described them to be....there is no rarity of a pakistani girl in overseas countries who is modest, humble and religious in nature and who puts her in-laws and husband's dignity before everything....it's just that you havent met any such girls...so i don't think you have any right to blame every girl who lives overseas to be dignityless, big-mouthed and vicious!.. and quite frankly, i have no clue when you visited pakistan last time and which area you are from, but you don't even have to to go back if you wanna see the reality of pakistan.. because you can get a clear view of that through the media...and if you still deny the fact, then really you are just hiding away from the TRUTH

[Afro-Sheen]

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Hussain,

What kind of deep dark ignorant corner of the world do you live in. I wonder about the people you keep contact with if all you've met are bad 'westernized' girls. Boy oh boy will you have a SHOCK when you import what u think is a sweet innocent larki from paki. She might not say anything blunt upfront but just wait and see. Not everyone is prim and proper back home, and a LOT has changed. Girls back home are super duper chalaq/demanding. Enjoy the import! :)

[mahanoor]

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well in my opnion they go pakistani maybe to marry someone from family
or maybe as they dont like the desi girls brought up oever here coz most desi girls had a bf here

[bellarie]

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@hussain87

oke if u know some religious girl then please tell me cuz i don,t think its easy for a seedha saadha larka like me to find a girl like that in a western country:halo: ..

umm, hussain 87, i had been living in Canada for the last 10 years and now i am married and in US…my in-laws were in US for almost 23 years..i am not saying any of us are the most SAINTLY types because we are human and not angels:halo: …but we always wear modest clothing, offer namaz 5 times a day, keep fasts during ramadan and naf’l fasts///in short, we try to follow religion as much as we can..and that is what my bari bhabhi and a nand (sis-in-law) is enculcating in their kids…i don’t want to sound like i’mbeating my own trumpet but just want to tell you that you have this view about overseas residing girls because it’s the only kind of girls you have met by far…which, i assume, was your own choice,..then how could you blame EVERRRRRY overseas pakistani girl???

[Afro-Sheen]

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While we're making irrational comments:
Umm why don't you ask your khala/phupho/mamoo/chachu to have a baby girl. Then ask them to raise her with all your ideals....you so you are able to CONTROL her and all like a robot.....and then get married to her when she is 16...before God forbid she develops and opinions or thoughts...so you can mold her...isn't it a norm for desi guys to marry little girls back home anyways....that way she will never dare defy you and speak her mind...god forbid.....JEEZ!

[shweetdreamz]

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oh my gawd how many times are we going to talk about this?