I stand corrected...
'highly inflated and inflammable egos cause boys and their families to look elsewhere'
LMAO!
I stand corrected...
'highly inflated and inflammable egos cause boys and their families to look elsewhere'
And I don't understand why boys can't try to change the attitude of a girl may be if they try it can set a right example for girls who are afraid of different cultural things.
you know its funny reading all the replies to this topic and the funniest is when the mothers think they are bringing seedhi saadhi bahos from pak.... most girls from pakistan I have found are chalak and display the whole star plus games mentality.... I'm not saying all of them I have met some who are just the most wonderful girls but majority are twisted, all into the status thing and trying to cut off the guy from his family...
and when I see this and other girls who are 'foreign' brought up yet they yearn for the whole family to be together I feel sorry for those mothers who passed up these gems...
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Nearly every woman my uncles married from back home were a nightmare. Some of my aunts are true gems. :k: But the ones that immigrated here with their husbands. O-M-G. They have serious complexes, and their entire lives are spent competing each other for who gets the better house and the better car.
There is no denying that the POSSIBILITY always exists that you’ll be running into greedy families if you hold a green card/citizenship of another country. And especially if you’ve got good educational and job credentials.
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I agree with that people think that Pakistani girls are just so simple but they are not.
At one point, weren’t some peoples mothers or grandmothers from back home? On some other forum, people could be referring to them like some posters are here 
Well our granparents and our mothers lives were really good and yes they were seedhi saadi khawateen but now a days as time is changing and Pakistani girls are becoming more aware they are more manupulative.
PS. may be I am pissed at some of chalak khawateen right now thats why my opinion is biest but what can I do.I have just met some of those very educated jahil khawateen from Pakistan who pretend to be very polite and humble but they are big hypocrites. 
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Unfortunately...hypocrites are not only limited to Pakistan...they tend to exist all over the world.
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True, our moms were from Pakistan, mostly, but like I said, those were guys who were raised in Pakistan and spent most of their life in Pakistan - they came over in the 70's when there weren't a lot of Pakistanis. So, coupled with their upbringing and the lack of options locally, they went back to get married.
My generation is very different. They were born and educated here. There is no lack of options locally.
Yes they do and I agree with that but what can I do, my experience was bad. There are lot of good girls out there too but what is the ratio.1:10
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Am I the only one who has met such wonderful people from back home? My overall impression is quite positive.
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Depends. If the crowd you hang out with all goes to the medical schools or something, that’s one thing.
If the crowd you have seen in Pakistan are, for example, Saddar, Lalu-Khet, Bandar Road, Gaarhi Katha, etc of Karachi, then you have a very different impression of Pakistani people.
I’m sorry. Sue me for coming from a poor background. I see people who are generally low-class and ignorant. Paan chewing and thoo-ing type.
That’s not what I will marry. No way. I’ll die single. :k:
I have met too but thats not what the topic is about.Its about moms or boys not giving a chance to a girl who is born and raised in West. Like Pakistan has many good girls then it has lot of good boys too. In West pakistani girls don't have much options and if all the options are running away what will they do? Marry someone out of culture or may be things like these make zinnah easy.
I come from a pretty diverse background. And my social circle is similar. I’ve met Paskitani people from all over, lots who married guys/girls form here, and were brought here.
I guess in the end sometimes we have to put our own personal views aside. I for one don’t think that the west lacks good, well-educated men. I think it could just be the area where you live, or what you are/are not exposed to.
UZ — I happen to be a Pakistani girl in the west. I’ve never felt that we were running out of decent men. Quite the opposite really. Maybe it has to do with different types of people settling in different regions? I don’t know. I’ve never felt that this was a crisis.
Who are these guys getting married back home? Like the OP mentioned, they probably went back coz they KNEW they could get a 'better-looking', more educated girl from Pakistan as opposed to here. They knew they weren't up to par with what girls are looking for here. So who cares if they went back to the PIND to get some chori! Good for them...do you really want to be with a guy who has been born and bred here and then goes back to find a girl coz he is so freakin insecure of his wife actually having a brain! The girls who married these guys are stupid to have settled for such husbands...in all likelihood they got married to get out of the country and are victims of wishful thinking. These girls probably think everything is made of gold in amreeka!
But there are some very educated girls in Pakistan who are also very opinionated. They are the ones who don't just marry any joe shmoes and make sure the guy is well educated and is making a good living. There is honestly not much difference between such girls and the girls from north america.
However, I have hardly seen any guys go back home to get married! In fact even the ones that weren't born here but came when they were 5 or 10 are choosing to get married here. All the guys in our community are totally against the idea of importing a bride! I think it depends on where you're living. I know for a fact that in places like NY, Michigan and Chicago, all the educated guys with great professions are getting married to girls from here and they are very particular about that!
We just have a bunch of insecure guys on gupshup who think importing a bride is the best thing since sliced bread...who cares about these losers who are not at all open to the idea of settling with someone from here...just goes to show how insecure they are.
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What is the point of this thread?
Thats true UZ, i seen girls from back home who are really mean and manipulative, makes you wonder how did they learn all those tricks.
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From Iconoclast.
Bhara kharaab aadmi hai.
What is the point of this thread?
To come up with as many generalizations as possible.