Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

[Jolie]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

Agreed. BTW, as regards your question about going to Uni, a number of women study only so that they can get a better "rishta". Kind of like a value-added good.

Its super pathetic, isn't it? So much for educating your girls to enlighten them, empower them bla bla

[Disney_Princess]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

Who said I was looking for argument? If you are desperate for 'proof' there are plenty of government sites with relevant stats, you can check out yourself.

Says it all.

[Jolie]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

Yup Pigeon syndrome.

[IceSoul]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

What a load of tosh!!!!** I don't know **a single female who has worked her butt off trying to get a very good education, and getting the best grades possible and who is sitting at home on social benefits

I do. Not on benefits obviously, but living off her imported husband.

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I don't know about benefits, but British Asian women are generally more dependent on their families than the others and that is apparent to all who are not blind or severely brain damaged.

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Yup Pigeon syndrome.
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U stole pigeon "syndrome" from me, didn't you? :p

[IceSoul]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

So much for educating your girls to enlighten them, empower them bla bla

That is not usually the intent.

[Disney_Princess]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

You can't just make up an argument without any evidence. Isn't this basic stuff they teach you at Uni? Or did you not attend or pay attention?

@IceSoul: I don't know a single educated woman who lives off her imported husband either. And no, I am not from the 'ultra privileged' before you start on that.

[IceSoul]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

@IceSoul : I don't know a single educated woman who lives off her imported husband either. And no, I am not from the 'ultra privileged' before you start on that.

Then I don't think you have seen much off the world.

[Jolie]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

You can't just make up an argument without any evidence. Isn't this basic stuff they teach you at Uni? Or did you not attend or pay attention? .

Seems like someone clearly didn't attend Uni to know about the basic research methods.

You are getting your panties in a twist over someone's personal experience, yet your own so called counter arguments starts with "I know many" or "I don't know any"? Yeah thats some serious earth shattering evidence and argument there.

[Disney_Princess]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

@IceSoul

Then I don’t think you have seen much off the world.

My points were based on British Asian females, not all the females of the world.

Pakistani and Bangladeshi Women’s Attitudes to Work and Family
Aston J, Hooker H, Page R, Willison R
Research Report DWPRR 458, Department for Work and Pensions, September 2007

Education

• Most of the women interviewed valued education very highly, regardless of their age, education, migrational background or generation. Those with few or no qualifications often spoke of wanting their daughters to have a good education. However, some women felt that some men in their communities did not support women’s educational aspirations, as it could give women too much independence and power.
• The influence of family circumstances and parents’ or partners’ attitudes was strong. Some of the women had no qualifications, and had bad experiences at school or had very traditional parents who had not felt that education for women was important. It was generally felt that these attitudes were changing and many of the younger women interviewed had obtained qualifications up to and including degrees.
• Women with degrees and masters degrees often said that their parents had passionately encouraged them in their education. This was very much the case for women who had obtained their degrees in their home country, whose parents were often also well educated. In contrast, some of the women who had obtained degrees in the UK said that their parents had wanted them to have an education and career that they themselves had not had the chance of.

Employment

• Around half the women interviewed were in paid employment. Those with no or few qualifications and/or with limited English language, were the most often unemployed or economically inactive. A few women reported doing voluntary work, sometimes in community centres that catered especially for Asian women.
• Women with qualifications, particularly those with degrees, were usually in employment, and some held relatively senior positions. Those with qualifications below degree level held a range of posts including working for local authorities, in the health sector, in call centres, or for financial institutions. Some women worked in social care settings, and others worked with children in nurseries or as classroom assistants. A number of women worked in jobs which involved working with and supporting women and families in their community.
• A small number of women reported being the main breadwinner in their family, but most women in paid employment considered that there was a joint responsibility between husband and wife to earn money.
• Regardless of educational background, the employed women interviewed for this study said that they had made a conscious effort to fit their work around their childcare responsibilities. They often worked part-time, or in jobs which offered them the flexibility they needed to do this. Some had chosen their jobs and careers for this purpose, or worked in roles for which they were over-qualified, in order to be able to balance the demands of work and family.

http://www.employment-studies.co.uk/pubs/summary.php?id=dwp458

[Jolie]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

.....The 60 or more like the 30 employed women interviewed back in 2007 represent the entire face of British Asian community?

[IceSoul]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

@Disney_Princess

My points were based on British Asian females, not all the females of the world.

Pakistani and Bangladeshi Women’s Attitudes to Work and Family
Aston J, Hooker H, Page R, Willison R
Research Report DWPRR 458, Department for Work and Pensions, September 2007

Education

• Most of the women interviewed valued education very highly, regardless of their age, education, migrational background or generation. Those with few or no qualifications often spoke of wanting their daughters to have a good education. However, some women felt that some men in their communities did not support women’s educational aspirations, as it could give women too much independence and power.
• The influence of family circumstances and parents’ or partners’ attitudes was strong. Some of the women had no qualifications, and had bad experiences at school or had very traditional parents who had not felt that education for women was important. It was generally felt that these attitudes were changing and many of the younger women interviewed had obtained qualifications up to and including degrees.
• Women with degrees and masters degrees often said that their parents had passionately encouraged them in their education. This was very much the case for women who had obtained their degrees in their home country, whose parents were often also well educated. In contrast, some of the women who had obtained degrees in the UK said that their parents had wanted them to have an education and career that they themselves had not had the chance of.

Employment

• Around half the women interviewed were in paid employment. Those with no or few qualifications and/or with limited English language, were the most often unemployed or economically inactive. A few women reported doing voluntary work, sometimes in community centres that catered especially for Asian women.
• Women with qualifications, particularly those with degrees, were usually in employment, and some held relatively senior positions. Those with qualifications below degree level held a range of posts including working for local authorities, in the health sector, in call centres, or for financial institutions. Some women worked in social care settings, and others worked with children in nurseries or as classroom assistants. A number of women worked in jobs which involved working with and supporting women and families in their community.
• A small number of women reported being the main breadwinner in their family, but most women in paid employment considered that there was a joint responsibility between husband and wife to earn money.
• Regardless of educational background, the employed women interviewed for this study said that they had made a conscious effort to fit their work around their childcare responsibilities. They often worked part-time, or in jobs which offered them the flexibility they needed to do this. Some had chosen their jobs and careers for this purpose, or worked in roles for which they were over-qualified, in order to be able to balance the demands of work and family.

http://www.employment-studies.co.uk/pubs/summary.php?id=dwp458

Only 60 women? This means that if I was to conduct an interview of families I know in the UK (don’t know many), that would be enough to turn the statistics upside down.

And of course, had the report mentioned that Asian women are utterly oppressed by their culture, it would have been labeled as racist.

[Jolie]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

I'm surprised no one mentioned desire for intimacy (or maybe I accidentally skipped a post or two)? This alone can be a huge huge reason for both religious men and woman for getting married...you know.

[Disney_Princess]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

Unless you have evidence to the contrary, you cannot refute any evidence that is brought up against you're views.

You can rip this report apart; but the fact remains that I haven't seen any proof to counter-act it. In fact I would be incredibly surprised if you do find anything. And until you do, my views will stay the same - educated women do not get an education so they can sit at home and stare at the four walls.

[IceSoul]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

I'm surprised no one mentioned desire for intimacy (or maybe I accidentally skipped a post or two)? It can be a huge huge reason for both Muslim men and woman for getting married...you know.

Did mention it.

[diwana]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

@Reha

Its seen as provocation because you are deliberately trying to annoy people.

A FACT cannot be argued with.

AN OPINION can.

Your opinion is just that…merely an opinion. No more than that. You have no support, no proof, no claims, nothing. Zero. Zilch. None. Nien.

You think you’re putting women in their place…by telling them they will always need men and blah blah blah. Its annoying.

I do not think you can deny this fact with reasoning…that women need men more then men need women.

But definitely can deny.

Also, nothing wrong in liking to get married based on the needs.

To answer the main question, women have more need for companionship than men.

And that is not a male chauvinistic view. It is merely a universal fact.

Read wedding section for further proof.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-Do-Women-Develop-the-Urge-of-Getting-Married?&id=2267999

             Women around the world develop fondness towards getting married  at a particular age. There are many reasons for a woman to get married  and all of them are completely justified. If you are traveling the same  boat, here are few reasons you can easily identify with for allowing the  opposite gender in your life forever.

While men start planning for their job and career from an early age, women, apart from planning a successful professional life, also prioritize getting married to their dream men. It won’t be appropriate to say that men don’t want to get married, but women have more reasons to tie a wedding knot. The discussion below will definitely carry one or more reasons you can identify with for planning a married life.
Fairy Tales of Childhood
All those stories and fairy tales, where romance blossoms between a prince and a princess, paints the picture of marriage in a woman’s mind right from the childhood days. The immature dreams get nourished with growth in age, which ultimately encourage her towards marriage at very first step of adultness.
Age is the Natural Factor
How old do you have to be to get married? While there is no specific age to be answered for this question, as soon as a woman descend her teenage, a natural force develops curiosity for getting married. Your ambition to get settled in professional life might delay your age of marriage, still you don’t completely abandon the thought of enjoying the status of a married woman.
Thirst for Unconditioned Love
Tired of dating, which might fail to satisfy her love bone, a woman develops interest in marriage for winning unconditioned love from her man. Also, you might discover a man, who is madly in love with you. A constant appetite of loving and getting loved can answer the question of why get married.
Feeling of Security with Men

No matter how successful a woman might get in her life, the real sense of security is experienced by her after getting married to a man, who is physically as well as mentally strong. Women want to get married to feel secure in their men’s arms and it definitely doesn’t exhibit their inferiority. It is a natural phenomenon, which is experienced by every woman.

Ultimate Pleasure of Life
There is no need to hesitate while admitting that sexual satisfaction also motivates a woman to get married. Fulfillment of these desires is not among the things to do before you get married, at least not for majority of women. Sexual relationship in a legalized form is what most of the women desire for.

Love for Children
Playing the role of a mother is among most cherishing desires of every woman. Right from the age of playing with dolls, women develop motherhood in more or less quantity and this inspires them to have their own children. So, it is a justified reason for women to show desperation towards marriage.
Other Reasons to Mention

• Leading a comfortable life can’t be counted among reasons not to get married. In fact, it is a justifiable reason to take the decision of getting married.
• Sharing responsibility with a companion is another reason for women, who want to get married desperately.
• Social recognition, loneliness and women around you getting married are other inspiring reasons for a woman to get married.

Marriage is more than a ceremony for every woman. The fascination of spending a wonderful life with a loving and responsible man can persuade you to step into the new phase of your life.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/2267999

[blackforest_360]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

sometimes I ask God why diwana exists.

This isn't an attack Diwana, it's a compliment. You've initiated my communication with God and for that I am forever grateful =]

[diwana]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

@blackforest_360

sometimes I ask God why diwana exists.

This isn’t an attack Diwana, it’s a compliment. You’ve initiate my communication with God and for that I am forever grateful =]

Glad that I could help.

[Reha]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

@diwana

I do not think you can deny this fact with reasoning…that women need men more then men need women.

But definitely can deny.

Also, nothing wrong in liking to get married based on the needs.

To answer the main question, women have more need for companionship than men.

And that is not a male chauvinistic view. It is merely a universal fact.

Read wedding section for further proof.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-Do-Women-Develop-the-Urge-of-Getting-Married?&id=2267999

             Women around the world develop fondness towards getting married  at a particular age. There are many reasons for a woman to get married  and all of them are completely justified. If you are traveling the same  boat, here are few reasons you can easily identify with for allowing the  opposite gender in your life forever.

While men start planning for their job and career from an early age, women, apart from planning a successful professional life, also prioritize getting married to their dream men. It won’t be appropriate to say that men don’t want to get married, but women have more reasons to tie a wedding knot. The discussion below will definitely carry one or more reasons you can identify with for planning a married life.
Fairy Tales of Childhood
All those stories and fairy tales, where romance blossoms between a prince and a princess, paints the picture of marriage in a woman’s mind right from the childhood days. The immature dreams get nourished with growth in age, which ultimately encourage her towards marriage at very first step of adultness.
Age is the Natural Factor
How old do you have to be to get married? While there is no specific age to be answered for this question, as soon as a woman descend her teenage, a natural force develops curiosity for getting married. Your ambition to get settled in professional life might delay your age of marriage, still you don’t completely abandon the thought of enjoying the status of a married woman.
Thirst for Unconditioned Love
Tired of dating, which might fail to satisfy her love bone, a woman develops interest in marriage for winning unconditioned love from her man. Also, you might discover a man, who is madly in love with you. A constant appetite of loving and getting loved can answer the question of why get married.
Feeling of Security with Men

No matter how successful a woman might get in her life, the real sense of security is experienced by her after getting married to a man, who is physically as well as mentally strong. Women want to get married to feel secure in their men’s arms and it definitely doesn’t exhibit their inferiority. It is a natural phenomenon, which is experienced by every woman.

Ultimate Pleasure of Life
There is no need to hesitate while admitting that sexual satisfaction also motivates a woman to get married. Fulfillment of these desires is not among the things to do before you get married, at least not for majority of women. Sexual relationship in a legalized form is what most of the women desire for.

Love for Children
Playing the role of a mother is among most cherishing desires of every woman. Right from the age of playing with dolls, women develop motherhood in more or less quantity and this inspires them to have their own children. So, it is a justified reason for women to show desperation towards marriage.
Other Reasons to Mention

• Leading a comfortable life can’t be counted among reasons not to get married. In fact, it is a justifiable reason to take the decision of getting married.
• Sharing responsibility with a companion is another reason for women, who want to get married desperately.
• Social recognition, loneliness and women around you getting married are other inspiring reasons for a woman to get married.

Marriage is more than a ceremony for every woman. The fascination of spending a wonderful life with a loving and responsible man can persuade you to step into the new phase of your life.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/2267999

ALL of these things and more apply to MEN as well.

Like I said, bila vajah behes shuru karne ki zaroorat nahin hai.

[diwana]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

ALL of these things and more apply to MEN as well.

Like I said, bila vajah behes shuru karne ki zaroorat nahin hai.

Sure, but your opinion only. :)

[PyariCgudia]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

It's our ladylike way of saying "i wanna get laid".