Lublyjubly, MehnazQ and SGC i agree with all 3 of u on this whole issue. Im married and have been for nearly 4 yrs. No1 wore their wedding outfits at my wedding simply cos i was the 1st one out of my mates to get married.
When i did wear my wedding outfit to my close friends wedding i wore the outfits on days that WUDNT clash with the bride. So red at the valima, my green valima outfit at the mehndi and cream/ivory sari for the wedding. Of course my mate had given me the all clear and shes like my sister. Theres no way id have done it for any1 elses tho.
There is absolutely NO excuse for that kind of hogging. I dont think its selfish at all. Its the one day in ur life u deserve to get every1s attention not by having sum flippen red jora wearing attention hogger. Hell they've had they're wedding day....they had their day of getting all the attention on them. Why the hell r they parading around in a laal jora on SOME1 ELSES shaadi day. Every1 voices their opinions on here and heres mine:
ITS NOT RIGHT!!!
I recently attended a walima...The bride and groom arrived quite late which is very normal here at Pakistani weddings...the bride was looking very beautiful in a soothing peach lehnga which was not at all loaded with heavy work or loud jewelry; she was indeed looking very decent and elegant...everything was fine until another girl came in (She came just before the dinner was being served). Everyone present at the wedding started looking at her and even forgot about dinner for some time...She was wearing a golden and blue bridal lehnga with heavy sparkling jewelry and had dupatta on her head and was constantly walking around the wedding hall (i didn't see her sitting anywhere)....I was quite shocked to see this...She was looking much more *bride-ish *and beautiful than the actual bride who was sitting on the stage.
I felt really sorry for that bride...Even if the other girl was some close relative she should not have ornamented herself with that much jewelry and dupatta on her head.
I've noticed that this really only seems to be a problem at Punjabi weddings...I don't think I've seen the whole 'guests dressed up in wedding outfits' thing anywhere else.
i just did another ranting post, but it's gone...hmmmm
anyhoo point was: good point maham nadeem, that's exactly what i'm trying to say too! who on earth wants to be pitied by their guests on their wedding day because someone else looks more like a bride than they do!!!!!! that's tragic!!!!
a brides day is a brides day, people should just be considerate, thats all! buy new clothes for your siblings wedding, if you don't get to get new fancy clothes on that occasion, then when do you?!!?!?!
More than anything i still think it think it looks weird!!!
it's not a punjabi thing, the in laws in question aren't even from the punjab!!! it's a bit of a generalisation to make that point!!!!!!
look at the end of the day, i'm having a rant, i totally get there are more important things in life etc. the marriage is more important than the wedding and i'm not going to tell people what to wear, i just think it would be nice for people to be a bit more thoughtful!!!!
even if you are someone that disagrees with the general view point on this thread, you should think about what the bride would like and consider her opinion on this matter, as its her day, not yours!!!
Mehnaz, from personal experience, no matter how perfect or not-so-perfect your wedding turns out to be, you won't care on the *day *of your wedding. Believe me, you won't even remember what most people wore, and nor will it matter.
You'd be too nervous. :p
You'd be on cloud 9.
You'd be surrounded by people telling you how lush you look.
You'll feel like the most important person there (yes, even more than your groom. :D)
I wasn't the shy bride staring at my feet the whole time, and yet I don't remember what a lot of people wore. And no matter what they wear, just take it as a sign that they've done it FOR you...not to compete with you. Everyone knows it's your day. Whether someone's tryin to steal the limelight or not, no one can ever outdo the bride.
Agreed :D
its only ur day(but it does matter what ppl wears especially ur beloved one )
Janab Ali i disagree
i am from punjabi family
i did n’t see a single girl looks like bride-ish in my familys wedding
our cousins (married one)especillay keep it in mind
but it does happens in many families (uffffffff how can they tackle )
tacky, I've never seen a wedding dress look good the second time around. Some people are creative though, couple years ago when I was in wedding in Pak a gal had a plain suit made that matched her wedding dress duppatta,I thought that was in good taste without wearing the whole skirt and top again.
I do agree you wouldn't notice it on your wedding day however in the videos and pictures it always looks tacky.
LOL this is funny! my cousins have always worn their wedding lehngas at other cousins wedding and in fact everyone appreciated it.
One of my cousins got married two days before my sis did so at my sis' barat, my cousin wore her wedding lehnga (duppata on shoulder) but she wore her wedding jewelry and was roaming around while a guy from the groom's side looked at her, ran to the groom telling him "I just saw bhabi walking around in her lehnga" He was later informed that it was the cousin instead of a bride!
My sis had a golden lehnga on her wedding but my cousin had red so she looked like a bride until my sis showed up and everyone was just looking at her because even though she wasn't wearing red, she had "the bridal look" on her face which a two days old bride didn't have!
All I can say is no one can steal your show, bride looks like a bride no matter how dolled up the other person is.. bride looks lush nonetheless!
If I were to decide, I won't even wear a lehnga to my wedding.. it's just over rated.. I would rather have a simple wedding and get over with it instead of spending thousand bucks on the lehnga that I may or may not ever wear again just because it may "offend" my cousins or best friends!:
actually the concept we have ....not necessary depends on a person
a gal can wear bridal dress only ...(not included jewellery)on her sibling's wedding preferably on brothers wedding,but not dress up in bride-ish look......:)
I'm not saying all Punjabis do it. But I've never seen it at non-Punjabi weddings...maybe its not part of the culture in other parts of Pakistan.
I was at this non punjabi wedding in karachi, it was the wedding of a jewler's son who was 4th in 5 in line among bros. All his 4 bhabhis and 2 sis were wearing their red weeding laghas on the wedding day. So it is not a punjabi thing.
One of my really good friends has said that I BETTER dress up in my wedding outfit, down to the duputta and jewelery and hair and makeup at her wedding. So yeah, not all girls are so anal abt wat other girls dress up in
well most of us that live abroad don't get that many functions to wear all our great outfits so when a wedding comes this is our only chance to dress up and look gorgeous. For my brother's wedding, I did wear my wedding outfit because I knew that I would never get a chance to wear it again. I didn't wear all the pieces of jewelry I wore for my own wedding.
How many occasions do we(people living abroad) get to wear any of the more expensive outfits that we buy. Not too many I think.
My cousin wore her wedding lengha with the dupatta on her head to her brother's wedding. She also had her make-up done by the same person who did the bride's make-up. Thats not all because she designed the bride's wedding outfit and jewellry to look almost exactly like hers they looked like twins on the wedding day. I felt so bad for the bride because people would constantly come up to us and ask "which one is the bride?"
^, now that's just too rude man!!!! Why would you do that to the bride, its their day not yours.
That being said, i dont think i would mind anyone showing up as a decked up dulhan at my wedding. I could care less. In the end, it would make them look retarded, not me.
.....and why would anyone would want to wear the bridal dupata on head with accessories, if decide on wearing your bridal langha to someone else wedding. Don't give me that hijab excuse, if it was for that purpose then get a plain silk dupata/scarf, dye it according to the dress color and wear that.
how can they tackle )
