who should i pick for marriage??

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Re: who should i pick for marriage??

@ms_misery

i realy need sm help .. im in a very situation .. i have 3 guys in my life..
the first guy .. im in luv with but he doesnt luv me bck atleast not anymor
the second guy is gd friend but i have no feelins for him n cant c him as a lyf partner
the third guy is non muslim .. who is willing to change religion to marry me
i was only serious about the first 1 but unfortunatly due to some misunderstandin we broke up n now he wont speak to me
as for the othr two guys they both know they r jus my friends in my eyes but both r equaly wanting to commit to me..
what should i do ? should i forget about the guy i loved …
or should i chose between the other 2..
HELP!!

@ms_misery

i am trying to forget about the first 1 but its realy hard as he was and stil is my true love .. if only hed come to his sense my life would be bliss..
i cant be with someone who i could never love and i knw for sure about the second my friend i could never love him ..
the 3 one is mainly changing for me but he did have an interest in islam before me.. and has always in the back of his mind made this decision of marrying an asian girl not a gori

@ms_misery

i dont think ill ever get over him.. and i dont want the right guy to slip out of my hands

@ms_misery

the 3 guy is someone i could see myself being with.. but its a major task as hes a non muslim.. dont know how my family would react

@ms_misery

thnx everyone for all your help… may Allah bless all of you in this blessed month amen..

@ms_misery

thnx evry1 for all ur help, iv relised i do see a future with the third guy now, only problem is how do i go about telling the family, they already do know him and know that we are friends, but the news of a possible marriage would be greatly unexpected.. what to do…

@ms_misery

im way past my school days..

@ms_misery

ADQUSIT ^^^ .. thank you so much for taking out the time to write me such a long reply.. lol alot of what you said is true and i do agree with you.. just to clear some stuff up.. the first guy well its not like i didnt try to make him see sense.. we had been having trouble in our relationship for about 2 years.. in that time i tried my best to please him i almost felt like i was married to him because of the way i would do everything for him .. worshiped the ground he walked on .. but anyways he didnt feel the same way and choose to walk away from me…as for the third guy … i wont be marrying a non muslim as before we get married he will be changing his religion to Islam.. this is his own personal decision.. after maybe 3 4 years .. once i can see for myself that he does believe in the teachings of islam will we get married.. trust me this guy is more muslim than the by birth muslim guys iv known .. DEEBA ^^^ … asked if i was in a rush to get married .. which im not ..atleast not until another 3 years… its just that if iv found someone right for me then why shouldnt i hold on to them… im sure most girls ideal dream would be to know whom theyll be spending their whole life with..

@ms_misery

thnxxxxx a bunch … =)