Re: who should i pick for marriage??
thnx evry1 for all ur help, iv relised i do see a future with the third guy now, only problem is how do i go about telling the family, they already do know him and know that we are friends, but the news of a possible marriage would be greatly unexpected.. what to do...
Salam Misery, In Islam women has no right to get marry with other religion man. even a man can't have the right, but if a muslim do marry with non beliver or any other religion woman, then this marriage is called Irregular marriage, (the second form of marriage in Islam). this marriage always hanging because its neither right not wrong. but its wrong. Its sad to say that you've finally selected the non muslim. You must be at the age almost 20 or more than. your parents didn't grow you up for this day that you announce them that mom and dad i am going to marry with a non muslim. Do you want to know them that there was lack of care in your growth? do you want to tell them that they were wrong while they were putting each and every moment of life for you?. No sweet Heart. good people are always there in world. this non muslim is not the last guy of this world. Remember "Those who belive in Allah, they never afraid of anything". and remember "when things are going out of your hands, then put them easily in the hands of Allah, He has the best way for your life and He will never give you wrong thing". Trust in Him.
Try to re develop relations with the first one. Human being is hungry for care and love. do more caring and more loving too him. Your piety and truthness of love will compell (majbur) him to come back. But don't give him 1 or 2 or 3 days. Give him time to recover him and recover your relations, as you know that "when relations are getting closer, so they are getting delicate/ more sensitive".
If after doing all this you still find him not coming back, then gradually gradually let him go, " because if something go away from you so let it go, if he/it/she comes back so its yours, and if not got back then let it go, it was not made for you. it was made for as long as you spent with him." saying these all words is quite easy HE NA, but in practical its extremely difficult. You just don't worry at all. Trust in Allah, He is with you. and Don't be worry at all don't be. You need to focus on other matters of life, because love is not the only part of your life, which is always in focus. change your mind in other social activities, book reading, teaching, working, assisting your mom and other people at home in their work. you will find the greatest happiness of your life.
its become lengthy, but its all for you.
