Like i said...clubbing partying etc in their past is all fine but i wouldnt want my husband hitting the clubs..after we are married i want someone is over that phase, thats what im saying...i.e. going to the club with their friends to hit on girls, i dont like the idea of that!
Inspiron, I don't think married men go clubbing.... clubbing is for finding girlfriends, so there's no need after marriage :)
Just focus on finding someone who's not chichora (you probably know what I mean)....... all my husband's friends (born and raised in US) used to go clubbing before they got married, now they don't. So there should be no worries in that department, at least.
i m nt accusing u inspiron ... i m jst saying in general ... the kinda guy u need ... isnt possible ... u hav to order it somwhere where u can change his features n get a customised product acordin to ur demand... ub Prince charles to ap ka ghar rishta baijnai se rhai ... ub u want som1 lik his earning ap se zaidah ho financially sound hoo .. mature b hooo shahrukh khan jaisa style b hoo , uk mai b reh ta hoo , us ka ghar b shd look like Saray mahal n last mai desi b hoooooo .... then i guess u shd contact Zardare for Bilawal bhutto ..tht is the only eligiable person for u according to ur requirement :p
Looks mean 0 to me so does the size of someones house.
I want someone emotionally and financially stable who can support the family if i stop working comfortably.
I want someone from the uk or who has grown up in the west.
I want someone of equal intelligence and wit.
I want someone who is a good moderate muslim..i.e. doesnt drink, doesnt go clubbing anymore...i want a Man not a boy
Inspiron, I don't think married men go clubbing.... clubbing is for finding girlfriends, so there's no need after marriage :)
Just focus on finding someone who's not chichora (you probably know what I mean)....... all my husband's friends (born and raised in US) used to go clubbing before they got married, now they don't. So there should be no worries in that department, at least.
well thats good to know!! :) it makes me feel better!!
apart from the bit where he says u go to work and i will stay at home with the kids...i personally think mothers should stay at home with the children if possible.
Like i said...clubbing partying etc in their past is all fine but i wouldnt want my husband hitting the clubs..after we are married i want someone is over that phase, thats what im saying...i.e. going to the club with their friends to hit on girls, i dont like the idea of that!
And i said someone of equal intelligence, success, wit and educations i didnt say someone only from the medical field.
And yes there are many educated people in pakistan 100% all my family is highly educated but i want to marry a guy who has grown up in a western country because i have.
if he has been clubbing and partying in their past he is likely to do it again even after he's married. a persons nature and habits stay the same throughout their life....if he sees nothing wrong with drinking and sleeping with girls in the past....whats going to stop him when he's married to you?
if you want a guy grown up in a western country then good luck.....just wanting someone from western country without a proper reason is again being picky...
well what about what miainva said in her post? i actually disagree with your post alot tbh.
Just because someone went clubbing when they were 18 doesnt mean they will do at when they are married...and i was talking about clubbing and partying.
I dont want someone who has slept with girls in the past.
I think you are being negative for no reason.
I want someone from a western coutnry because i have grown up in a western country how is that picky??
well what about what miainva said in her post? i actually disagree with your post alot tbh.
Just because someone went clubbing when they were 18 doesnt mean they will do at when they are married...and i was talking about clubbing and partying.
I dont want someone who has slept with girls in the past.
I think you are being negative for no reason.
I want someone from a western coutnry because i have grown up in a western country how is that picky??
ive seen guys who didnt go clubbing when they were young but actually started after getting married.....if its in a persons nature to be like that....they will be.....being young has got nothing to do with it....its a saying "kutte ki dum kabhi seedhi nai ho sakti"
ps. im from uk myself....have gone through the whole uni process....and know very well how the guys here are like.
People who go clubbing do not necessarily sleep around, right?
My husband used to go clubbing now and then when he was a bachelor, he told me himself.
Its been 6 years since we got married, he has not been to a club ever since… asked me if I wanted to go see one and I refused, so we never went.
i know men from the UK who went clubbing when they were bachelors and then never looked at a club again after they got married, litteprincess so i really dont know what men you are talking about.
ALSO i have guy friends who went clubbing in 1st year and 2nd year but now in 4th year and final year dont go at all!
i dont know what kind of men you know but i have never met anyone like that!!
so basically......there is no hope? is that what ure saying???
or are u just playing devils advocate?
if you know so much about men.....then why are you asking "where have all the men gone" ??? all im saying to you is that if someone does haram things when they're young...they wont automatically stop after marriage or when they meet you....
im saying that there are good men out there, but they are hard to find....the good ones are taken like you said....and being picky doesnt help matters...
ps. if your doing medicine in the midlands....its most likely leicester or birmingham uni ur at?
i know men from the UK who went clubbing when they were bachelors and then never looked at a club again after they got married, litteprincess so i really dont know what men you are talking about.
ALSO i have guy friends who went clubbing in 1st year and 2nd year but now in 4th year and final year dont go at all!
you are not getting the point.....if you dont want someone who goes clubbing.....then why do you want someone who has done so in the past? why not look for someone who has NEVER done that?
if you know SOOO much about men,, you shouldnt have a problem finding one.
ps. i assume you're only 22? you have alot more to see in the world yet...
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