Re: Where does one stay if your husband is out of town?
I know you didn’t but I was talking about the mandatory visits that you were talking about. I am asking you to take it a step further since you are one of the only people who want wife to visit their in-laws forcefully without her husband being there.
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^ acha now my reply was for us1415 and you reply?
Am i missing something here?
As for what u just posted, well i dnt care if im one in million to believe something…as long as it feels right and sits well with my conscious, i 'll gladly stick to it. And vice versa. So your point is?
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Dont understand your first sentence.
My point is for you to do it first and then come back and talk. Talking without any experience is just talk.
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Mr i never said i would stay with my inlaws if my husband is not there living with me in that house! So i have no idea what you refering to.
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But you said it was mandatory hence the confusion.
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^ oh bhaiiii! I said visiting should be mandatory that too as long as the inlaws are nice and respectful.
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you attacked us1415 in your post #9](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=9) for his choice on letting his wife meet his parents whenever she wants.. its fine i f you think it should be mandatory but you basically called him a bad son for his decision.
meet your inlaws every single day if you want, but no need to tell others what they must do .
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As you can see I have quoted you above in your discussion with me. You have said that I should have forced my wife to visit my parents once a week when she was waiting for her visa which means I was not there.
With this I rest my case
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ok i take my words back, i have no right to tell him he is a bad son or not!
I just felt his post was offensive in a way that it showed if marriage was only about you and your wife and your parents had no role or importance in it. Maybe its the new thing that people are following but i don’t buy that.
I should respect your right to your opinion as so should you.
I am out of here 
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YES i still stick with my opinion! you don’t have to be there for your wife to visit her inlaws. You may not agree but its ok, each to their own.
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Even though you said that you are taking your words back. You still managed to put my opinion down. If you want an explanation of something, the right way is to ask for it. Not saying that I am a bad son without knowing me.
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I just explained what i felt abour your opinion, i thought u were being unfair to yr parents hence my reaction.
Baki like i said, each to their own. Yes i dont know you so i shouldnt say you are a good or bad son. My applogies!
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I thought both of u were resting ur case 
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In reality, they are buzurg and should be treated with respect and kindness always.
But it becomes a failing on a son or daughter’s part when they expect other people to do what they will not do.
How many times will a bahu for who its **mandatory **to see her inlaws all the time visit her own mother and father? Automatically, it seems that responsibility will fall on who? The new bride in the bahu’s family. 
Agar log APNE maa baap ka haqq ada karna shuru kardein…to saas bahu ki chik chik se sab ki jaan chut jaye.
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Stay in hotel.
My paper work continued to 3.5 months after my wedding.My husband left a week after our wedding.
I spent half my time at in-laws and half at parents .. I tried to spend time more so at in laws as that was probably the only time i would properly get to spend with them and get to know them better and same way for them. They gave me the liberty to live at my parents and ny husband even emphasized more that i live at my parents but i told him i wanted to spend time with in laws. Without husband or children it in fact was the only time i got to know them one to one and similarly for them.
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Yeah… but Im guessing your in-laws household consisted of women as well. The OP’s case is different…
If I were you Op I would come frequently over to my in-laws and bring over food occasionally (Im not sure if you FIl and Bil can cook ), but I wouldn’t stay over.
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Especially when you barely know the two men.
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^ Good point!
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Stay with your family and ask him to pay you an allowance.