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Okay, why dont I go ogling the next man I find hot? Is that fair???
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^psyah bhai do you really believe that? men have control and they are not weak minded creatures, falling in love with her just based on her looks......i'm pretty sure there are men here who would disagree. men have just as much control over themselves as women do. society looks down on a man lusting just as much as a woman lusting(she would be more penalized though)
women are not robots either like sweetif and inspiron agreed on, women will look and admire at a handsome man's looks too his looks were also made by God so no harm in looking
Peace Nisha25
Some men are good at hiding some are bad ... some men try to prevent lustful desires others don't ... However the "majority" of men will develop lustful thoughts if their first glance turns into a gaze and then a stare. As a woman you could not possibly know this, but if you believed in the Qur'an you could see that Allah (SWT) does not put unnecessary conditions on us and lowering the gaze is one of them. You see I'm not a woman and can never know the true psyche of a woman, but because I truly believe that the Qur'an is the word of God, then when it talks about women drawing veils over chests ... it points to the fact that the majority of women have an inner desire to adorn and be noticed by others mostly men and that is not to say a woman does not have shyness. It is something required by Islam that we should train ourselves away from our debasing desires and train ourselves towards our higher ideals. Every human is lumbered with a baggage that some are battling with, some are succombing to some have conquered and others have been conquered by.
So the idea with not looking is based on prudence - it heavily increases the chances of ones mind moving away from admiration towards lust. I can't be wrong ... at least my whole self tells me this is true.
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Why are women so insecure in the first place? They poke their noses everywhere.
That fact that we object to women's presence in our visual affairs also means that we might be insecure too.
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Okay, why dont I go ogling the next man I find hot? Is that fair???
And you guys do as what about the oohs and aaahs with bollywood khans and robert pattinson etc for our foreign born population!
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That fact that we object to women's presence in our visual affairs also means that we might be insecure too.
Candy is just irresistible! :)
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Candy is just irresistible! :)
There goes the moth towards the burning light - come back you'll burn your wings !!!
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@psyah. Not disagreeing with your ethics and morals here but just so let you know insecurity originates with the ego. Shyness was the first personality characteristic proven to be inherited, but shyness in and of itself is not insecurity. We should all have shyness. What i am saying is if the insecurity involves the perception of inadequacy from my spouse to be then i would feel sorry for her.
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Peace Xtron
I've never mixed up insecurity for shyness ... please explain your post.
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Okay, why dont I go ogling the next man I find hot? Is that fair???
Guys don't mind it :D
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We were walking in the mall a while back when a woman with oozing body parts walked right in front of us…forget about my husband, even I was like 
. I mean how do you expect your husband to nazarein jhukao when even women behind their niqaabs and jilbaabs take sneak peaks. I think it’s pretty normal.
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^ Lol! Reminds me of the time I went shopping with one of my friends and her mum... There was a fashion show occurring in one of the shopping centres.. where some very handsome men were modelling male underwear.. us lot were just covering our gaze trying to get past.. but we couldn't help but notice the number of hijabis in the audience was incredible!
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whats an oozing body part 
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With SO & I, this is not a big deal. When we're in public, we BOTH often point out girls to each other than we think is "pretty" or "hot". Neither one of us drools over her or checks her out in a way that would make her uncomfortable.....usually its just a glance and then whisper "that girl's hot". Then the other person looks....agrees or disagress.....and then we move on.
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yea i’m with Niksik, even i would look at a woman if she was showing her bits cleavage wise
as a woman i’d look at her, well she’s showing it for all to see, so i’m guessing for men it’s irresistible. rule is look but don’t touch :nono:
men that are hunkiness galore, like if this rajput Prince Nakul ji was to walk by me in a mall, I would look much longer than normal :hinna: don’t be sendin no arrogance ma way thank you very much, no ogling of course 
sweetif, RV, inspiron back me up!! 
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^ogling is ok...as long as a woman does it ;)
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^ogling is ok...as long as a woman does it ;)
you and your men vs women battle, drooling with tongue out is a no no for both men and women duh but all i'm saying is if a man has to look then he can take it when his woman looks :p
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Open-mindedness gayi bhaar mein, ima whoop his ask! 
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my husband does this and whenever he does that I look at the other direction as to not make it awkward and just lower my opinion of him more. I cry too sometimes thinking about it too
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People who say "look but don't touch" or who don't take themselves to account for their subtle actions are ignoring the state of their heart and soul.
The reason why people can't help but look at women with their parts hanging out is because they have not trained themselves to do so. It's all about discipline. I'm not saying I can walk in a crowd of sparsely dressed women without looking ... I am saying that we should try to avoid looking.