When do you think parents should start instilling morals, values, for many religious beliefs, and self-esteem in their children.
Nowadays we see all sorts of examples, the toufani kids that u wish their parents had taught some manners to, or the kid who throws tantrums, some children refuse to do anything when forced. There are also the shy and quiet kids, but we do not really know what they are really made up of.
So what approach should parents take? How can they maintain a balance and most importantly make sure their child is secure.
If their is more than one child how can a parent teach them respect and equality towards each other and help them recognize that they are each going to be individuals and different.
true what midnight eyes says… from the minute they are born.
my mom says even a newborn has some sense.. it knows to feed from its mouth and not its nose.. a toddler knows to put things in its mouth to taste them.. not its ears..
ofcourse dont be silly and start expectinga newborn to not cry when u tell it not to.. hehe.. but i hate parents that think their 1 yr old is too young to know any better… a child nkows when ure upset, angry and not happy… show them and u will be surprised at how much a child can understand at such an early age…
i have a friend who has a 2 yr old from hell.. she is waiting to discipline him once he grows up a bit.. when? once he is set in his ways?
all it took was a beta dont touch that and taking his hand away from the crystal decorations.. and he didnt touch them again… she was so surprised..
Discipline shoulds start from birth, e.g. When the newborn baby cry's in the cot, and the Mum let's the baby cry(so baby get's used to not always being picked up), Other wise the baby will know how to get mummies attention by "crying for everything"
Discipline shoulds start from birth, e.g. When the newborn baby cry's in the cot, and the Mum let's the baby cry(so baby get's used to not always being picked up), Other wise the baby will know how to get mummies attention by "crying for everything"
That's harsh.
Discipline should start from age 7 but stilling morals and all from birth.
You can start disciplining even before age 1!! When babies start teething, they may bite and really hurt mama. Remove baby from feeding, wait a minute and then start again. Repeat each time baby bites and they actually do learn not to bite.
When mine were toddlers, we used time-outs and taking a toy or privelege away for a certain amount of time. Thats how we discipline to this day and it works pretty nicely.
I cant imagine waiting till age 7 to start discipine - mine would be absolute monsters lol!! But I dont think the whole age 7 thing includes the type of discipline that we use.
I started very early. Kids may not realize what you're up to but it is important to bring in a firm tone if you are trying to discipline them so they can distinguish between when you are casual and when you are serious. Eventually, they understand.
The other thing about discipline is that both parents should be on the same wavelength. They may not agree but in front of the kids they need to appear in harmony. So if I need to have a talk to my daughter about something I feel she should not have done, my husband either supports me by adding on or if he chooses, he remains quiet. In front of her, he shouldn't say your mom is overreacting etc... because the kid then gets a confusing message.
Personally, I don't think an occasional spank does any harm...especially if it's on the behind. I would be a little careful of hitting on the face as it really hurts their developing self esteem. But if we as parents get into talking it out and controlling our anger, we may not need to hit a kid at all. Usually it's a display of our anger over something that could be sorted out just by talking.
Discipline shoulds start from birth, e.g. When the newborn baby cry's in the cot, and the Mum let's the baby cry(so baby get's used to not always being picked up), Other wise the baby will know how to get mummies attention by "crying for everything"
That's harsh.
Discipline should start from age 7 but stilling morals and all from birth.
Hareem The child psychologist preach what CE is saying.
I have a heart wrenching story about it.
My daughter used to cry a lot in the night. Her mama is hard of hearing so I would wake up first and then wake her up to go and take care of the baby but being a working man I needed 8 hours sleep I was looking for some solution for this problem.
Then I heard this child specialist on the radio saying the same thing CE said and then I discussed with my co worker who had a child of same age as my daughter. He told me that is what they did and now their kid sleeps through the night.
So I told my wife to not go and look at my daughter when she cries that night . our daughter used to sleep in a crib and in her own room. She was little so she could not climb the crib but she was at an age where she crawling and could stand.
She was crying so hard and so much that I closed the door to her bed room . A few minutes later I heard her crying near the door of her bed room so I ran to see and she was standing by the door and crying. So I picked her up and then told her mama may be she is sick , so she also agreed and checked her and we found out that she had measles that is why she was so miserable that night and I am sure that she some how because of her pain climbed up the crib and fell down, luckily , we had very good plush carpet in her room. So she was fine and did not get head injury or break her neck.
She is eight now . But I feel guilty to this day because of that incident. I love her to death , if she is uncomfortable for any reason I get very miserable.
Mirch, my kids peds told me at one of her early well visits...I think 6 month visit, that a lot of parents are going by the book. Don't forget to hold your child and hug her. Comfort and security are the most important needs of a child. So yes, while sometimes kids just cry for attention, at other times all they need is some TLC.
My elder daughter would not sleep through the night until she was 3!
When she was 18 months - As a full time working mom and with another one on the way I had it. One day I said "Enough" - I am going to let he cry it out the whole night.
I couldn't do it. After 10 minutes I sat infront of her door and started sobbing. i thought Allah is going to punish me for this. I went in and with age she was fine.
I believe in discipling kids but with age you'll see that they will grow out of things on their own (it usually true for kids ages 1-4)
I know there is no such thing as being fully prepared to have children but when I do I want to have some idea as to what to do. Everyone has their own version of discipline and IMHO a light swat on the bottom doesnt hurt. Beating a child is another story. My mom says discipline needs to start early because by the time kids reach school age they need to know what is unacceptable behavior - for the most part.
