I don't know. At least he talks to you daily. My moron chaacha had his wife in Pakistan for 3 yrs, barely spoke to her, and only when he called, he actually called to talk to his mom and would speak to his wife very formally for like 3 minutes.
Then when she got here, he didn't take her out. Spent each night working. Coming home at 11 pm from work and leaving at 8 am to go back. They now have like 2 kids together, and he still doesn't give her the time of the day.
I am just ASSUMING here but I think you need to give him some space. Maybe he is feeling suffocated and wants some space, but he knows if he says anything you'll get annoyed or clingy or start questioning him. So he just chats everyday but he's like....ehhh...
are you the only one initiating all the calls/chat sessions? or is he too?
maybe you can start missing a chat here and there. slowly you can start spacing them out. you might find that you actually have more to talk about if you call, say, twice a week as opposed to everyday. let HIM call you once in a while...also it doesn't hurt to maintain some mystery about yourself....guys actually like it when a girl has something on going on in her life besides the relationship only, it makes her more interesting and it will make you less depressed.
here's my opinion: you're not feeling lonely and depressed because of the distance or lack of attention coz it seems like he gives you enough. you're feeling insecure that you're not there and don't know what's going on in most of his day and that makes you depressed. you want him to shower you with attention and complain how he can't live without you so that you feel important.
you need to grow up and stop feeling so insecure. there's nothing 'wrong' with the relationship, it's just a different dynamic when you're apart.
here's my opinion: you're not feeling lonely and depressed because of the distance or lack of attention coz it seems like he gives you enough. you're feeling insecure that you're not there and don't know what's going on in most of his day and that makes you depressed. you want him to shower you with attention and complain how he can't live without you so that you feel important.
you need to grow up and stop feeling so insecure. there's nothing 'wrong' with the relationship, it's just a different dynamic when you're apart.
ikh i didnt realize long distance wud be so hard but ur ryte i do feel insecure n less than important part of his life n maybe that is childish of me
Well my post applies to both bfs and husbands. Suppose both husband and wife are home 24/7...they will end up getting sick of each other! That's why it's good that in most societies, hubby is gone for most of the day. Well u guys aren't even seeing each other in the evening...which sucks...but still, it doesn't hurt to give him some space. It's not like he's going anywhere and no matter what, he's your hubby for life...so just try it. :)
llxxll..im in a long distance relationship too..u get loads of talk time..webcam....texts...phone calls...i get texts and emails and th odd phone call..ur lucky...
Life is tough in Pakistan. Just surviving is a big deal in between bomb blasts, robberies etc. Plus people have to run a million chores in between the time they have electricity turned on.
Men aren't touchy feely like you women, where they would sit on the phone and sob over missing you daily. Learn to deal with it. Pick up a hobby like knitting or sowing or read a book or something instead of socializing with psycho feminists over the internet and jeopardizing your marriage.
Grow up and get over it. you MADE the decision to live like this now live with it. Men can be alot worse, he doesnt sound like it that ure calling him a gadha already.