llxxll, is he in Pakistan? If he's in Pakistan then I would totally understand, wahaan tau jaa kar mairay husband bhi mujhay bhool jaatay hain :p
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lol...so llxxll is not alone afterall. its NOT like that in India haha..now cross border marriages should be the norm haha**
llxxll, is he in Pakistan? If he's in Pakistan then I would totally understand, wahaan tau jaa kar mairay husband bhi mujhay bhool jaatay hain :p
ji woh pakistan mein hain
Re: What's wrong with me?
par yahan issue yeh hai k why am I depressed all the time mera kyun nahin dil lagta kahin
Re: What's wrong with me?
quit moaning lovey.. long distance relationships are not easy and maybe he's not as soppy as ud want him to be. If he treats u well when ur alone with him u know he does care about u.
par yahan issue yeh hai k why am I depressed all the time mera kyun nahin dil lagta kahin
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zaahir hai ur other half is not with u while u wanna be with him and u are worried if he want to eb with u equally. in the meantime, i wud suggest u join gym, sleep for atleast 6-8 hours a day and find a good saheli who will listen to u and be with u to give comfort. don't eat too muchh ice cream though lol**
quit moaning lovey.. long distance relationships are not easy and maybe he's not as soppy as ud want him to be. If he treats u well when ur alone with him u know he does care about u.
maybe thats cuz we were alone jab mere se duur hote hain mujhe bhuul jaate hain m last thought on his mind
m not saying he aint loving he sends me msgs i miss u i lov u par sab mechanical lagta hai na jab mujhe unn mein mere liye tarrap nahin nazar aati....he doesnt come on cam or asks to come on cam m always the one saying cam pe aajao hubby
he doesnt msg me frequently i do
mujhe puuchna parrta hai k main call karlu aapko?
sometimes he says yes sometimes no
does that show m importsnt to him?
do these things show he misses me
do these things show he;s dying to hear my voice or see my face?
do these things show he needs me?
pata nahin maybe its all my fault
^^ur my saheli hehehehe
lol..it backfired on me hehe lol...how about a "sahela"? haha... chalega? lol
Re: What's wrong with me?
no no ab toh main saheli hi kahungi lollll
Re: What's wrong with me?
darling nothings ur fault... let the relationship develop naturally! Dont force him to show u over compassion, if he says he misses u believe him.. if he says he loves u dont doubt him! Men are not as expressive as women and with him being so far away he probably doesnt know how to show it to u! Leave it for after, im in a long distance relationship too and BELIEVE me when i say its NOT easy lol! but u just gta keep in mind that u WILL be living with him one day after ruksathi and he will be all urs! and behind those closed doors ull have his undivided attention sweetheart! Just look forward to spending quality time with him, dont go crazy psyco girl on him lol! wish u the best of luck
no no ab toh main saheli hi kahungi lollll
agar aap ba-zid haiN to ... hehe
Re: What’s wrong with me?
I got nikahfied recently and she’s back in Pakistan. I didn’t even know her from before nikah, but ever since the nikah, I really miss her. Its very strange, but I always catch myself thinking about her 
Khair…so what I mean to say is that what you are feeling is very normal and sweet.
Re: What’s wrong with me?
Why not have gotten married AFTER he arrived here?
You chose to be in a long-distance relationship and are having to deal with the time wait of getting him over to your country. That process can take time. It took 3 years for my aunt to come here after her nikkah with her husband and it was a nightmare for her. 
You guys need to understand exactly what you’re getting yourselves into when choosing a husband. Why not have married someone in your country?
I feel for ya, but hey, you made your decisions.
the wait time is not the problem in fact his visa has already been approved masha’allah se. Even if it took 50 yrs for him to get here it is not the issue…the underlying issue is that that boy goes to work from 10AM-7PM then he comes home and takes a nap…usually from 7:30 PM- 9:30 PM then he goes to exercise in gyme from 10:00-11:00PM then he comes home takes bath usually takes an hour (11:30-12:30AM) then he eats dinner also takes an hour to do that 12am-1 am then he goes with family to other family member’s house if its the weekend and stays till 3am sometimes 4 am or else he spends time with his family from 1 am to 2 am … iss mein se mere liye tyme kab hota hai let me tell u
from 10AM - 7PM while he is at work he gives me 1-2 hours on webcam …he doesnt give me his undivided attention because obviously he is at work and cant but at least I get to see him so no complaints there
from 9:45 PM to 10 PM until the time it takes him to reach gym I get to speak with him on the fone
then I get to speak with him rom 11:00pm to 11:15 pm after that
i get about half hour of his time on fone at night
so lets see
webcam time = 1-2 hours
talk time = 1 hours woh bhi torr torr k
is this enough? could he not take away some time form his family and give it to me? am I not his family too?does he really need to socialize so much that he is at relatives homes till 3am to 4 am why he cant give that time to me
chalo yeh sab mein bhi mujhe koi problem na ho
agar bande ko mujhe khud na kehna parre bhai saahib cam pe apni shaqal kab dikhaayenge?
apni awaaz sunaane ki kitni rishvat lenge
yaar ek toh yeh sab mein kami dekhne mein unhe sun ne mein
upar se woh khud show nahin karte k he is dying to see me too like hey sweety come on cam will ya
or can u call me?
no its me always asking
so really it aint the distance thats bothering me its him not taking the initiative to give me some time and attention
Re: What's wrong with me?
Well sounds like he's got a lot going on. So he's giving you 1-2 hrs from WORK. Now I know the work ethic in Pakistan isn't the best in the world, but if I did that HERE, let me tell you. I'd lose my job. So, if he's making time for you from WORK and risking getting in trouble...
And so is that enough time for you. Yeah. If he was living with you, would you want him on the phone with his mother for more than 2 hrs each day? Or would you get annoyed?
Re: What's wrong with me?
sis mera decision tha cross country marriage karne ka
mera yeh decision nahin tha k mujhe mera hubby nonattentiveness show kare
mera decision tha non us citizen k saath shaadi karne ka
mera yeh decision nahin tha k woh banda mujhe apne actions se show na kare k woh bhi mere liye tarrapta hai
mera yeh decision tha main family man k saath nikkah karun
magar yeh mera decision nahin tha k baaqi sab family members ko woh phir bhi time deidep par jo unhone nayi family member banaayi hai usko waqt tavajjoh and/or pyar na dein
yeh sab cheezein distance pe reh k bhi di jaa sakti hain ...i know because i give it...i show him by asking him woh webcam pe kab aa rahe hain apni awaaz kab suna rahe hain free kab honge taakey main unhe call karlu ....yeh sab karke main show karti hun mujhe unhe dekhne ko unhe sun ne ko unke saat waqt bitaane ko kitni tarrap hai...but he doesnt.... iss mein i lvoe u miss u bolne ko toh nahi kaha just want that he should show me by his actions that hey he really misses and needs his wife...
Well sounds like he's got a lot going on. So he's giving you 1-2 hrs from WORK. Now I know the work ethic in Pakistan isn't the best in the world, but if I did that HERE, let me tell you. I'd lose my job. So, if he's making time for you from WORK and risking getting in trouble...
And so is that enough time for you. Yeah. If he was living with you, would you want him on the phone with his mother for more than 2 hrs each day? Or would you get annoyed?
nahi yaar his boss know he comes on cam uss mein unhe job ka risk nahin hai.
his mother aint his life partner i am and mere saath unka relation new hai apni mom k saath old...there is a little bit of a difference na n m not saying he spends time with his mom n mujhe annoy hota m just saying he doesnt give me time uski annoyance hoti hai k agar woh 4 hours apni family k saath spend karte hain toh kya aadha ghanta mujhe nahin de sakte? social hone k liye time hai idhar udhar gharon mein jaane ka biwi ko time deine ka time nahin yaar humaara relation naya hai isse zyada tavajjoh ki zarurat hai k nahin?
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He probably does miss you and needs you. Men can be less emotional than they should be, and so he just might not be showing it.
And maybe from his side, he thinks that by communicating with you daily for 1-2 hrs long distance (what with long distance charges, and the fact that he has other things to do), is total justice to his wife. When you guys are living under the same roof, he'll be better able to show you how much he loves you.
I dont think his actions show he doesn't care. If that makes you feel any better.
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I don't know. At least he talks to you daily. My moron chaacha had his wife in Pakistan for 3 yrs, barely spoke to her, and only when he called, he actually called to talk to his mom and would speak to his wife very formally for like 3 minutes.
Then when she got here, he didn't take her out. Spent each night working. Coming home at 11 pm from work and leaving at 8 am to go back. They now have like 2 kids together, and he still doesn't give her the time of the day. Like literally. She doesn't even know how much money her husband makes - he doesn't get her gifts. Gives her some pocket money so she can buy herself clothes.
Your husband sounds like he is in love, in comparison.
He probably does miss you and needs you. Men can be less emotional than they should be, and so he just might not be showing it.
And maybe from his side, he thinks that by communicating with you daily for 1-2 hrs long distance (what with long distance charges, and the fact that he has other things to do), is total justice to his wife. When you guys are living under the same roof, he'll be better able to show you how much he loves you.
I dont think his actions show he doesn't care. If that makes you feel any better.
lolzz
1-2 hrs on webcam
fone pe 1 hr and woh bhi me calling not him so he doesnt have to worry about the charges na.... :@:
hmm i guess ur ryte he probably does need me and misses me and cares ..but he's just a gadha
errr....i mean a man
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