i went to Pak on the 15th of March got nikkah-fied on the 24th of march and came back to usa without my hubby on 1 April…
from 1st april to May i was missing him but nt depressed…then May i started working again and really started losing it and missing him and wanting him an crying a lot…I was also having feelings of inadequacy and still have those that m the only one missing him he can live without me but i cant i lvoe him but he doesnt …he;s important to me but he doesnt value me doesnt give me the love time and attention i need etc etc etc..that everyone else and everything else in his life is important and m nowhere in the picture
july 25-August 4 we met and spent 10 days alone together i was happy and fine during those ten days in fact i was in heaven those were the best ten days of my life…then I came back and started having those feelings again
mera kaam pe dil nahi ;agta mera kahin bhi dil nahin lagta m not sure whats going on with me and how to fix it…to top it off since my job is in a different state than my dad’s m here with my mom and my dad is there,…i feel like m totally lost and incomplete and just wanna die or something
Effects of long distance relationship. Just go to Pakistan and be with him. This time won't come back and you have whole life to spend time doing jobs.
^ Sirf Nikkah hua hai bhai, Rukhsati nahin (from what I read).
To llxxll....... enjoy these days. Chatting waghairaa kar liya karo, think of it as a cyber-relationship :) Later on when you start living together after Rukhsati you'll be like..... ugh gimme my space..... get out :p
^ Sirf Nikkah hua hai bhai, Rukhsati nahin (from what I read).
To llxxll....... enjoy these days. Chatting waghairaa kar liya karo, think of it as a cyber-relationship :) Later on when you start living together after Rukhsati you'll be like..... ugh gimme my space..... get out :p
aapkii daastaan sun kar dukh huaa aur i ampethize with with. i dunno why u can't be together? is it that he is waiting for his visa? if thats the acse why don't u join him in Pak? how do you know about his feelings for u?
as far as i know, all bad times pass eventually and one mustn't loose sight of the furure when you'll be together, insha Allah. just be patient, call him everyday...get on cam and be the together atleast in the virtual world :)
wish u all the best. iA, good times are just around the corner. May Allah re-unite u two and make ur deen dunyaa a success ... aameen :)
Uff oh.... enjoy kar lo Azadi. Later, you'll be working and cooking and cleaning and will have no time for yourself.... no 'ME' time anymore and you'll come back to GS asking for advice on how to get some 'ME' time :) .
You think wrong honey. My husband is also that type… he will never say “I miss you” even when I went to Pakistan without him for 3 weeks. Mein taras gayee thee… I was like you didn’t even miss me one day and he just smiled .
See, men don’t express their emotions like us women. He is probably missing you but he won’t even acknowledge it, that doesn’t mean you’re nothing to him. Stop being so insecure, he wouldn’t have married you if he didn’t like you and WANTED to marry you.
aapkii daastaan sun kar dukh huaa aur i ampethize with with. i dunno why u can't be together? is it that he is waiting for his visa? if thats the acse why don't u join him in Pak? how do you know about his feelings for u?
as far as i know, all bad times pass eventually and one mustn't loose sight of the furure when you'll be together, insha Allah. just be patient, call him everyday...get on cam and be the together atleast in the virtual world :)
wish u all the best. iA, good times are just around the corner. May Allah re-unite u two and make ur deen dunyaa a success ... aameen :)
Allah Haafiz_______Hashmat
can't be together cuz he is awaiting his visa I have to be able to show i can support him when he comes so m working and cant go to pak....sorry kissi ko burra lagge par pak chali bhi jaun toh mujhe woh nah milenge he lives with family and they never give alone time always sir pe hoying lolzz
i dont know about his feelings for me i just observe his actions thats all...baaqi feelings ka alhaam toh anhin hoga woh bolenge toh pata challega na aur bolne mein aur actions mein farq ho toh woh bhi dikhta hai
cam woh tab aate hain jab woh office mein hote hain n its about midnight my tyme i dont get his undivided attention ever cuz either he is at work or napping or with family or at gym ...fone pe bhi baat karne ka din mein torr torr k max 2 hrs milte hain]
he doesnt love me as much as i love him agar karte toh woh mere liye tyme nikaalte par unhe mere liye koi fursat nahin main unke liye unke pyar k liye tarasti rehti hun but he is so busy to even notice my existence
yea we are trying to do spouse visa which has been apprived but interview date for the visa has not been set up yet by INS
we are on webcam at my night time and his day time for about 1-2 hrs
and also via txt messaging
Well he must be happy with you otherwise he would wouldn't make that much effort, he would just call you every few days. If you can't join him you will just have to wait for the interview and ensure your fully prepared.
can't be together cuz he is awaiting his visa I have to be able to show i can support him when he comes so m working and cant go to pak....sorry kissi ko burra lagge par pak chali bhi jaun toh mujhe woh nah milenge he lives with family and they never give alone time always sir pe hoying lolzz
i dont know about his feelings for me i just observe his actions thats all...baaqi feelings ka alhaam toh anhin hoga woh bolenge toh pata challega na aur bolne mein aur actions mein farq ho toh woh bhi dikhta hai
cam woh tab aate hain jab woh office mein hote hain n its about midnight my tyme i dont get his undivided attention ever cuz either he is at work or napping or with family or at gym ...fone pe bhi baat karne ka din mein torr torr k max 2 hrs milte hain]
he doesnt love me as much as i love him agar karte toh woh mere liye tyme nikaalte par unhe mere liye koi fursat nahin main unke liye unke pyar k liye tarasti rehti hun but he is so busy to even notice my existence
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now i get a bigger picture. its the fact that wives love husband more than the husband love their wives. may be its the nature of things but its not fair that only women have to give the most.
when u spent 10 days with him, what was his demeanor? did he show more love, care, attention then?
maiN Allah se aapke liye du'aa karuuNgaa k vo aap donoN ke beech bahooot saaaraa pyaar paidaa kar de aur aap ek dusre ke saath bahooot Khush raheN...aameen :)**
now i get a bigger picture. its the fact that wives love husband more than the husband love their wives. may be its the nature of things but its not fair that only women have to give the most.
when u spent 10 days with him, what was his demeanor? did he show more love, care, attention then?
maiN Allah se aapke liye du'aa karuuNgaa k vo aap donoN ke beech bahooot saaaraa pyaar paidaa kar de aur aap ek dusre ke saath bahooot Khush raheN...aameen :)
more than he shows when we're apart yaar par 10 dinon mein ek do baar insensitivity show ki par almost 99% rest of tyme he showed love attention and care and i felt like i was his world his life and eveyrthing to him but now again feel insignificant
ji please dua karein jazak-allah
allah sab ki duaein qubul farmaaiye
llxxll, some men are like that, they don't even know that women need to hear words of love and care. He sounds mature and not filmy :) Tell HIM what you expect to hear from him instead of getting insecure and crying.
And I don't agree with Mr Usmani that wives love more than husbands, wives are just vocal about their feelings while husbands are not.... that doens't mean they dont love their wives.
llxxll, some men are like that, they don't even know that women need to hear words of love and care. He sounds mature and not filmy :) Tell HIM what you expect to hear from him instead of getting insecure and crying.
And I don't agree with Mr Usmani that wives love more than husbands, wives are just vocal about their feelings while husbands are not.... that doens't mean they dont love their wives.
he vocalizes sis... he does....bas unke actions unke words se match nahin karte
.....And I don't agree with Mr Usmani that wives love more than husbands, wives are just vocal about their feelings while husbands are not.... that doens't mean they dont love their wives.
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oh...thank you for correcting me. since i'm NOT married so i don't know it first hand, obviouslt, what i heard may have been an incorrect statement. :)**
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