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I just recently came back from MI, USA after attending a wedding and I well umm managed to stop the whole mehndi festivities and the dancing shancing by crying. Yeh how embarrassing :/ Ran to the loo and then finally I come outside and I am like I am OHHKKAYYY now and then everyone is like oh ok cool and the dancing etc continues lol.
R bengali weddings reali tat bad?? =S
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I went to a Kurdish wedding - the most horrible experience! The couple had invited the entire Kurdish population in the city and the room was awfully small! We were more than 1000 people jam-packed in a room that was meant for max 400! I couldn't breath at all! There was basically no air in the hall because we were too many people! It was basically hell, which got worse when they tried to give food to the people - not enough food and those who were lucky got a small plate with some rice and chicken, very small amount. I never forget when I tried to go home, I litterally got stuck between all these people, most of them were mad because of the situation, you couldn't even hold your hand out straight because it was this packed - I don't know how I managed to get out of there sahi salamat. Usually Kurdish weddings rock but this was a terrible experience - why invite 1000s when you don't have the facilities?
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I went to a valima and the grooms side didnt give the brides side guest of honor and released the food to everyone. It was a dash for the food while the brides side was sitting there akwardly. That was just weird too see. I always wait until the mad rush dies down for food. Needless to say they were not happy.
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o my God
nice topic...
im not pakistani but here once we went to a village wedding according some guy asking my father alot plz give us honor to come...so we went with other collegue of dad..as he invited a bunch of office..
so we went...even i was kid so i didnt mind rest eating
but how they served after allwere sitting arround a room one lady came & brought a big dish full of small biscuit like coins...then i was shocked why they serve biscuit instead sweet ...even thoes biscuit was sooooooooo cheap...then was waiting to bring dish to offer & we pick...
then
she was telling to all open dress open dress!!!
then she was taking her hand to biscuit & fall of to women skirt!!!
so mom didnt let me to eat lollllllllllllllllllll
still i cant imagin how they did how!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I hate weddings that are non-segregated and where the music is so loud you have to yell to be heard. I mean it's a wedding, you're there to meet people, not listen to music!
I am seriously horrified by your post… you were expected to eat WITH YOUR HANDS!!! At a wedding reception!!! A jug of water so people could wash their hands… was soap even provided!!! I am horrified and also kinda disgusted by this. lol. I can’t believe there are people out there that think this is acceptable. I mean…you may eat with your hands at home with your own family… but dont think that is appropriate to do at a reception where guests are invited! 
Wow…
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I already listed my worst wedding experience in Mixed Beauty’s “best wedding experience” post. lol. But in general I will also say that I hate when there is not even any background music at weddings. I mean… weddings without dancing are boring to begin with in my opinion (I say this while fully knowing that at my own wedding there will not be any dancing… 
) …but then to not have any music at all??? It really takes boring to a whole other level. Iv been to a couple of those and yea.. they were not fun. We went there…ate food…and came home. Could have had a better time eating dinner at home in all honesty.
One of my 9th cousin’s (yes u read that right) wedding I attended was segregated. I didnt mind it too much because it was a “family” wedding and I was very involved in it. So there was no time to sit around and be bored. But when i attend random’s segregated weddings…ugh… not a fan of the fact that I cant even sit with my entire family at a table. I dont see them much anyways due to living far away so it is just annoying to me. Plus my dad and bros are so entertaining and I luv their company so much… having them in a separate area takes this away from me. Not cool. :nono:
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im married a bengali...and pple saying that all bengali weddings are boring is freakin scaring me! lol.
I went to one bengali wedding..it was the longest wedding ever! the guests had to be there in the late afternoon and they did the nikkah in the hall.....it was set up with rows of chairs all facing the stage and an aisle in the middle....it was nice and decent. Then the bride came out....OMG....i personally did not like how she looked....but to each their own...too red..too gold...just...shudder....
so that took an hour or two..then all the guests had to go the hall reception/foyer area, while the hall pple had to change the ENTIRE set up to include tables and dance floors....GRRR...that did it for me....number one..there were hundreds of pple standing around the foyer (they had no chairs) and they were giving out appetizers (standing with a plate of somasas, pakoras, kebabs, plus holding ur drink and managing a saree is a pain..:S)...second....the people staring and talking about me (since i was the new bride and pple wondering who i was)...one woman looked and me and gave me the "up and down"....i wanted to step on her pallu. Anyways, we were stuck in the foyer for a good 2 hours!
finally it was time for us to go back it....and then the speeches began.....then the slideshow..and then dinner..pple do not know what a line is..grrr....oh yeah...the bride changed into a complete different outfit with differetn hair and makeup..she looked 10x better, but showed too much skin...(no one wants to see ur mid-drift). but nevertheless a big improvement.
then it was time for the dances.....ok i was thinking bengali music..then they hit it up bhangra and hindi songs....THAT was the highlight of the night for me :). The bride and groom actually practised a dance routine to a hindi song....just when things were finally starting to get down and fun, we had to leave :(..lol...my inlaws are conservative when it comes to dancing...lol.
R bengali weddings reali tat bad?? =S
I've been to a few Bengali weddings and none of them have served fish there, that's pretty bizarre and also never come across the no cutlery and washing hands with jug thing.. They sound pretty backward but then again u get some Indians and Pakistanis like that as well who act just like they do 'back home.'
The no photos, no dancing thing is prob just that they were really conservative, most Bengalis in the UK (I think 90%) are Sylheti who tend to be quite old-fashioned and strict, much more so than the actual 'real' majority of Bengalis in Bangladesh lol for example I was there just recently and I literally saw only one woman in a burqa in Dhaka and just a handful wearing hijab the 10days I was there yet amongst Bengalis in the UK soooooo many of them wear it.
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My parents went to a wedding where the groom's dad had a heart attack and had to be taken away in an ambulance - and the wedding carried on as normal..
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^ so cold and so wrong.
My parents went to a wedding where the groom's dad had a heart attack and had to be taken away in an ambulance - and the wedding carried on as normal..
I am truly gob smacked. I havnt even got anything to say to that, But pure shockness!
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lol.. wow at the bengali weddings.. they seem to follow alot of different trends than us.
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Oh gosh defo a Bengali mehndi we went to - made us wait agesss for food, and they served BOILED RICE AND SALAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was really looking forward to food as I was so hungry but that's all they had!!
Generally - don't like it when a wedding invite says wedding starts at X time and you are the first guests there and no-one turns up for ages, when food is served mega late, when the wedding hosts don't go round speaking to guests/asking if everything is fine etc, when people invite too many guests and have nowhere to seat everyone
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Boiled rice, fish and salad seems like a favorite among the Bengalis.
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^ Most Bengali weddings they serve tandoori or lamb with naan, then biryani + pilau and with other little bits and pieces, it's really only the paindu ones who serve fish at weddings..
The late thing is common, even for my brother's engagement his fiance was about 2 hours late and everyone got really fed up..
A lot of things are different cos of the old Hindu influences, those weird dots on the forehead used to be common tho not anymore, also instead of Mehndi they used to do Gaye Halud where that horrible paste stuff is smeared over the bride's face and arms and make her look like she's got jaundice. That's not so common now either tho. If u look at old pics u'd be hard pressed to tell the difference between a Bengali Muslim bride and an Indian Hindu one..
It was mad.. the son was cracking jokes about how the amount of money spent had prob given his dad the heart attack..
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**I went to a moroccan wedding and........It was H O R R I B L E !!!!!!!!!!!!
We went there @ 7pm, the bride came @ 10 pm (3 boring hours) . Then everybody started dancing non-stop till 00. Then she started changing her dresses ( abt 4 ) and @ 3am they served food !
Can you imagine 7pm to 3am ? We were starving !!! **
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i wudnt mind chillling at a wedding till 3-4am be wickedd
my uncles started at 7pm and finished at 3am was wickeddd i loved evry seconddd