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why did he agree to marry the poor girl in the first place, such a coward!!
the wedding crazies
What is it about weddings that brings out the worst in people?
I'm not just talking bridezillas, though I'm sure we've seen plenty of examples of those. I'm talking about perfectly rational, laid back people turning into madmen over flower arrangements, the style of a dress, the stage setting, the date, the color ink on the invitations.
And it's not just the bride and groom...everybody and their mother needs to put their two cents in and on some occasions, give the couple and their parents utter hell for not doing things their way. And if the bride and groom and their family are perfectly happy with things, it appears that there always has to be someone who has to go and spoil the fun.
I'm not pointing fingers at anybody here or trying to be disingenuous. In my case, I was over the moon that I'd met such a good person, Alhamdullillah, and that I was going to be his wife. Getting stressed over seating charts just isn't in my DNA. I'm just curious as to why it happens and I would love to know the strategies you all employed to keep the insanity in check with your weddings (or soon to be weddings).
One thing I did was to decide on the handful of things that were really important to me (i.e. a white dress, keeping my maiden name) and sticking to those things, and compromising on other stuff to avoid any conflict.
What about the rest of you? Any advice to offer on how to keep weddings from turning into WWIII?
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that is crazy! i can imagine what the bechari girl went through when she found out he was gay....it would be such a hard story to explain to the risthey people when she's going to try to get married again...and the fact that the gay "ex husband" was her cousin is going to hurt her even more cause people will think its a bad family! i feel so bad....any update on her though? did she get married again?
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I don't know the exact details but I'll get an update from my aunt who is actually close to the family...what I don't get...and I asked my aunt this question...is that didn't they have an idea of his being gay?....apparently everyone thought something was fishy about the guy...from the way he was dancing and so forth...but since he was getting married to his cousin....at that time no one said anything...it was only after the fact that people started to put two and two together....
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I have no comments about the girl who married twice, some people are just unbelievable, mental cases! Poor Husband #2. Bechara, kya sochjata ho ga, Im going to Paki-land, Imma marry a shareef girl, who'll be all shy etc and then BANG!!! Bechara! His dream was crushed, his fantasy was killed!
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Maybe he carried on just because he had a dream wedding in mind but that he could not have if he ran of before. Crazy World!
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Mahismart, your funny! It could be, no wonder the dude was dancing like crazy!
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Well, you know, most of the boys answer, 'Main bara ho kar dulha banoon ga' whenever someone asks them what they want to be when they grow up. Being gay would kind of kill the whole thing, at least in a desi set up! ;)
What about the rest of you? Any advice to offer on how to keep weddings from turning into WWIII?
Well, tolerance is the key. People should try to be more patient as issue are bound to come up when many people are involved in a new union.
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Dont ask everyone for their opinion :) and if they offer it, listen and ignore and say that it wasn't in your budget, or just ignore.
Well, you know, most of the boys answer, 'Main bara ho kar dulha banoon ga' whenever someone asks them what they want to be when they grow up. Being gay would kind of kill the whole thing, at least in a desi set up! ;)
well he was queer so I wouldn't put it past him to think like that (with regard to dulha banoon ga ;) ) but you know, i think he thought he could live the double life, and succumbed to social pressures. But then when he was actually with the bride, that's when reality hit. I doubt he planned to ditch her the next day, I think he just wanted to escape it all when he could finally digest what happened and how hard it would be for him to spend his life like that. Not saying what he did was right, just giving some perspective.
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Here is a latest one about a bride who dumped the groom during wedding. So do you find her reasons similar to the gay groom who did the dumping in the earlier posts?
**AMBALA: The new-age Indian woman has arrived. A bride from Ambala Cantt on Monday walked out on her groom the moment she set eyes on him after
the jai mala (garlanding) ceremony, as if, in instant realisation that he wasn’t the man of her dreams. No amount of ranting and raving by the boy and his family or police intervention could bring about a change of heart.
“We tried a lot to persuade Reena but she just wouldn’t listen. She said she didn’t want to marry Dharamvir Singh because she didn’t like him. There was no way we could have forced our will on her,” said the bride’s father, Ramkishan.
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Bride dumps groom during wedding - Chandigarh - City - The Times of India
The discussion is already in swing here:
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/all-views/365549-bride-dumps-groom-during-wedding.html
WORST wedding xperiences
lool like sum1 sed in the best wedding experience thread that if it was changed to wrst there will be more stories! so...ladies (and brothers if there are ne here)..lets hear them:D
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I went to a Bengali wedding 2 years ago and the mehndi went completely wrong. Nobody was dancing, the girls were too shy. The lights kept on going off.
There was another one I went to recently at the Hilton. The groom's family had invited way too many people and there weren't enough seats. To make things worse they hadn't mentioned some people's names in the guest list. It looked really bad because we could see lots of people running back and forth.
Oh and at another wedding ( Sikh wedding) that I went to where there was no stage for the bride and groom. The bride sat on a normal table with her family and the groom sat with his brother and dad. Women weren't dancing coz they are a strict family so only the men were dancing and we sat there getting bored. It was a relief once I left that place.
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Bengali weddings are the worst, I've been to 3. At the mehndi the bride wudnt let people take pics. At the wedding at all 3 of the weddings. No music. No dancing. It felt like i was at a funeral. It was so horrible.
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I completely agree with you. I forgot to add that the actual wedding day was awful too. The food was horrible, the hall was yuck!, no music, children crying and running around.
You reminded me of another Bengali wedding. The mehndi was awful. They served boiled rice ( which tasted like rubber) with salad. I took one look at it and then looked over at my mum. She didn't want to be rude so she took some. Also all the women were wearing horrible clothes. I didn't even want to take any pictures. It was such a bad experience that I didn't bother going to the wedding ( the person who had invited me wasn't happy with me for not going).
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^ Oh my god yes! The food was absoloutly AWFUL, AND they gave one piece of chicken, and awful rice. Fish curry. And check this out, they didnt even giv cutlery. They went round with a jug of water so ppl can wash theyr hands ready to eat. Oh my.... it was AWFUL. I went to the kitchen and got my own knife n fork. like wth?!
We was literally there for an hour. It was so awful. I wil never ever go to a bengali wedding again.
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You are so lucky u got out of there after an hour. I was sneaking out when the bride's mum saw me. Anty was like " where u going? I didn't even know u were here. You're not going anywhere. Stay here" more torture for me :( Also the groom was coming from London and he was 3 hours late. I waited for an hour and then left. I'm sure he wasn't special so I didn't want to stay there for that long just to see him.
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I dont get why at weddings people cant jus have fun?! Why cant boys and girls mingle?! Whats wrong with that seriously?? Its a wedding for goodness sake! Have fun!!
I cant stand weddings that are seperated, and i cant stand weddings with out music.
ughh.. Its jus pointless, Why bother even having a wedding?! Jus have a nikkah.
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my worst was when the food ran out at a mehndi, they obviously didn't order enough in the first place and it was just so embarrassing to see the dad running around with a panicked look on his face, he was literally sweating.
another one was when too many ppl turned up and not enough seats. there was literally like over 100 ppl without any seats just standing against the wall waiting for ppl to eat so they could have their turn.
oh and iv been to a wedding where there was no music, it was sooo boring. til this day i dnt understand why there was no music. the bride wears hijab but she didnt have it on her wedding day and she wore short sleeves etc and it was a mixed wedding but for some reason she was too religious to allow music to be played... funnily enough the mehndi was mixed too and they had music playing there... all very confusing!!