I met this Pakistani lady in a party. She is in her early 30s. Good looking and with a very HOT & Handsome 26 years old guy. The way they were dancing I thought they have SOMETHING in them. Later on while chatting with her i go to know she is married and has 8 years old son. Her husband is sleeping back at home and she is here dancing & having romance with his “banda” , Rich and very Hot and she loves this “banda” of her.
Then I met this Indian girl…27 years of age. very nice and decent i found her. One fine day i invited her to my place for dinner with her boy friend. They came… apparently they are like love birds, going out together in fact living together. When i questioned her “when are you guys getting married???” , she replied," well, we love each other so much but we dont feel that we are meant to be in marriage kind of relationship. I dont think we can get into wedlock. Marriage is a big thing so i will prefer to go for arrange marriage. That is more workable"
Somebody tell me what should we call these kind of relationships, living with one person and still having an other option for the same purpose. How on the hell you can claim to be in love with a person whom you think is not suitable to live your life with and how you can still like your husband sleeping at home and you are having affair openly with an other young good looking guy.
For the first one I’ll call extra marital affair and for the second one its just they hanging out for a good time,lol
Joke apart there could be two possibilities for a married woman first she might not recieving enough attention and love from her husband or she herself is not intrested in her husband anymore,but as u mentioned indian couple to be honest if we muslim can behave so shamelessly and stupidly then why cant we expect an indian to do so.,I dont think she is in love, its not more than physical attraction and they both might has might realised it. I have heard guys saying girl friend can’t be a good wife. so they want a girl friend to be more tacky, fashionable and sexy where as want a very simple and decent wife so he has control over her. Hate this mentality..:
if you know they are wrong … then why the question? …
if you need a real “psychological” point of view. you consult a psychologist or psychiatrist. something tell me you are not really seeking that answer.
don’t want the mullah talk? … what sort of answers or speculations do you expect from a forum that is predominantly muslim and as muslims all aspects of our lives are seen through the prism of islam (mullah talk) …
Scenario 1: If the husband does not know that she's out with another man, then she's cheating on him. Surely you've heard of husbands and wives who cheat on one another. BUT if the husband knows about it, then they have an "open" marriage. There are married couples out there who mutually agree to have sexual relations with other people. Why? Only someone in that situation can tell you that. But it works for them and at the end, its none of our business.
Scenario 2: The girl might be dating the guy and may even love him......but perhaps for whatever reason, she knows that she can't marry him (maybe her parents or his parents won't approve for whatever reason). So even though she's with his now.....she knows that when it comes to marriage, she'll have to go with her parents choice and she obviously doesn't want to fight her parents (OR maybe the same could be said about him). This scenario is not unusual when it comes to desis. How many desi guys date white girls for years....and yet when it comes to marriage, they go with their mommy's choice. I know several people (guys and girls) who dated someone for few years but broke up when it came time to marriage b/c of religion (they were diff. religions). Both parties "loved" each other and enjoyed their time together....but they realized that marriage would cause too much issues within their families so they CHOSE not to pursue it. Again.....if it works for them.....it's none of our business.
To the OP, you invoke the name of God when let’s be honest, your intent is to talk behind someone’s back and judge and spread juicy gossip. If you were truly and honestly a God fearing person, as you pretend to be by invoking His name, you would just stay away from these people and move on. But here you are, attempting to dissect these peoples’ lives trying to figure out what is going on and why, my question to YOU is, why do you care, why does it matter, just stay away from them and be done with it? This is typical desi pana where you see something that is objectionable and you want to get together with a bunch of online people and engage in some backbiting, some hawww hai, some thu thu, what’s the point?
To the OP, you invoke the name of God when let's be honest, your intent is to talk behind someone's back and judge and spread juicy gossip. If you were truly and honestly a God fearing person, as you pretend to be by invoking His name, you would just stay away from these people and move on. But here you are, attempting to dissect these peoples' lives trying to figure out what is going on and why, my question to YOU is, why do you care, why does it matter, just stay away from them and be done with it? This is typical desi pana where you see something that is objectionable and you want to get together with a bunch of online people and engage in some backbiting, some hawww hai, some thu thu, what's the point?
Ain't the name of forums GupShup ? This thread serves the purpose.
