..nd this mentality of being confident independent stonrg women who drops a relationshp at the sign of any trouble is really just a selfish self-absorbed and anxiety-filled view of soemone who has no belief or confidence in themselves that they are mature enough to deal with life..
Oh, snap, someone's trying to hit below the belt. Yes, my hedonistic, independent, confident yet actually self-absorbed and anxiety-filled self is what has led me into an AWESOME marriage with an AWESOME man.
Sounds like there's much more than just the hint of trouble here, and just because life contains obstacles is no reason to dig your claws in when you're clearly in a miserable and failing situation. Families don't get along, she's embarrassed by him, reports that she's put up with lots of BS over 8 years, etc., etc. This is not a normal, healthy relationship.