Thanks all of you for your valuable suggestions and advices in my those two threads.
After my those two threads, now you people exactly know the kind of relationship iam having with my fiance.
Though now he seems guilty,etc, but deep down i know he won’t stop flirting with other females.I know that again when i would ask him about his flirting, the same scenario will happen - he losing his temper, stop talking,etc.He seems to be sensitive to such an extent where i can’t even speak to him about anything which may be bothering me about our relationship, and he isn’t able to sort things out like a mature couple would do,by talking and explaining.And since he can think of breaking off this relationship, that means he can easily live without me, and my presence in his life doesn’t hold so much of importance.
But when things are okay between us, he is very loving,sweet and caring.He makes me feel so loved,and makes me feel that he’s the best that has ever happened to me.
So what should i do?When i think of breaking it off with him,i start thinking that i will regret losing someone as loving as him,and that perhaps i can never find someone who will love me so much.
What should i do?Please suggest.
Man’s got skills! :k:
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LOL jaanwy at sexy mullah 
as for beauty queen well …ermm beauty thats something uve gotta see if ull be able to live with the rest of ure life ??? if u says he flirts ??? have u ever seen him flirt with other girls ???
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ugh seriously. How can you sit around him and let him sweet talk you when you know he flirst around? He doesn't have any respect for you and I think you should leave him. If you can put up with his flirting ways for the rest of your life then by all means stay with him. Think this through and make a choice but if I were you I'd throw him out in the rubbish pile!
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Flaring up any time you trying telling him how you feel is not him being overly sensitive. That's him being manipulative and making YOU feel guilty. If he isn't prepared to listen to you now, and by listening I don't mean obeying you or being your slave, I mean taking your feelings into consideration, he won't after marriage either. Are you going to stop telling him how you feel in order to avoid him not ignoring you? Cause I am sure it will come to that point where you keep your feelings to yourself cause you won't be able to deal with the backlash of 'expressing' yourself.
Also, be weary of the fact that he threatens to leave you. Even if he says that he will be reconsidering his decision to marry you, be weary. Be very, very, very weary. Cause when you get married, he will probably tell you that he didn't want to marry you, or was forced to marry you or that he felt sorry for you or say some other emotionally traumatic things.
This is a snapshot of what your marriage will be like.
Also, how long is he loving and caring for? Keep things in balance. Don't wipe out the horrible things he does for the moments of kindness you see.
Ultimately, the decision is yours. But if he is already chasing other girls online, he will mostlikely do that afterwards too. He's only guilty cause you found out.
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Once ur married he will say that he will leave you.
Please understand....any guy who says/does this, run as fast as you can. u rally dont want to be stuck in a marriage with him, it's a million itmes harder to leave when ur married
Other then BQ every here can see situation clearly.
Menaz/sara really good advice.
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Talk to your parents, other elders. Do istakhara, talk to an imam. Pray. There is no reason why you should put up with his behavior. If he is not willing to change, its better to move on and i know it will be very difficult now but later when you find somone who treats you good you will realize what a mistake this guy was.
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Don't make allah work over time.
What is there to ask from God ??? that "is this guy an a$$ or am I hallucinating?"
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People change. Commitments shouldn't be thrown away just like that. i know its an engagement and not a marriage but to me it is a commitment and she should do her part.
People change. Commitments shouldn't be thrown away just like that. i know its an engagement and not a marriage but to me it is a commitment and she should do her part.
My part?What should i be doing?What's my part?
this is true, if he can consider leaving you, he doesnt care as much as he should. you said too you know he will never stop flirting, another example of him not caring enough. i think you can do better.
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I am not sure if you are ready for marriage yourself. Please do not take offense but consider this seriously. You aren't even able to see that how horrible this person is treating you...etc...and still questioning what to do. We don't know both sides of the story....but what you have written it seems he is unworthy. Why don't you take a time out and think about what YOU want in life, in marriage..etc. Communication/understanding/working together...etc...2 way love...TRUST are key in a marriage. If you honestly have reason to believe that he flirts and will continue doing so after marriage, that in itself is a BIG red flag. WHY would you even consider spending your life with such a person. Have you talked and discussed how hurt it makes u to see him flirt with other girls and is unacceptable? Bigger issue is that you can not even talk to him and explain your thoughts/feeling/etc....that is not healthy. If you do decide to stay with him, make it clear that you have to work as a team, and that he should brush you off...get mad when you say what you feel...etc....and can not play this childish game of threatening to leave anytime there is an issue.
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BQ discuss this with ur mom, dad or any other sensible elder u trust can handle well n guide u right. otherwise if u know deep inside that things will stay hard with him then they will b. ur intuitions r guiding u n warning u. just gather ur strength n listen to them.
i feel atleast with me gut feelings r mostly right.
one thing u never explained is how he flirts n how do u find out ever time he does that esp when he lives so far apart? wat r ur sources of knowing abt it? Also another thing to note n think abt is he acts this way only with u or with other ppl around him as well.(acting insensitve to queries)
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Casanova!
Don't make allah work over time. What is there to ask from God ??? that "is this guy an a$$ or am I hallucinating?"
LOL
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This is a historical moment,
1-u actually laughed.
2-u laughed at my joke.
tears in his eyes
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Seriously, its your chance to take. A commitment shouldn't be taken lightly but if this guy is threatening to leave you, is it worth it? Is he worth it? Be strong about whatever you decide to do.
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Threads like this make me feel that the Life forum is a big joke. Everything you say goes up in the air. After a thousand replies later, there is a new thread with exactly the same topic by the same auther or we have a new question in the same thread with the very first post rephrased in different words. Not blowing the author off or anything, just saying...
I don't know what other factors are playing a role in this particular relationship but the author can't see clearly even with so many signs that its not going anywhere. Would you want to be confused for the rest of your life or would you trust your instincts when its not too late?
Aww beautyqueen I really feel for you!
Some relationships are like a bad hand of poker, you have to 'fold' before the stakes get too high. At the moment the stakes are pretty high, your engaged, people know, you don't want to be embarrassed by it breaking down etc.
Imagine what it would be like dealing with this when you are married and have children, the emotional investment may be too high for you to consider leaving. You may end up having to live unhappily for most of your life because you are too afraid to make a tough decision now. Not a nice situation for you at all.