sister or not, I can understand why it might be tempting or inappropriate. My aunt used to do something that I particularly found unsettling. I just don't understand why she used to wear clothes that had deeper than normal necklines and the pallu was never used to hide any accidental cleavage but it made it more eye catching and she used to do that in front of her brothers like they aren't human and male. I was female and even I found it inappropriate. So if the OP finds a bra or even worse nothing under his sister's see through salwar kameez, I don't see it as his fault.
Mom telling his sister is best and less uncomfortable. I hope the OP shows up again.
Frankly, given the situation these days and frustration in our society I will never allow a brother and sister to share a portion alone, no matter how good or religious the family is. I will keep the women folk in the ground portion and men in the upper portion, daughters/sisters should always be around their mother, PERIOD.
That is not bizarre if you think about it. The other thread in parenting section(about brother and sisters) might change your view .
So one freak brother decides to do something to his sister we decide to keep siblings apart? That is like saying one guy assaults his wife so we decide to ban marriage.
What a ridicolous over the top generalizing notion.
No need to jump on generalizing, yes like we judge people sometimes to make an opinion , likewise generalizing may help understand the issues or situations.
I am sure, people living in Pakistan understand this much better. The situ in rural areas is also not much prettier.
No need to jump on generalizing, yes like we judge people sometimes to make an opinion , likewise generalizing may help understand the issues or situations.
I am sure, people living in Pakistan understand this much better. The situ in rural areas is also not much prettier.
So now people in Pakistan, especially, rural areas are into disgusting taboo and haram stuff. Got it.
You're a good poster whose posts I like reading so I am surprised at your viewpoint.
So one freak brother decides to do something to his sister we decide to keep siblings apart? That is like saying one guy assaults his wife so we decide to ban marriage.
What a ridicolous over the top generalizing notion.
Who is keeping them apart, I think you misunderstood the whole point.
Also in my post there was no generalization. I talked about myself, what I will do given the situation, I don't know how you perceived it as over the top generalizing notion?
Please, try to understand what i am pointing at. I know what ive seen and am talking about. Its so overwhelmingly disturbing. And yes, as op is in Pakistan, i was also in a sense generlizing it.
If I ever thought a male in my family could be so easily 'tempted' I'd say he needs a psychiatrist, not that the girl should be covering up more..
Normal guys would have boundaries in their head when it comes to this sort of thing but I guess if the onus is always put on the woman to change HER behaviour some end up with a skewed idea of right and wrong..
The guys in these situations need THEIR heads sorting out.. If you think seperating siblings or telling the girls to just cover up more + more is the answer what happens when the boys move outside to the real world??
If I ever thought a male in my family could be so easily 'tempted' I'd say he needs a psychiatrist, not that the girl should be covering up more..
Normal guys would have boundaries in their head when it comes to this sort of thing but I guess if the onus is always put on the woman to change HER behaviour some end up with a skewed idea of right and wrong..
The guys in these situations need THEIR heads sorting out.. If you think seperating siblings or telling the girls to just cover up more + more is the answer what happens when the boys move outside to the real world??
I am surprised this thread went on for pages! If the OP really wanted a solution he would've done it easily by talking to his sister or mother. It didn't require so much of attention.
I am an only sister and have 3 elder brothers. I was always careful of my dressing, yes i walk around without my duppata in front of them but never have i worn any see through, tight fitting or revealing clothes in front of them. It has more to do with your own preference on modesty which goes for the brothers too. They have always been elder brotherly to me and loved and protected same way. I don't remember my brothers ever noticing me particularly due toh dressing. Only once i got ready for a party and my youngest brother told me 'koi aur kapre pehen lo' .. I never asked what the problem was but him saying was enough that something i didnt realize was wrong with the dress so i changed it.
Same is for you, simply talk to her if you care else dont make your sister a piece of mockery on a public forum!
I am surprised this thread went on for pages! If the OP really wanted a solution he would've done it easily by talking to his sister or mother. It didn't require so much of attention.
I am an only sister and have 3 elder brothers. I was always careful of my dressing, yes i walk around without my duppata in front of them but never have i worn any see through, tight fitting or revealing clothes in front of them. It has more to do with your own preference on modesty which goes for the brothers too. They have always been elder brotherly to me and loved and protected same way. I don't remember my brothers ever noticing me particularly due toh dressing. Only once i got ready for a party and my youngest brother told me 'koi aur kapre pehen lo' .. I never asked what the problem was but him saying was enough that something i didnt realize was wrong with the dress so i changed it.
Same is for you, simply talk to her if you care else dont make your sister a piece of mockery on a public forum!
Actually i am suprised too, People are free to give thier opinions on me i dont really care. but i posted to get a solution and not mock her, anyway daffyduck you suggest that i should talk her about it. which i already have and you should know its different in every house as a brother its awkward for me to talk to her directly about this because i do not really have very friendly relationship with my sister. And if u read the pervious post talking to her did not go very well for me. I thought she would understand but instead she freaked out on me. So anymore suggestions you have when talking did not work for me?
And i do not really understand, what is the real problem in it if i only want my sister to cover up more. She is my sister i care for her, for her modesty, what is wrong in that? And i only wanted to get a solution for the problem on forum because nobody knows me here.
For everyone who thinks because he is the mehram, she can run half naked around.. WRONG! .. Being a mehram doesnt imply you just wander around in whatever suits you. One should always dress appropriate to the environment and the people around you. You wouldnt wear a short skirt to the bazar in Pakistan (if you're sane) likewise no sibling is interested in seeing their siblings undergarments.
OP, you made this into such a huge thing. You could simply have told your sister to dress differently. I dont know whether you're a big bro or lil bro, either way the issue didnt demand this much of ho-ha. And I've not read everything here, but read the first reaction of your sister and its completely weird. Like someone said, she seems to be an attention seeker, sorry to say so.
Chest hair by itself doesn’t make men attractive unless they are really good looking and have a great physique to begin with.
When some of us say we find chest hair sexy, we have some very attractive or idealized men in mind. And to be frank those guys will look good shirtless whether they have chest hair or not !
Chest hair doesn’t do anything on an average male body. Almost every young man has it and I don’t see any woman being fascinated.
