Re: What is the easiest way of ending our relationship?
"I am not happy with my wife" is the most common excuse a pathetic married man uses to start an affair. Please be cautious and think logically. This relationship won't go any where. Plus, if he leaves his wife for you, both of you will feel guilty at some point in your lives.
Change your phone #. Block his e-mail address so he won't be able to e-mail you and you wont get all emotional after reading his emails. Bottom line, you don't have to explain anything or give a reason for breakup. Just cut all ties, Period.
and best of luck.
Re: What is the easiest way of ending our relationship?
Yes, I agree that one day she has to get married…but I don’t think she should get married to try and get over this…
As for telling your husband…what do others think?
I am not too sure…a husband can be good, but I don’t know how many could cope well with finding out something like this. But thats just my opinion…
Re: What is the easiest way of ending our relationship?
A friend of mine used to say that even if no physical affection was there....a friendship/relationship which is so strong emotionally is almost the same as adultery...........because the emotions and feelings are forever present...the physical act of love is shortlived...
I agree even to this day on this one.....
Re: What is the easiest way of ending our relationship?
hence the need for NO freemixing!-I'm not saying that i'm all perfect and stuff-cos i'm not- i got plenty of female mates-and we chill lot of the time....but stuff like this makes u realise why its all prohibited- one thing leads 2 another and stuff like tht
Re: What is the easiest way of ending our relationship?
And...I don't want to sound like an old fogey or anything....(Hey...I'm only 26!) BUT in todays cyber age...there is more risk of "falling" for someone thorugh email/chat etc.
Sure, I was born and grew up in the UK, but the youngsters of today make me feel like I grew up in a totally different country......
Hamareh din mein all you had were crushes and very few girls/guys used to really "meet up" the ones that did were the ones that were either daring or didn't care what the jamaat said!
Now...every day you see marriages between people who met on the net and relationships which are based totally in cyberland!
I repeat we are only human hainah?
Re: What is the easiest way of ending our relationship?
Another thing Sanaam999, I agree with everyone in saying no contact whatso ever...He is not WORTH it....NOT worth spoiling your akharat (life after death) over...If he really LOVED u, he would have been with YOU(I saw that on Oprah)...It makes sense doesnt it...You have to make sure that YOU as a Person , are not treated in such a demeaning way...You Deserve a Man who would Love you enough to wanna be with you forever...not on the side, by the way kinda way. Whatever he says...RESPECT yourself enough to do the right thing...again HE is Not worth it...Not Worthy of you.....ASK ALLAH FOR FORGIVENESS...Inshallah things would work out for you...and pray for him too...may Allah show him the right path. You are a Good person to be wanting to end it before it gets out of your hands...
Re: What is the easiest way of ending our relationship?
sanam999 by the looks of things the guy is not honest with u .If he was then he would have married u n if he was sincere with his wife he would have never entr into a relationship with u.He is simply playing u.Get rid of him,even if he is honest with u then he is a very confused person n he will never be able to take of u.Honest peoples r always confident in every decision they make in their life n thats why i dont think he is honest with u.The simple thing to do is tell him the reality n then completly isolate u,r self from him.
Re: What is the easiest way of ending our relationship?
I think the best thing for you to do is to talk to him and explain why you need to end this relationship. He might try to fight it, give you a million reasons why he needs you to be in his life, etc etc... but you need to stay strong, and keep reminding yourself that you are doing the right thing. After the conversation, you need to stop all contact with him. It'll be really hard in the beginning, especially if you are really close friends, and you are used to telling him everything... but you need to do it, because being friends will only bring you back to square one. Make sure that you have told him that you are going to stop talking to him, and that if he cares about you, to give you the space and time that you need.
Theres no easy way to do it, and it will be painful no matter what. But what will ease the pain is knowing that you did it in a respectful manner (by being honest with him), and that you are doing the right thing in the long run.
Re: What is the easiest way of ending our relationship?
Thats not even a relationship hun, its a mess!!! And the sooner you get out of it, the better. BTW does his wife know you talk to him? Have you ever talked to her? If she doesnt even know then he IS cheating on her with you and you are partly to blame.
BTW read my thread about how to communicate something emotional and read LI's replies, follow his steps.
Re: What is the easiest way of ending our relationship?
You spoke to him on the phone just once, and the rest of your communication has been text messaging, and other electronic ways? And he is telling you that he'd like to leave his wife for you?
Re: What is the easiest way of ending our relationship?
there’s nothing to break.. that’s not a relationship.. he’s just having a good time with you and possibly many others.. just stop txting or e-mailing him.. chances are he won’t even notice for a while.. and when he does.. he’ll just get another idiot to fall for such a ‘relationship’
