My situation is a bit different but if my children were in school I'd still prefer to stay at home, and learn and do all the house chores I always wanted to do; I'd make gourmet everyday; I'd master all the desi dishes; I'd learn cake decorating; I'd sew curtains, cushion covers and quilts; I'd polish the spoons; I'd do craft and so many other things....
I personally haven't seen many middle class or upper middle class women working 9 to 5 even if their kids are in school etc, for example, my husband's boss's wife doesn't go to work, she does house chores and makes handmade jewellery as a hobby.
Respect.
That's how it should be, sis. Woman can do many things without having to do the 9 to 5. I know a few ladies who do consulting and telecommuting from home, or work part time and volunteer..they have a a terrific balance in life.
yea some career girls do have balance. But whats your deal? 1001 posts on GS complaining about Pakistani culture and relationships is not the definition of balance. Balance is more about having different facets of your life in order and generally not complaining about life. Seriously, I don't know your deal but need to take it down a notch.
Do you live with me that you know what balance I or anyone else here has? I could provide you with a schedule of my week's activities but I'm not in the habit of boasting about how high-hitting my lifestyle is or how much money I role in, unlike some here.
I think MOST career girls do live a fairly balanced lifestyle. I think men get threatened by this, call them feminists as an insult, and then taunt them with how sorry they feel for them not being married in the future.
[note] Guys and gals, like how hard is it to have a discussion with pointing fingers at each other...especially about life outside of GS. Please stick to the topic instead of tu tu mey mey :ASA:. Thank you. [/note]
Do you live with me that you know what balance I or anyone else here has? I could provide you with a schedule of my week's activities but I'm not in the habit of boasting about how high-hitting my lifestyle is or how much money I role in, unlike some here.
I think MOST career girls do live a fairly balanced lifestyle. I think men get threatened by this, call them feminists as an insult, and then taunt them with how sorry they feel for them not being married in the future.
Am the one who is threatened here or is it you? I am going to praise the traditional version of Pakistani women, you don't need to read into that at all. If a career girl is living the balanced lifestyle that is good on them, but I see the stay at home mums doing some amazing things.
Straight up, I'd rather be talking to a work at home mum about her day to day life, even the most mundane aspects of their lives, than to be arguing over the benefits of the third wave feminism. At least I could respect the housework.
Your comments are in no way benign. You threaten women with singlehood for the rest of their life if they don't come to your side. You belittle conversation material of educated women while other men here complain that gori girls are more intellectual than desi girls and why couldn't desi girls be more interesting. You are in no way talking about your innocent preferences. You try to brainwash women into thinking it is better they never put themselves at par with people like yourself because then it would threaten your job security if fewer women settled for perpetual housework.
That's OK pak-one...I read your comment in the other thread, and this is what I wrote: You both make some valid points. You have a great discussion going on.
I dont see why most independent girls here only equate housework to cleaning. There is alot a woman at home can do. She can start her own busienss from home, she can do some DIY, or do an online course. You dont have to limit yourself to the monotonous and you sure as hell don't have to label everyone as a "freeloader". That borders on the plain offensive!
I am so offended that people think that my job as a mother and a housewife is dull, boring and makes me a free loader. I think it makes my husband a free loader, since i devote 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to him, our daughter and our house. I never get a break, while those who go to work, can get a break when they come home. I wake up several times a night for my daughter, i make sure my husband comes home to a clean house, he has clean laundary and fresh food on the table each day.
I am so offended that people think that my job as a mother and a housewife is dull, boring and makes me a free loader. I think it makes my husband a free loader, since i devote 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to him, our daughter and our house. I never get a break, while those who go to work, can get a break when they come home. I wake up several times a night for my daughter, i make sure my husband comes home to a clean house, he has clean laundary and fresh food on the table each day.
Me, a free loader? I think not!
well done Ira! I agree :) Housewifes never take a break! its a 24 hour job!
Chup ho jao!
