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i wouldnt mind a small wedding as long as it is extremely well organized with a beautiful setup all my loved ones and some really nice photos to reminisce on the special memories..
^ Same
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This thread was about your 'reaction' if you were subjected to such a wedding.......the turn that the discussion has taken is an other topic.....and should be discussed in a separate thread..
thank you....
the thread is growing organically, dude... so long as its not people being rude to each other or talking trash, i don't think you can check conversation in mid-flow. and if it matters, i believe it was something you said that gently redirected the conversation, so i don't see the prblem.
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peace 
Now you are the MOD of this place…so…
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I would be extremely happy to have a very small and intimate wedding - bride, groom and closest family members & closest friends only.
There is no need to feed the masses and put on a show when the reality is that people will always find something to pick at. It's your day - if you want something big and grand then that's great you should do exactly that. But if someone wants to do something small why does it automatically seem cheap? When you find the perfect partner, and you have your family support, getting married is the most important thing to you, not the big lavish party and the pointless one wear extravagant designer outfit.
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i will also be happy, as kam kharch balanasheen...
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i will also be happy, as kam kharch balanasheen...
but yar...we get married only once...so there are lot of dreams and plannings no?
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- id be quite happy…
2)again quite happy with it
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I was just thinking the other day..
what if you end up having a very very very simple wedding.......by that i mean
only the two immediate family members..lets say 30-40 people.. there were lots of guests but the other than my family, his family, and some relatives, i didn't know them so it was 30-40 to me. Only simple clothes [normal party wear..nothing designer or bridal kaam wala jora]** the clothes were fancy but not a bridal** No big hall booked tick No grand feast tick No jewellery transfers** just our rings and the small set i was wearing from his side** No Suits/Joras transfers tick (i gave his mum a suit though and some jewellery) No Jahaiz tick No Bari/Vari tick No movie/professional photography tick (my brother took the photos)
basically its just like anyother family get together....
1.)What will be the extent of emotional and psychologicala trauma that you will face?? ** Put yourself** into that position.......what will be your feelings??
and
**2.)what if all the money that was to be spent for the things i mentioned, is given to the couple so that they can begin their new life??
Please answer both questions..thank you :D **
I did not face any trauma. In fact, as someone who is always organising things for once it was nice for something to happen in my life where I didn't care how it was happening, just that it happened. The year leading up to it, was in the GS Bridal forum all the time, so I was concerned with my outfit, the hall, finding a photography etc; it's not like I didn't care. I thought I would want a reception in the UK later on but I didn't! I was happy enough with that in the end.
I'm still waiting to see that money! But nah, I'm definitely glad my parents weren't burdened with paying for all the bells and whistles since I don't think it would have made much difference to my happiness. I'm sure his parents feel the same.
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**1.)What will be the extent of emotional and psychologicala trauma that you will face??
**i want my wedding to be lots of halla gulla. if its going to be simple then i'll be really really upset...By halla gulla i dont mean expensive clothes, halls etc etc...but the environment which is created coz of the guests when they are there to stay over with you.
2.)what if all the money that was to be spent for the things i mentioned, is given to the couple so that they can begin their new life??
yeah good but still i'll be really upset that wedding wasnot that much of fun
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wouldnt mind, never been fond of big lavish weddings anyways but pictures are a must!
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1) ... that would be my dream wedding, the amount people spend on weddings disgusts me and i don't see the point, like Jolie said, no one will care or remember how big your wedding was after a while. having said that "immediate family members" is more near 100 than 30/40 in my case hehe, in all, no trauma for me, it would be perfect. we really need to break with some unnecessary traditions and i hope the future generations will be aware of that
2) it would make sense because it would so help the newly wed and young couple to start their life : buy a car, a house, invest somewhere, give to charity
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I can do without the jewelry exchange and suits/joras/jahez. I don’t mind if the guest list isn’t too big (as long as I get to invite my closest friends in addition to my immediate family).
I am not compromising on my bridal jora/bridal make-up however. 
I want to look like a bride. My outfit doesn’t necessarily have to be designer or very expensive but it should be a bridal outfit and I should look good in it. I also want to get married in a nice place so if not a big banquet hall then a nice lawn or garden. I want a professional photoshoot too. These 3 things I won’t do without.
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1) ... that would be my dream wedding, the amount people spend on weddings disgusts me and i don't see the point, like Jolie said, no one will care or remember how big your wedding was after a while. having said that "immediate family members" is more near 100 than 30/40 in my case hehe, in all, no trauma for me, it would be perfect. we really need to break with some unnecessary traditions and i hope the future generations will be aware of that
2) it would make sense because it would so help the newly wed and young couple to start their life : buy a car, a house, invest somewhere, give to charity
Good post!
I actually believe that things aren't improving though...as time moves on, people are getting more and more 'competitive' unfortuately, which is a real shame...weddings should be about the couple, not the outside world.
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I would be devastated.
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:k:…someone bold enough to admit the truth…
what confuses me is…the extent of enthusiasm is wedding forum…and people freaking out about table cloth, matching of furniture with jora with stage…the minutest of the stuff…and then in this thread…most people say “Oh i will be ok with simple one…infact i love it”…
i don’t undrstand this conflicting viewpoint…
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not everyone fusses…
discriminationnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn
again generalizingggg
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not everyone fusses..... discriminationnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn again generalizingggg
Look around at the wedding forum.......you will know what i am talking about....
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but tht is not like EVERYONE 
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o'cmon Nomica, don't insinuate we're hypocrits, in fact my inlaws to be want a big wedding because my fiancé is the only son and his sister's wedding was teenie tynie but I'm trying the best I can to keep it reasonable